Breakups and Breakthroughs

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro  01:30 The importance of compatibility & chemistry  03:20 Why do we worship chemistry in a relationship? 05:30 You see chemistry before you see compatibility  07:00 Is it chemistry? 08:00 Attraction vs. activation of your nervous system 09:00 Chemistry doesn't screen for compatibility  10:30 So what is compatibility? 17:00 The sweet spot between compatibility & chemistry  1...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro  00:30 The Impact Of A Breakup 02:00 Looking After Your Body 04:00 Your Physical Wellness Impacts Your Breakup 06:00 Emotional Regulation  07:00 Supporting Yourself Emotionally Through Your Actions or Environment  09:30 Create A New Routine  12:30 What's Helping You Through Your Breakup? Share Your Thoughts With Me! 12:50 Ways You Can Get More Support In Your Breakup  14:10...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro  00:30 You get a text from your ex 01:30 Here's what it doesn't mean 03:00 Here's what it probably is 04:00 If they want to repair, they will lead with that 07:57 Biggest mistakes people make  09:45 What to do when you get a message from your ex 12:00 If you want to reply- think about this 14:00 Be gentle with yourself 17:00 Outro    One-on-One 8 Week Coaching: https://www....

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:25 You don't need closure to start healing  01:50 What is closure? 03:00 Closure doesn't magically get rid of your pain 04:20 Does healing require closure? 05:30 Incomplete emotional lifecycle 07:00 What happens when you don't get to complete the emotional lifecycle 08:20 Understanding a situation doesn't always create emotional regulation  09:40 There's nothing wrong wi...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:45 Practical steps to impliment what you are learning 03:00 First scan if the information/advice is for you 03:15 How can I impliment this in small ways? 07:00 Look at the cause and the effect  09:00 How can you adjust your own decisions and actions based on what's working?  11:45 Actually plan then changes you want to make  13:30 SMART Goals  15:00 Closing thoughts  15:...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 02:20 Culture Shock 04:15 Different parts of you come online when you are in a different situation 05:00 Anchor routines- how they help ground you during times of transition  07:00 Planning helps you process, stabalize, and heal  07:30 The importance of looking after your human  09:00 Relearn who you are and what you want when you are in periods of transition  13:00 Think a...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:30 How I fell into the self-improvment trap  03:00 The value of healing 04:00 Healing through relationships  08:00 Healing doesn't have to heavy all the time 10:00 Find balance   One-on-One 8 Week Coaching: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/get-over-your-ex-8-week-program Connection Call: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall Website: www.shiftyourstory.net

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:30 You know they aren't good for you... 01:20 It's not about logic  02:30 Top #3 reasons you go back to unhealthy relationships 03:00 Withdrawal  04:20 Missing someone isn't proof that they were right for you 04:40 Familiar pain feels safer than uncertainty  06:20 Attachment to what the relationship could be 07:30 How identity impacts your ability to let them go  07:40 P...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro  00:30 Why you keep wondering how long it takes to get over your ex 01:00 The myth of the timeline 03:00 Let go of the pressure of the timeline- even if it's just for the length of this episode 04:00 Identity shifts 06:10 What I'm looking at to determine how long it will take you go get over your ex 06:30 How attached you are 08:00 Creating closure 11:00 What actions are yo...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:30 When you are torn between staying or leaving  02:10 How do you figure out what's best for you? 03:00 Navigating polar opinions  03:50 These extremes are not a solution- they are a coping mechanism 04:35 Does this align with my core values? 07:30 How often are your core values being upheld? 08:40 Is this a moment or is this a pattern? 12:00 Signs it's a pattern 13:00 W...

