Becoming You Again

We've all been there—those moments during divorce when our minds spiral with thoughts that feel absolutely true: "I wasn't good enough," "I've ruined my children's lives," or "I'll never recover from this." But what if these certainties are simply stories your brain has constructed, not objective facts?    In this episode, I reveal how the tho...

Ever notice how fear seems to drive every decision during divorce? That gnawing feeling in your stomach that whispers you're ruining everything—your future, your children's lives, your finances—even when you know leaving is the right choice. This invisible force keeps you frozen, making decisions from a place of survival rather than authentic wisdom.   What if there was another way? What...

The power to feel emotionally safe, even when life feels uncertain, might be the greatest gift you can give yourself after divorce. But our brains make this challenging in ways you might not realize.    Have you ever wondered why leaving an unhappy marriage feels so terrifying, even when you know it's the right choice? The answer lies in how your brain processes certainty versus uncertainty....

Feeling powerless in your divorce? That's exactly when you need this simple yet profound somatic practice for reclaiming ownership of your body and presence.    During the most challenging times of divorce, we often feel like everything's spiraling beyond our control – legal proceedings, relationship dynamics, and major life transitions can leave us disconnected from our own sense of age...

"When will my life feel normal again after divorce?" It's a question that haunts many of us during this profound transition. The discomfort of changed routines, financial shifts, and parenting adjustments feels deeply unsettling. But there's a fascinating biological reason behind this distress.   Your brain's primitive amygdala interprets these changes as potential threats...

Divorce throws your emotions into overdrive, with stress levels soaring as you navigate uncertainty and major life changes. But what if one powerful stress-reduction technique isn't about better coping mechanisms, but rather dismantling a fundamental belief most women carry?   The distinction between being "nice" and being "kind" holds transformative power for women going...

Most women going through divorce don't realize they've been living in codependent relationships, desperately seeking external validation rather than trusting their inherent worth. In this transformative episode, I introduce you to a powerful reframing of codependence as "emotional outsourcing" as coined by Beatriz Victoria Albina - the habit of chronically seeking our sense of...

Exhausted by trying to check "self-care" off your already overwhelming to-do list? You're not alone. In this episode of Becoming You Again, I’ll dive deep into the distinction between what most of us have been sold as ‘self-care’ and what actually nurtures our wholeness after divorce.   Join me as I break down why these surface-level approaches are merely "pretend self-care&quo...

Anger is perhaps the most misunderstood emotion in a woman's divorce journey. While society readily accepts men's anger, women are often told to push it down, stay calm, or avoid this powerful emotion altogether. This harmful double standard creates an additional barrier to healing that we need to address head-on.    In this empowering episode, I break down exactly what anger is from a n...

Today, I’m introducing you to "Morning Pages," a transformative practice developed by Julia Cameron in "The Artist's Way." This simple yet profound exercise helps you tap into mental and emotional honesty. When navigating divorce, we often tell ourselves we shouldn't feel certain emotions or we pretend they don't exist. Morning Pages creates a private space to ac...

Divorce can be a profound emotional upheaval, bringing along a whirlwind of grief that often is ignored. In this episode the conversation will navigates through the unique ways grief can manifest in the context of divorce, tackling societal pressures that often lead to minimizing one’s emotions.   As you listen, discover actionable steps for creating space to grieve and heal. By embracing the mess...

Feeling stuck in the whirlwind of divorce and its aftermath? Learn how to reclaim your power and find alignment between your mind, body, and intuition. In this episode of "Becoming You Again," you will learn the four-step process of divorce recovery.  Understand how misalignment can lead to indecision and helplessness, and discover practical tools that will help you regain control of you...

Feeling trapped in a cycle of financial anxiety and scarcity? Discover how you can break free after divorce. In this episode I share my personal journey from a limiting belief system about money during my marriage to embracing a mindset of abundance and financial empowerment.  I open up about the struggles of constantly feeling like I couldn't afford anything and how I was inspired to challen...

What would it feel like to let go of trying to control everyone around you, and instead shift your focus on what is actually within your control. This episode is a journey into liberating ourselves from the emotional burden of others' behaviors by insights from Mel Robbins' compelling book, "The Let Them Theory." Discover how Robbins' straightforward and scientifically-bac...

What if embracing your emotions during a divorce could be the key to finding independence and fulfillment? Join me, Karen Nelson, as we explore this transformative idea in "Becoming You Again." Society often tells us to hide hard emotions, like anger, fear, and sadness. But the most effective way to heal from your divorce is to create a safe space to process these emotions fully and deve...

Unlock the secret to emotional resilience with one simple practice. Imagine shedding your stress and emotional baggage with a transformative technique called rhythmic shaking. This is an empowering somatic practice that helps you release tension and stress, especially if you're navigating grief or feeling overwhelmed. This episode will teach you the power of gentle movement and rhythm in fost...

When something goes wrong who’s the first person to feel your wrath? If you’re like most women, it’s you. The viper tongue shows up with a barrage of ways you’re not good enough and it’s all your fault.  In this episode I talk about why we, as women, are so mean and full of self hate and how to switch the narrative learning to like (and hopefully even) love yourself.  In this episode I confront th...

When was the last time you felt frustrated, annoyed or downright angry at something your ex did? If it was recently, or if you’ve ever thought, it would be so nice if they’d just do things the way I do them, then this episode is for you.  In this episode, we'll explore the concept of 'manuals'—those pesky expectations we impose on others—and how releasing them can lead to dropping t...

Imagine breaking free from the chains of self-blame that you’re feeling, especially after going through divorce. This episode explores the profound self-blame women often experience during and after divorce, rooted in societal conditioning and expectations. I’ll discuss the fine line between taking responsibility and succumbing to guilt and offer tools to reprogram your conditioned societal belief...

Healing from divorce trauma is a journey that requires more than just time—it demands a commitment to understanding and nurturing your own emotional health. What if you could move past paralyzing grief and disconnection from yourself that often come with a divorce? In this episode, I share four transformative steps to help you heal from the trauma of your divorce, guiding you toward reclaiming you...

As the year comes to a close, many people find themselves in a reflective state, especially those who have been experiencing the emotional journey of divorce. Have you ever wondered how grief from a divorce can reshape your life? Join me, Karin Nelson, where I offer insights into understanding divorce grief beyond the traditional stages. By the end of this episode you will see how grief emerges no...

Making confident decisions during and after divorce can seem daunting, especially if you've been living your life in the shadow of deferring to someone else's authority, not trusting your own opinions, and dismissing your intuition as knowledge of what's best for you. But it doesn't have to be this way. You can develop the skill of making confident decisions. Join me, Karin Nel...

Ruminating thoughts can feel like a relentless storm, especially during the emotional upheaval of divorce. Imagine finding a way to calm those swirling thoughts without battling them head-on. Join me as we explore how somatic practices can help regulate your nervous system and alleviate stress, allowing your mind to refocus on healing rather than replaying the past. We'll delve into the emoti...

Divorce is often full of complex emotional pain and suffering during/after divorce.  Imagine transforming your experience of pain into a manageable part of life by recognizing how self-imposed suffering makes everything feel worse. In this episode you'll gain insight from Buddhist analogy, and learn to empower yourself to take control over your emotional life. By the end of this episode you&a...

Divorce and the holiday season can feel like an overwhelming emotional rollercoaster full of triggers, unexpected bad surprises and a lot of thoughts of just wanting them to be over. But this year can be different. Join me, Karin Nelson, as I share personal insights and practical strategies to help you manage your holiday season this year to make you feel more calm, more capable of handling the ne...