Breakups and Breakthroughs

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro  00:30 Why you keep wondering how long it takes to get over your ex 01:00 The myth of the timeline 03:00 Let go of the pressure of the timeline- even if it's just for the length of this episode 04:00 Identity shifts 06:10 What I'm looking at to determine how long it will take you go get over your ex 06:30 How attached you are 08:00 Creating closure 11:00 What actions are yo...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:30 When you are torn between staying or leaving  02:10 How do you figure out what's best for you? 03:00 Navigating polar opinions  03:50 These extremes are not a solution- they are a coping mechanism 04:35 Does this align with my core values? 07:30 How often are your core values being upheld? 08:40 Is this a moment or is this a pattern? 12:00 Signs it's a pattern 13:00 W...

00:00 Intro 03:00 What is healing? Spoiler- it's not being perfect 04:00 Signs you're not healing 05:00 Awareness is important- but not enough 06:00 So what is healing? 08:10 The importance of getting honest with ourselves 12:10 What do I do next? 15:00 Healing doesn't just happen in isolation  17:30 How to chat with me  19:05 Outro      One-on-One 8 Week Coaching: https://www.shiftyourstory.net/g...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:50 Why do we distract ourselves? 03:00 You feel more in control  05:00 Social reward  06:00 Distracting doesn't help you process 07:50 What does healing look like? 10:30 Create small pockets to be still 12:00 Get honest with yourself  12:30 Stop rushing to replace  13:40 It probably won't be comfortable at first- that's ok! 15:00 How do you know if you are healing? 16:20...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro  00:30 How do revenge fantasies show up? 02:00 Eventually we will get stuck in the revenge fantasy 02:20 Why do we have revenge fantasies? 02:40 Validation 02:50 Acknowledgement and empathy 03:05 Wanting to feel chosen 03:50 Revenge fantasies are normal 05:00 Why do we get revenge fantasies? 07:00 But doesn't wanting to prove someone wrong drive you? 07:40 The cost of the f...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:20 My experience with 'almost relationships' 01:50 What almost relationships look like in real life 02:30 Why its so difficult to move forward from these types of relationships 02:50 Did I do something? 03:00 Potential vs. reality 03:40 Attachment  04:30 You aren't being dramatic 05:00 The hidden grief of situationships 06:06 Trap #1 - Romantacizing the Relationship 08:3...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:00 Mixed messaging when it comes to breakups 02:30 Why it's important to stabalize before you consider glowing up 02:50 What's actually happening during a breakup 04:30 It's like remodeling during a hurricane 07:00 Why this backfires- It creates avoidance 07:50 Reason #2 - It creates self-judgement 09:15 Number #3 - It disconnects you from yourself  10:30 How do you stab...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro  00:30  02:04 The fear that keeps you stuck in relationship purgatory  03:15 Signs to keep fighting  03:20 Consistency & Kindness 05:10 Internal hesitation due to past experiences  08:15 They want to work on the relationship with you  09:45 This is a season, not a compatibility issue  12:00 Signs it's time to walk away 12:05 Chronic Confusion 13:30 Avoiding comittment conve...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro 00:30 Have you ever felt the urge to play it cool? 01:38 Why do we feel like we have to be easy going? 02:00 How playing it cool is an attempt at self-protection 03:25 How it starts to create problems in dating 05:15 Anxiety kicks up when you're trying to hard to be laid back 06:30 At what point are you trying to control your image more than build connection? 07:30 It's eas...

Timestamps: 00:00 Intro  00:30 He really likes you…but he's not ready for a relationship. 02:11 What we do when we hear, "I'm not ready" 03:00 When he says he's not ready, he actually doesn't want to be in a relationship with you 03:40 He wants the benefits without the commitment 4:00 Could he genuinely not be ready for a relationship? 6:00 When someone needs a bit of time, they give context and a...

Timestamps: :30 Intro 3:00 why people go on second dates 3:45 3 questions start 4:00 Question #1 5:20 What second dates should be built off of 6:30 how has this person had an affect on my safety and security? 6:47 Question #2 7:30 Did I feel a sense of curiosity and connection? 8:40 are you saying yes to someone you don't actually like? 9:50 If you're feeling burnt out from dating, up the discernm...

Timestamps: :30 Intro 1:30 why its so hard to move forward when you believe your ex is your soulmate 4:40 what are you making your strong feelings or experiences mean? 6:00 peaks do not make a partnership 8:00 They aren't your soulmate if they don't reciprocate 11:00 We don't need to add on the pain 12:00 How fear affects how we perceive "the one" 15:00 My take on soulmates 15:50 the downside of s...

