Surviving Narcissism with Dr. Les Carter

Dr. Les Carter welcomes Elizabeth Shaw, a social influencer from the UK who speaks articulately about narcissism.  Today’s discussion is about how narcissists will gaslight and confuse as they set you up inside a pattern of narcissistic abuse. Go to https://betterhelp.com/ survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will l...

Complex trauma arises from a history of being deprived of healthy ingredients due to ongoing impositions of unhealthy patterns. Tim is an expert on the topic and brings his decades of experience to us as he explains the origins of this pattern while offering hope for long-term recovery. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and start your free 14-day trial at h...

Dr. C has an engaging discussion with Dr. Thais Gibson who discusses the dismissive avoidant attachment style. She explains there is a distinct difference between someone who has a history of reluctance versus a covert narcissist who is being manipulative. A best-selling author, Thais Gibson has a Ph. D. and over 13 certifications in modalities such as CBT, NLP, somatic experiencing, internal fami...

Dr. C welcomes Dr. Kerry McAvoy to today’s podcast.  You’ll enjoy their lively discussion about the many ways narcissists attempt to keep you off balance.  They are driven by a natural need to dominate and exploit, but as you understand their confusing mannerisms, you can detach from their harmful initiatives. Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph. D., a psychologist and writer, is an expert on cultivating health...

Dr. C welcomes therapist and author, Natalie Jambazian who recently released the book, Detoxing From A Narcissist.  She describes the nature of toxicity common in narcissistic relationships and offers practical insights for becoming self-empowered. Natalie Jambazian, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and self-love and narcissistic abuse recovery coach in Los Angeles, CA, specializes in help...

Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and start your free 14-day trial at https://aura.com/DrCarter   Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco,...

Go to https://betterhelp.com/ survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored Sign up for Dr. Carter’s NEW course: Ready, Set, Connect https://courses.survivingnarcissism.tv/courses/ready-set-connect Get 30% off when you use the coupon code: SNCommunity30 Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author...

Dr. Les Carter is joined by Dr. Nadine Macaluso who specializes in treating relationship trauma and C-PTSD. Her personal story was depicted in the movie, The Wolf Of Wall St. starring Leonardo DiCaprio. Actress Margot Robbie’s played the role based on Nadine’s life. Once she broke away from her harrowing experiences, she took time to heal, eventually remarried, then earned her Ph. D. in Somatic Ps...

Dr. C welcomes therapist Terri Cole who has worked with many individuals seeking to find appropriate relationship boundaries. She lays out many of the do’s and don’ts of managing boundaries, with the idea that it’s each person’s responsibility to oneself to be authentic. Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essent...

Dr. C interviews Meredith Miller who helps individuals traumatized by highly authoritarian family systems. Her psychological thrust goes beyond surviving, but in helping survivors shed the victim’s mindset so they can move fully into a rewarding adult identity. To find more of Meredith’s resources, visit  https://www.innerintegration.com/ . Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure you...

Dr. C is joined by Dr. Ramani Durvasula, who discusses information from her latest book, It’s Not You. Specifically, she walks us through some of the most common ways narcissists whittle at your capacity to trust in yourself. Go to https://betterhelp.com/ survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sp...

Dr. C has an enlightening discussion with Dr. Guy Winch about narcissists who simply cannot say: “I was wrong.” Dr. Winch identifies multiple reasons they have this difficulty, then discusses our best responses. To find more of Dr. Winch’s resources, go to  https://www.guywinch.com/ . Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online presence and get 40% off of all plans using my l...

Dr. C is joined by Dr. Dan Neuharth who speaks into the topic of the fallout from controlling parents. His kind manner makes his wonderful insights quite easy to digest. If you had difficulties at the hands of a parent, there is hope. You can find out more about Dr. Neuharth at his website:  https://www.drdanmftcounseling.com/ To read his articles in Psychology Today, click here:  https://www.psyc...

