Only Gets Better

Episode 19: Selin arrives celebrating a small but mighty victory: she is finally resisting the urge to clean before the cleaners. Because somewhere along the line, so many of us convinced ourselves that anything less than 110% - in our homes, our careers, and our parenting - is a failure. Heather and Selin dive into the quiet liberation of midlife and the game-changing difference between lowering...

If history teaches us anything, it's that some of today's most normal behaviours are tomorrow's "Wait... you did WHAT?" Remember when it was perfectly normal to light up a cigarette indoors, have a couple of wines at lunch, then drive home without a second thought? No? Lucky you. In this episode, we take a light-hearted (and occasionally horrifying) look at the everyday habit...

This week on Only Gets Better , we’re talking flexible work - you know, that magical modern invention that was supposed to give us freedom but somehow just gave us more tabs open in our brain. Flexibility is great until it quietly morphs into being permanently available , juggling paid work, unpaid work, invisible work, and the work we forgot was work. We get into why setting boundaries at work is...

How did we get here? When did we become the grown-ups? Adulthood is wild: one minute we're binge-watching in our trackies without so much as a plant to water, the next we're carrying the world on our shoulders. Meanwhile, our parents are exhausted by a trip to the pharmacy. We get into a deeper discussion about the confidence that comes with midlife and how it requires going through some l...

Episode 15: If you have ever thought to yourself, "I just want to move to a country I've never heard of, renovate a castle, start an animal sanctuary, and grow my own food", this episode is for you! This week we're talking about midlife reinvention, and the itch so many women feel in their 40s to do something...different. We get into the inspiring science behind Heather's upc...

Episode 14: This week Selin got a bit of a gut-punch. She's not the fun parent. And it hurts. This week we unpack how we became default parents, even though neither of us really planned that. We talk about resentment, expectations, invisible labour, and how even in a solid, loving marriage, somehow you can end up with one parent overwhelmed while the other one is go-karting. Do we solve the pr...

Episode 13: Why is it so easy to help everyone else, but so hard to ask for help ourselves? Somewhere along the way, many of us became fiercely independent, highly capable, and completely unable to say, "Actually, I could use a hand." In this episode, we're talking about why asking for what you need is a life skill most of us never learned. If you're constantly worried about inco...

Episode 12: In this one, we laugh through that motherhood universal - guilt. Because honestly, a good chat with a girlfriend is all it takes to realise none of us have it figured out and we’re all doing a pretty great job anyway. If you’ve ever worried about not serving meals everyone loves every day, not running a 24/7 curb‑to‑curb taxi service, or accidentally raising children who didn’t eat a s...

Episode 11: Do boys naturally love trucks and girls instinctively reach for unicorns…or have we been unconsciously scripting this story all along? This week, Selin and Heather explore how we shape boys and girls—often without realising it. We say we want emotionally intelligent, grounded men… but are we actually raising them that way? Because when boys step outside the old lines—tender, expressive...

Episode 10: This episode did not go according to plan. At all . We thought we were going to talk about raising boys and girls, and the difference, if there is one. Instead, Selin casually mentioned she’d just seen Michelle Obama live … and that was the end of our whole plan. What followed was a completely unplanned (and very real) conversation about parenting, and what on earth we’re actually tryi...

Episode 9: We don't need a platform to be an influencer - we all have an audience - just closer to home and a lot more observant.  We dig into the difference between managers and leaders, good bosses and the ones that make you quietly update your LinkedIn. We talk about the kind that bring out your best—and the ones that make you question your life choices.  And then we go home… where the real...

Episode 8: In this episode, we dive headfirst into the invisible scripts running our lives — the ones we didn’t choose, didn’t question, and in many cases, didn’t even realise were optional. Not just what we’ve been taught to do and think — but the deeper, sneakier layer: What have we been taught is simply not up for debate? The difference between “I chose this” and “it never occurred to me not to...

Episode 7: Does Marriage Still Make Sense? This week on Only Gets Better , we’re talking about marriage. Which is funny, because Selin is… happily married, and yet, she’s also the one asking all the questions. So, we follow that curiosity — not about her relationship, but about the whole idea of marriage. What it is, what it’s become, and why we don’t really question it as much as we probably shou...

Episode 6: This one is exactly what it says on the tin. We are certain that it only gets better, and we discuss what we're looking forward to in life - after a brief (and on-brand) detour into Heather's latest head injury. We share what we're finding about the next stage so far: that it's knowing yourself, deeper friendships, more freedom, and far less worrying about what other peo...

Episode 5: This week we dive into the Netflix documentary Inside the Manosphere and explore the bizarre, bleak, and unintentionally comedic world of manosphere influencers - the self‑proclaimed “alphas” shouting into ring lights, and the grifters selling confidence in 12 easy payments.  We give the topic the seriousness it deserves while still keeping our sense of humour intact, because if you can...

Episode 4: We tackle the mother of all mother issues: mental load — the invisible, relentless cognitive labour that keeps families, households, and lives running smoothly… and that women somehow still carry almost entirely alone. We go beyond the tired “men just don’t notice things” explanation (though yes, that too), and dig into the deeper systems that make mental load so stubbornly gendered. We...

Episode 3: Heather and Selin dive straight into the stuff no one tells you - but should - about parenting.  We take a nostalgic (and slightly incredulous) walk down memory lane, back to a time when Gen X kids roamed the neighbourhood with a hilariously questionable level of freedom — and then pivot to the very real challenge of giving our own kids the space to grow without hovering and clutching o...

Episode 2: We recorded this as the year wrapped up (remember 2025? Us neither), which means if you’re marking the Lunar New Year, this episode is actually right on time . Please consider this a culturally aligned release strategy… not procrastination. In this episode, we cozy up and reflect on the endings and beginnings. Selin insists she doesn’t have a New Year ritual—only to immediately realise...

Episode 1: Welcome to our very first episode - the one where we press record, hope for the best, and end up laughing far more than we planned. We’re two women in midlife, coming from different ages, different backgrounds, and different levels of certainty about how old our children are (looking at you, Selin).  But we share one big belief: the best years aren’t behind us. They’re right now, and it...