Timestamps: :30 Intro 3:00 How obsessing at the start of a relationship has shown up for me 06:00 Are they getting priority position without earning it? 07:12 Become aware of your patterns 09:30 "The Chase" 10:30 The importance of loving yourself and viewing yourself as the prize 11:00 What have your patterns been in relationships? 12:20 The Halo Effect 14:00 Are you ignoring red flags or incompat...

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Timestamps: 00:30 Intro 01:40 Your attachment style isn't set in stone 03:20 A review of the attachment styles  03:45 Secure attachment style  05:30 Anxious attchment style  09:20 Avoidant attachment style 12:50 Fearful avoidant attachment style  14:50 Advice for all the attachment styles  18:00 Outro Interested in working with me one-on-one? Book a connection call here  ⬇️ https://www.shiftyourst...

Timestamps: 00:30 Intro 01:00 How I've been stuck in routine lately 03:00 What I've started to change 05:30 What does it mean to "do it for the plot?" 07:00 What are you not doing in your life because it feels uncomfortable? 09:00 Don't take life so seriously 11:00 Outro Interested in working with me one-on-one? Book a connection call here  ⬇️ https://www.shiftyourstory.net/connectioncall Learn mo...

Timestamps 00:30 Intro 01:30 How self abandonment shows up, where it starts, how to recognize it when it comes up, and what to do about it 03:00 Self-abandonment may make sense in some contexts, but not all contexts 03:35 How self-abandonment shows up in our lives 05:20 The origins of self-abandonment 11:00 How self-abandonment shapes your relationships 12:00 Signs you are abandoning yourself 13:0...

Timestamps: :30 Intro 01:30 The neuroscience of love addiction, missing them isn't a sign of weakness, and how to detox from a breakup 01:50 Neuroscience of love addiction and the chemicals released in the brain 04:30 what happens to these chemicals during a breakup 07:20 How our brains respond to pain 09:30 the stories we tell ourselves during a breakup 10:10 if you were physically ill, would you...

Timestamps: 00:25 Intro  02:55 Reach out to the connections you had before the breakup 04:10 Don't let ego or mind drama get in the way 06:00 Where can you meet people consistently? 07:00 Find ways to connect with people and deepen the relationship 08:40 3 ways to deepen your relationship with someone  10:35 When you reach out, pepole will reach back 11:30 Why making friends and building social ne...

Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 02:00 How spiraling affects you  02:25 Four steps to stop the spiral  02:40 The best thing you can do to prevent these spirals  03:55 Don't let yourself just sit there, get up  04:30 Why this works  05:00 Acknowledge your thoughts and feelings  06:00 Engage in energy shift  06:50 Regulate your body  07:20 Bonus! Spiral up  08:18 Recap 10:25 Outro  Interested in working with...

Timestamps: 00:25 Intro  02:06 Breaking down what confidence is  03:25 Actively induce happy feelings  04:45 What thoughts help you feel good about yourself? What actions? 06:40 Look after your personal hygiene  07:50 Find sources of connection in your life  08:50 Reflect on what you are confident in and why  10:35 Spot where you are acting out of alignment with yourself and get in alignment  10:5...

Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 01:30 My own indecision to move on  03:30 What it means to make the decision to move on 04:40 You're still attached to your ex and you have reduced that attachment 07:40 You aren't actually creating a reality or future you want to step into 10:20 Recap of the 3 hidden reasons you can't move on (and how to break free) 11:00 About the Breakup Glow Up Program 12:50 Outro Inter...

Timestamps: 00:25 Intro 01:15 How grief affects the brain 04:00 Grief is a part of life 05:20 You may have changed or be in the process of changing  06:20 Your life is going to change either way 07:30 The association of pain 09:00 A personal example 12:00 The stigma around heartbreak 14:00 The pressure to have it figured out 17:00 Get over your ex so that you can feel good again and move forward 1...

Timestamps: 00:25 Intro  02:10 How attachment is formed 03:30 3 reasons why you get attached  03:50 How our thoughts create attachment  7:25 How hormones create attachment  10:00 How exposure creates attachment  14:30 3 Questions you should ask yourself before this episode ends! 15:25 The Breakup Glow Up 16:25 Outro   Interested in working with me one-on-one? Book a connection call here  ⬇️ https:...

Timestamps: 01:00 My Breakup are inhertintely imperfect 02:00 My Breakup Mistakes 02:30 The rose colored glasses 04:00 Just because its a prominent memory it doesn't mean it was a pivitol moment 06:00 Sometimes things just don't work out 09:00 Treat yourself with compassion  10:40 Flip the question 14:30 Ways to work with me Interested in working with me one-on-one? Book a connection call here  ⬇️...