Dr. C interviews Dr. Christine Cocchiola about her vital work with survivors of coercive control.  She discusses how people can unwittingly become trapped in coercive relationships, then discusses a multitude of ways to address it therapeutically. Check out Dr. Cocchiola’s resources here:  https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/ Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episode. Secure your online...

Therapist Jerry Wise and Dr. Les Carter discuss how many people have been required to fit into an unhealthy narcissistic system, meaning they were discouraged from being who they really are.  In this engaging discussion Jerry discusses how to reverse that trend as you embark on your path of self-discovery. For the past 45 years, Jerry Wise has helped thousands of people get their narcissistic dysf...

Your conscience is that inner voice reflecting your values and morality.  Ideally it would be developed in the context of empathy and respect.  Narcissists, however, tend to lean toward one extreme or another regarding matters of the conscience.  They can be very rigid or they can be very loose.  Either way, relationships suffer.  Dr. Les Carter will break this down for you in this challenging top...

Initially when you encounter a covert narcissist, you can be impressed by their seeming normalcy or charm. Living behind the veneer of the False Self, they have learned how to play the game of looking nice. But over time, one trait keeps showing up that alerts you to something more sinister. Being defined by selfishness and control, this pattern will let you know that you are in the presence of an...

Dr. C welcomes author and therapist, Darlene Lancer, whose expertise is the exploration of narcissists, codependents, and the problem of shame. She explains how necessary it is to be aware of a narcissist's dominance, especially if you are inclined to lay aside your true self in deference to the controller. Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and expert author on relatio...

Narcissists are threatened by you being distinctly you.  This means they predictably use distorted thinking when you declare that you deserve respect, that you should be able to follow your own plans.  Our guest, Dr. Jamie Zuckerman, explains how essential it is to know the intentions of narcissists as you then determine inwardly how you will proceed with your plans, with or without the narcissist...

Many narcissists make it their task to establish dominance and power.  Dr. Les Carter explains, though, that such an effort is driven by many unresolved issues they don't want to reveal.  Even when they refuse to come to terms with who they really are, you can learn to see through their facade, determining to respond with a very different mindset. Go to https://betterhelp.com/ survivingnarciss...

Dr. C speaks with Dr. Stephanie Sarkis about her book that describes how to recognize toxic relationship patterns so you can focus instead on staying true to who you need to be.  Her insights and wisdom are sure to be beneficial. You can find Dr. Sarkis on her website: https://stephaniesarkis.com/. You can purchase her book, Healing From Toxic Relationships, at https://stephaniesarkis.com/toxicrel...

It's easy to be pleasant and friendly when you are in agreement with others.  But Dr. C highlights how your level of maturity is on display in the midst of conflict. He discusses a narcissist's starting point when you have differences, then gives a stark contrast by identifying the healthy alternatives. Go to https://betterhelp.com/ survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month o...

Dr. C has an enlightening discussion with Dr. Jane McCartney from London as they break down the problems associated with sociopathic individuals.  She has a wealth of information on this vital topic. Dr. McCartney is a Consultant Chartered Psychologist in the UK, working with a wide range of patients and clients. She has previously worked for the NHS in the UK within residential secure universitie...

Dr. Henry Cloud joins Dr. C today as he discusses ideas about the need for boundaries in key relationships. You can find Dr. Cloud at https://www.drcloud.com/. Go to https://betterhelp.com/ survivingnarcissismpodcast for 10% off your first month of therapy with BetterHelp and get matched with a therapist who will listen and help #sponsored You can find Dr. Cloud's work at https://www.drcloud.c...

Recently, Dr. C recorded a webinar about the empath and the narcissist, and specifically he focused upon the necessity of maintaining healthy boundaries.  In today's podcast he answers multiple questions generated by that webinar. If you want to purchase the resale of the webinar, go to https://survivingnarcissism.tv/webinar-the-empaths-superpower/. Thank you to Aura for sponsoring this episod...