Only Gets Better

Episode 11: Do boys naturally love trucks and girls instinctively reach for unicorns…or have we been unconsciously scripting this story all along? This week, Selin and Heather explore how we shape boys and girls—often without realising it. We say we want emotionally intelligent, grounded men… but are we actually raising them that way? Because when boys step outside the old lines—tender, expressive...

Episode 10: This episode did not go according to plan. At all . We thought we were going to talk about raising boys and girls, and the difference, if there is one. Instead, Selin casually mentioned she’d just seen Michelle Obama live … and that was the end of our whole plan. What followed was a completely unplanned (and very real) conversation about parenting, and what on earth we’re actually tryi...

Episode 9: We don't need a platform to be an influencer - we all have an audience - just closer to home and a lot more observant.  We dig into the difference between managers and leaders, good bosses and the ones that make you quietly update your LinkedIn. We talk about the kind that bring out your best—and the ones that make you question your life choices.  And then we go home… where the real...

Episode 8: In this episode, we dive headfirst into the invisible scripts running our lives — the ones we didn’t choose, didn’t question, and in many cases, didn’t even realise were optional. Not just what we’ve been taught to do and think — but the deeper, sneakier layer: What have we been taught is simply not up for debate? The difference between “I chose this” and “it never occurred to me not to...

Episode 7: Does Marriage Still Make Sense? This week on Only Gets Better , we’re talking about marriage. Which is funny, because Selin is… happily married, and yet, she’s also the one asking all the questions. So, we follow that curiosity — not about her relationship, but about the whole idea of marriage. What it is, what it’s become, and why we don’t really question it as much as we probably shou...

Episode 6: This one is exactly what it says on the tin. We are certain that it only gets better, and we discuss what we're looking forward to in life - after a brief (and on-brand) detour into Heather's latest head injury. We share what we're finding about the next stage so far: that it's knowing yourself, deeper friendships, more freedom, and far less worrying about what other peo...

Episode 5: This week we dive into the Netflix documentary Inside the Manosphere and explore the bizarre, bleak, and unintentionally comedic world of manosphere influencers - the self‑proclaimed “alphas” shouting into ring lights, and the grifters selling confidence in 12 easy payments.  We give the topic the seriousness it deserves while still keeping our sense of humour intact, because if you can...

Episode 4: We tackle the mother of all mother issues: mental load — the invisible, relentless cognitive labour that keeps families, households, and lives running smoothly… and that women somehow still carry almost entirely alone. We go beyond the tired “men just don’t notice things” explanation (though yes, that too), and dig into the deeper systems that make mental load so stubbornly gendered. We...

Episode 3: Heather and Selin dive straight into the stuff no one tells you - but should - about parenting.  We take a nostalgic (and slightly incredulous) walk down memory lane, back to a time when Gen X kids roamed the neighbourhood with a hilariously questionable level of freedom — and then pivot to the very real challenge of giving our own kids the space to grow without hovering and clutching o...

Episode 2: We recorded this as the year wrapped up (remember 2025? Us neither), which means if you’re marking the Lunar New Year, this episode is actually right on time . Please consider this a culturally aligned release strategy… not procrastination. In this episode, we cozy up and reflect on the endings and beginnings. Selin insists she doesn’t have a New Year ritual—only to immediately realise...

Episode 1: Welcome to our very first episode - the one where we press record, hope for the best, and end up laughing far more than we planned. We’re two women in midlife, coming from different ages, different backgrounds, and different levels of certainty about how old our children are (looking at you, Selin).  But we share one big belief: the best years aren’t behind us. They’re right now, and it...