The Debrief

Are boundaries really just about what I will accept, or do they also determine what you can and cannot do in a relationship with me? In this episode, we’re getting into the uncomfortable conversations around boundaries, expectations and personal responsibility. Do boundaries exist solely to protect yourself, or should the other person be expected to respect and follow them too? We unpack two very...

Have you ever felt guilty for putting yourself first? For saying no, setting boundaries, disappointing someone, or choosing what’s best for you, even when it means someone else might not be happy with your decision? This week on The Debrief, we’re having an honest conversation about the guilt that comes with choosing ourselves. From people-pleasing and feeling responsible for everyone else’s happi...

Pour yourself a drink, get comfortable, and join us for a girls’ night in with your favourite girls! This week on The Debrief, we’re getting into the conversations that start with “girl, let me tell you what happened…” and somehow turn into a full-blown debate. 😂 From mixed signals and situationships to complicated friendships, unspoken truths and the things we sometimes struggle to admit out lou...

Is loyalty about standing by your friends no matter what, or knowing when to tell them they’re wrong? 👀 In this episode of The Debrief , we’re getting into the conversations that test friendships, challenge our morals, and make us question where our loyalties really lie. Would you lie to protect your best friend? Would you tell her if someone was talking behind her back? And if your friend is the...

Girl, be honest… are you really over him, or have you just convinced yourself that you are? 👀 Sometimes, we say we’ve moved on, we’re unbothered, and we’ve healed… until his name pops up, someone mentions him, or we find ourselves reacting to things we thought no longer mattered. So, does being triggered mean there are still feelings there, or can someone hurt you without you still wanting them?...

“If You’re Really My Friend, You Should Just Know When Something’s Wrong.” We’ve all thought it… “If you really know me, why do I have to tell you?” 👀 But how much should the people closest to us just know ? Should your friends be able to tell when you’re upset without you saying anything? Should they know how you want to be supported, what hurts your feelings, or when you need space? Or are some...

We Need to Talk About Feelings. 🫂 Why do we struggle to say how we really feel? Why do some emotions feel easier to express than others? And what actually happens when we keep everything bottled up? In this episode of The Debrief, we’re getting honest about our emotions — how we experience them, how we regulate them, and the ways we sometimes avoid, suppress or overthink what we’re feeling. From...

You know those situations you send straight to the group chat because you genuinely don’t know what to do? 👀 Well… bring them here. In this episode of The Debrief , we’re having a proper Dilemma Night — reading through your messy, complicated, awkward and “girl… what would YOU do?” situations and debating them like we’re all sitting around the same table. From friendship drama and girls’ trips, t...

Money, money, money… we earn it, spend it, save it, stress about it — but how often do we actually talk about what it means to us? In this episode of The Debrief, we’re getting honest about our relationship with money and the ways it shapes how we live, what we value and how we see ourselves and others. Are we spending to enjoy our lives, or spending to look like we’re doing well? Does someone’s s...

Growing up, we’re given so many rules — respect your elders, focus on school, be a good girl, don’t date too early, listen to people older than you. But what happens when you become an adult and suddenly realise nobody actually taught you how to navigate the things that come next? In this episode of The Debrief, we’re having the conversations we wish we had growing up — from going from “you’re not...

I’ve got it.” “Don’t worry, I can do it myself.” “I don’t need anyone.” But what happens when being independent becomes so deeply ingrained that we struggle to let people help us, love us, support us or simply show up for us? In this episode of The Debrief , Gwakisa and Priscah are asking a question that might hit a little too close to home: Are we too independent? We’re unpacking what it means to...

University is supposed to be the best years of your life … but what if it wasn’t? In this episode of The Debrief , Gwakisa and Priscah take a trip down memory lane and get real about their university experiences — from the pressure of getting through endless semesters and assignments, to friendships, finding your place, and the reality of being Black girls navigating university in Australia. We ta...