00:00 Intro 03:00 What is healing? Spoiler- it's not being perfect 04:00 Signs you're not healing 05:00 Awareness is important- but not enough 06:00 So what is healing? 08:10 The importance of getting honest with ourselves 12:10 What do I do next? 15:00 Healing doesn't just happen in isolation  17:30 How to chat with me  19:05 Outro      One-on-One 8 Week Coaching: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/g...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:50 Why do we distract ourselves? 03:00 You feel more in control  05:00 Social reward  06:00 Distracting doesn't help you process 07:50 What does healing look like? 10:30 Create small pockets to be still 12:00 Get honest with yourself  12:30 Stop rushing to replace  13:40 It probably won't be comfortable at first- that's ok! 15:00 How do you know if you are healing? 16:20...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro  00:30 How do revenge fantasies show up? 02:00 Eventually we will get stuck in the revenge fantasy 02:20 Why do we have revenge fantasies? 02:40 Validation 02:50 Acknowledgement and empathy 03:05 Wanting to feel chosen 03:50 Revenge fantasies are normal 05:00 Why do we get revenge fantasies? 07:00 But doesn't wanting to prove someone wrong drive you? 07:40 The cost of the f...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:20 My experience with 'almost relationships' 01:50 What almost relationships look like in real life 02:30 Why its so difficult to move forward from these types of relationships 02:50 Did I do something? 03:00 Potential vs. reality 03:40 Attachment  04:30 You aren't being dramatic 05:00 The hidden grief of situationships 06:06 Trap #1 - Romantacizing the Relationship 08:3...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:00 Mixed messaging when it comes to breakups 02:30 Why it's important to stabalize before you consider glowing up 02:50 What's actually happening during a breakup 04:30 It's like remodeling during a hurricane 07:00 Why this backfires- It creates avoidance 07:50 Reason #2 - It creates self-judgement 09:15 Number #3 - It disconnects you from yourself  10:30 How do you stab...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro  00:30  02:04 The fear that keeps you stuck in relationship purgatory  03:15 Signs to keep fighting  03:20 Consistency & Kindness 05:10 Internal hesitation due to past experiences  08:15 They want to work on the relationship with you  09:45 This is a season, not a compatibility issue  12:00 Signs it's time to walk away 12:05 Chronic Confusion 13:30 Avoiding comittment conve...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:30 Have you ever felt the urge to play it cool? 01:38 Why do we feel like we have to be easy going? 02:00 How playing it cool is an attempt at self-protection 03:25 How it starts to create problems in dating 05:15 Anxiety kicks up when you're trying to hard to be laid back 06:30 At what point are you trying to control your image more than build connection? 07:30 It's eas...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro  00:30 He really likes you…but he's not ready for a relationship. 02:11 What we do when we hear, "I'm not ready" 03:00 When he says he's not ready, he actually doesn't want to be in a relationship with you 03:40 He wants the benefits without the commitment 4:00 Could he genuinely not be ready for a relationship? 6:00 When someone needs a bit of time, they give context and a...

Timestamps: :30 Intro 3:00 why people go on second dates 3:45 3 questions start 4:00 Question #1 5:20 What second dates should be built off of 6:30 how has this person had an affect on my safety and security? 6:47 Question #2 7:30 Did I feel a sense of curiosity and connection? 8:40 are you saying yes to someone you don't actually like? 9:50 If you're feeling burnt out from dating, up the discernm...

Timestamps: :30 Intro 1:30 why its so hard to move forward when you believe your ex is your soulmate 4:40 what are you making your strong feelings or experiences mean? 6:00 peaks do not make a partnership 8:00 They aren't your soulmate if they don't reciprocate 11:00 We don't need to add on the pain 12:00 How fear affects how we perceive "the one" 15:00 My take on soulmates 15:50 the downside of s...

Timestamps: :30 Intro 3:00 How obsessing at the start of a relationship has shown up for me 06:00 Are they getting priority position without earning it? 07:12 Become aware of your patterns 09:30 "The Chase" 10:30 The importance of loving yourself and viewing yourself as the prize 11:00 What have your patterns been in relationships? 12:20 The Halo Effect 14:00 Are you ignoring red flags or incompat...

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Timestamps: 00:30 Intro 01:40 Your attachment style isn't set in stone 03:20 A review of the attachment styles  03:45 Secure attachment style  05:30 Anxious attchment style  09:20 Avoidant attachment style 12:50 Fearful avoidant attachment style  14:50 Advice for all the attachment styles  18:00 Outro Interested in working with me one-on-one? Book a connection call here  ⬇️ https://www.shiftyourst...

Timestamps: 00:30 Intro 01:00 How I've been stuck in routine lately 03:00 What I've started to change 05:30 What does it mean to "do it for the plot?" 07:00 What are you not doing in your life because it feels uncomfortable? 09:00 Don't take life so seriously 11:00 Outro Interested in working with me one-on-one? Book a connection call here  ⬇️ https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall Learn mo...

Timestamps 00:30 Intro 01:30 How self abandonment shows up, where it starts, how to recognize it when it comes up, and what to do about it 03:00 Self-abandonment may make sense in some contexts, but not all contexts 03:35 How self-abandonment shows up in our lives 05:20 The origins of self-abandonment 11:00 How self-abandonment shapes your relationships 12:00 Signs you are abandoning yourself 13:0...