Why Do I Do That?

Episode 34: Why Do I Feel Like I Can’t Trust After Infidelity? Trust is shattered after infidelity—so how do you rebuild it? In this episode, I dive deep into the emotional, psychological, and relational layers behind trust issues after betrayal. 🔍 Key Takeaways: ✨ The aftermath of betrayal: Why infidelity makes you hyper-aware and questioning everything. ✨ Trust is a blueprint: If you never ha...

Episode 33: Why Do I Get Stuck in Negative Thought Patterns? In this episode of Why Do I Do That?, we explore a question so many of us grapple with: Why do I get stuck in negative thought patterns I can’t seem to break? 🤔 Drawing on personal experiences and deep client work, we dive into the root causes and practical ways to shift these spirals. Key Takeaways: Negative Thoughts as Avoidance: Ofte...

Episode 32: Why Do I Feel Like I’ll Never Be Truly Happy or at Peace? 🚨 Spoiler Alert: This episode might just change your life! 🚨 In this raw and empowering episode of Why Do I Do That?, we tackle one of the BIGGEST questions we all face: Why does true happiness feel so out of reach? 🌀💭 ✨ Here’s what you’ll uncover: 🔥 How to shift your mindset from chasing “happiness” to embracing aliveness...

Episode 31: Why Do I Feel Less Powerful in Relationships? In this episode of Why Do I Do That?, Jess and Steph tackle a common question: "Why do I feel less powerful in relationships?" They explore how societal conditioning, unhealed wounds, and shifting energy dynamics can make women feel they lose themselves when partnered. The discussion highlights: Redefining Power: True strength isn’t just in...

Episode 30: Why do we feel blocked from manifesting the goals we deeply desire? Why does it sometimes feel like no matter how much effort we put in, something still holds us back? In this insightful episode of Why Do I Do That?, Jess sits down with Lucinda Brandham, a manifestation and shadow work coach and Aaruka-certified healer, to answer these powerful questions. Together, they dive into the s...

Episode 29: Why Do I Feel the Need to Hide Who I Really Am? In this episode of Why Do I Do That?, Jess is joined by Bella Reynolds, her “unofficial auntie,” a midlife mindset coach, and a proud graduate of the Aaruka Certification. Together, they dive deep into a listener’s question: Why do I feel the need to hide who I really am? Bella and Jess unpack the origins of this common struggle, explorin...

Episode 28: Red Flags in Dating – What to Spot and How to Handle Them In this episode of Why Do I Do That?, Jess and Steph dive into the world of dating red flags with honesty, humor, and actionable advice. Here's what they cover: Personal Red Flags Jess shares her ability to emotionally disconnect and avoid repair. Steph reflects on her own avoidance tendencies and how she's working to overcome t...

Episode 27: Why Am I So Afraid Of Dying? In this thought-provoking episode of Why Do I Do That?, Jess tackles the complex and deeply personal question, "Why am I so afraid of dying?". Exploring the intersection of anxiety, subconscious beliefs, and our biological instincts, Jess unpacks why the fear of death is not only natural but often amplified by unprocessed memories and societal conditioning....

Episode 26: Why do I feel confident until I step out of the house? In this captivating episode of Why Do I Do That?, Jess dives into the question: "Why do I feel confident until I step out of the house?" Joined by the inspiring Chloe Bromage, founder of Health Hyped and a self-proclaimed "confidence queen," they unpack the deeper reasons behind this all-too-common experience. Key Highlights: The R...

Episode 25: We break down the WHY behind your icks Join Jess and Steph as they dive into the hilarious and sometimes uncomfortable world of “icks” — those sudden, sometimes random turn-offs that seem to come out of nowhere but hit hard. From the sound of revving cars and overly tight jeans to spiritual narcissists and late-night sandwiches in bed, they share their own “icks” and read submissions f...

Episode 24: Why do I blame myself for everything? In this episode of Why Do I Do That?, Jess tackles the tough question: "Why do I blame myself for everything?" She breaks down the cycle of self-blame and introduces the idea of self-gaslighting—where we see an issue, question it, but then turn it back onto ourselves. Jess explains why so many of us, especially women in challenging or toxic relatio...

Episode 23: Why Do I Struggle to Receive? In this powerful episode of Why Do I Do That?, Jessica delves into a deeply common struggle—especially among women—the challenge of receiving help, pleasure, and even financial abundance. Drawing from her own journey, Jessica explores how many women are conditioned to prioritise others' needs, resulting in a subconscious resistance to receiving. Jessica hi...