Welcome to our girls’ night in! 🥂💕 In this episode of The Debrief, we’re keeping things light, fun and a little bit unfiltered. We’re reading dilemmas, sharing our honest opinions, confessing a few things of our own and having the kind of conversations you’d normally have sitting around with your girls at 1am. From messy situations and big life decisions to chasing your dreams, being scared to t...

Have you ever been surrounded by people and still felt completely alone? You have friends. You have family. You have a group chat. You’re scrolling through Instagram, seeing everyone’s birthdays, brunches, holidays and seemingly perfect friendships… so why can loneliness still feel so heavy? In this episode of The Debrief , we’re having an honest conversation about the kind of loneliness that does...

Ever found yourself falling for someone before you even really knew them? In this episode, we’re unpacking what happens when you fall in love with the idea of someone rather than who they truly are. We talk about mixed signals, creating stories in our minds, romanticising potential, and why it’s so easy to fill in the gaps with our own expectations. We also dive into the disappointment that comes...

Forgiveness sounds simple… until you’re the one who has to live it. In this episode, we unpack what forgiveness really looks like in real life. Does forgiving someone mean giving them the same access to your life? Can you truly forgive while still choosing boundaries? And what happens when the hardest person to forgive is yourself? We also debrief the latest season of The Ultimatum and the relatio...

Friendships don’t stay strong by accident—they grow through intention. This week on The Debrief, we’re talking about something we don’t hear enough about: how to keep the spark alive in your friendships. We spend so much time learning how to maintain romantic relationships, but what about the people who’ve been there through every season? From trying new things together to making time for each oth...

Some conversations are uncomfortable but they’re also necessary. This week on The Debrief, we’re talking about racism and the everyday microaggressions that so many people experience but often feel unable to speak about. We read two anonymous dilemmas from our Debriefers. One shares the challenges of dating across cultures and navigating subtle racism from a partner’s family. Another opens up abou...

Three weeks apart and we’ve got a LOT to catch up on! 🎙️✨ This week, we’re doing what we do best—a real-life debrief. Priscah is finally back from spending three weeks in Kenya with her family, so we’re catching up on everything we’ve missed. From travel stories and family moments to life updates, funny conversations, and what life looked like while we were apart, nothing was off the table. If yo...

How well do you really know us? 👀 This week we’re putting our friendship to the test with a fun game of Who’s Most Likely To? From the most chaotic friend to who’s most likely to ghost the group chat, spill a secret, or make the first move… nothing is off limits. 😂 Along the way, we share stories, laugh at our differences, and give you a little peek behind the friendship that makes The Debrief w...

Ever had an idea, a dream, or a business venture sitting in your notes app for months because you were too scared to start? 😭 You’re not alone. This week on The Debrief, we’re talking about the fear of beginning, why so many of us wait until we feel “ready,” and what it really takes to take that first step. We also share the story behind how we started this podcast, the doubts we had, the courage...

Ever feel like you’re in a weird season where you’re not quite where you used to be, but you’re not where you’re trying to go either? 😭 Welcome to the in-between. In this episode, we catch up on life lately and talk about what it looks like to declutter our spaces, minds and expectations while navigating a season that feels uncertain, messy and full of transition. We also get into a dilemma about...

The girls trip finally made it out of the group chat 👀✈️ In this episode, we debrief all things girls trips — the expectations, the personalities, the budgeting conversations nobody wants to have, and whether travelling together is actually the ultimate friendship test 😭 We also dive into a dilemma that had us questioning everything we thought we knew about girl code. If your friend’s ex reached...

This episode turned into one big girls’ debrief 😭 We spoke about people pleasing, constantly overextending ourselves for others, struggling to set boundaries without feeling guilty, and the exhaustion that comes with always being “the nice girl.” Then somehow the conversation turned into modern dating… and we realised maybe we really are all living the same dating chronicles 😭 From emotionally u...

Adulthood looked so much easier when we were younger. In this episode, we unpack the quiet exhaustion that comes with growing up — burnout, loneliness, financial pressure, changing friendships, emotional fatigue, and the constant pressure to keep going even when you’re tired. We talk honestly about feeling overwhelmed, pretending we’re okay, navigating adulthood without a manual, and the parts of...