Episode 22: Why Do I Get On The Attack With Certain People? In this engaging episode of Why Do I Do That?, host Jess delves into a question many of us face: why do we feel the need to be on the attack around certain people? Whether it's a friend, a family member, or the all-too-familiar mother-in-law, Jess breaks down the triggers behind these interactions and offers insights into how to navigate...

Episode 21: Why do we say nothing is wrong when something definitely is? In this episode of Why Do I Do That?, Jess dives into the all-too-familiar question: "Why do we say nothing is wrong when something definitely is?" This conversation is packed with insightful reflections, relatable experiences, and actionable advice for anyone who has ever found themselves shutting down when they really want...

Episode 20: Unlock Your True Power & Embrace the Balance of Masculine and Feminine Energy In this episode of *Why Do I Do That?*, Jess dives deep into a question that resonates with many: Why do I find myself stuck in my masculine energy and struggle to embrace my feminine side? Jess reveals the critical reasons behind this imbalance and how it impacts your life—from reproductive issues and burnou...

Episode 19: "Breaking the Cycle: From Body Shame to Empowerment" Are you stuck in a cycle of body shame and then binge eating? In this powerful episode of *Why Do I Do That?*, Jess dives deep into the self-destructive patterns many women face—feeling terrible about their bodies and then turning to binge eating as a way to cope. Discover why this cycle isn't just about the binge eating itself, but...

Episode 18: Overcoming the Fear of Speaking Up In this compelling episode, Jess dives deep into a powerful question: *Why am I so afraid to share my traumatic experiences?* This episode unpacks the intense emotions and fears that hold us back from speaking our truth. Jess explores the emotional weight of making trauma real by vocalising it. From the fear of not being believed to the potential fall...

Episode 17: Why Do I Keep Going Back to My Ex? In this riveting episode of *Why Do I Do That?*, we tackle a question that haunts many: why do we keep going back to an ex? Jess dives deep into this recurring struggle, unpacking the psychological and emotional factors that drive us to revisit past relationships, even when we know they aren't good for us. Discover the three core reasons behind this c...

Episode 16: Why do I need so much alone time? In Episode 16 of Why Do I Do That?, hosts dive into the topic of why some people crave extensive alone time and the underlying reasons behind this need. They discuss how individual differences, from personality types to stress levels, play a role in our need for solitude. The episode explores various perspectives, including the impact of trauma, energy...

Episode 15: Why Do I Find The Nice Guys Boring? In this episode of "Why Do I Do That?", Jess & guest Stephy J, dive into the intriguing question: "Why do I find the nice guys boring?" They explore how toxic relationships can skew our perceptions, making stability seem dull. Discover how past experiences and societal expectations might be colouring your view of what’s exciting in a relationship. Le...

Episode 14: Breaking the “Single Mom” Stigma with Gav 🎙️ Ever wondered if being a single mom is a dating dealbreaker? 🤔 Join us in this eye-opening episode as Jess chats with her partner Gav, who brings a refreshing perspective to this often feared topic. We dive into a question many of my single mom followers have asked: “Does having kids make dating harder?” Gav shares his candid thoughts on ho...

Episode 13: In this episode, Jess is joined by her partner Gav, sharing his fresh perspective on a topic that touches many—why people avoid therapy, even when dealing with significant trauma. Have you ever wondered why, despite knowing the benefits, some people still steer clear of therapy? Gav, who’s new to the world of deep healing and therapy, provides an insightful look into this phenomenon. F...

Episode 12: Why Do I Cheat? Unraveling the Intricacies of Infidelity Welcome to episode 12 of Why Do I Do That? In this captivating episode, we dive deep into the loaded and controversial question: "Why do I cheat, even when I feel really bad afterwards?" Join us as we explore the multifaceted nature of infidelity with our insightful guest, Steph J. Steph's knee-jerk reaction to this question lead...

Episode 11: Why Do I Care About Others' Opinions More Than My Own? In Episode 11 of "Why Do I Do That?", we dive deep into an issue that affects many of us: prioritising others' opinions over our own. Our host is joined by Stephy J, a fellow expert in the healing industry, to explore this pervasive question. This episode promises not just a casual chat between friends, but a transformative convers...

Episode 10: Ever wonder why you can't handle too many sounds at once in your home? This episode dives into why women, especially mums, feel overwhelmed by noise. You’ll discover two main reasons: how you were raised and the state of your nervous system. 🔍 Key Insights: Childhood Influences: Your reactions to noise might mirror how your parents reacted. If you were told to be quiet as a child, you...