It's About DAMN Time

Questioning Everything Was Just the Start This wasn’t a planned episode. This was me hitting record because I couldn’t keep carrying everything in my head. Lately, I’ve been tired. Not just physically. Mentally. Spiritually. Creatively. And it had me asking some uncomfortable questions. About the podcast. About my direction. About whether I’m burned out or just done. Somewhere in all of that, one...

Everybody talks about loyalty. Nobody talks about growth. In this solo episode, I freestyle my way through a realization I’ve been avoiding for a while. The people you’re closest to might not be the people helping you move forward. And that doesn’t make them bad people. It just means your life has shifted. I break down why trying to get everything from one group will burn you out, how over-pouring...

You ever think you’re burned out… but realize you’re just exhausted from being available to everybody but yourself? Yeah. That part. In this episode, I’m coming back from a short hiatus and telling the truth about why rest didn’t actually feel like rest. It wasn’t burnout. It was overextension. Too many conversations. Too much access. Too much proving love by showing up at the expense of my own go...

🎧 Fan Favorite Series: Malinda’s Pick Episode: Stress Less, Weigh Less: The Connection Between Stress and Weight (Featuring Medina Henry) Originally aired: 11/7/2023 This week’s Fan Favorite comes from Malinda , who picked this episode because it finally connected the dots between stress, survival mode, and weight in a way that made sense without shame. In this conversation, I’m joined by Medina...

🎧 Fan Favorite Series: Jamie’s Pick Episode: Choosing Yourself: How to Set Boundaries With Difficult Family Members (Featuring Stephanie Perkins) Originally aired: June 6, 2023 This week’s Fan Favorite comes from Jamie , who picked this episode because it tackles one of the hardest truths: sometimes the people you need boundaries with the most are family. Even when the love is real. Even when the...

🎧 Fan Favorite Series: Deanie’s Pick Episode: No Matter What They Say: Embrace the Power of Not Giving a F ck (Featuring Paula Sima) Originally aired: [8/27/2024] This week’s Fan Favorite comes from Deanie in Atlanta , who fell in love with this episode because of Paula’s energy, her honesty, and her don’t-hold-back way of reminding you to be unapologetically yourself. Deanie said it best: people...

Episode: The Weight of Being Everyone’s Person: Being Strong Isn’t Enough for Your Mental Health Originally aired: [5/15/25] This week’s Fan Favorite comes from Lara and Cely , (two for the price of one) who chose this episode because it’s one of the realest moments on the show. This is the one where I finally said out loud what a lot of us feel but don’t admit: being “everyone’s person” will brea...

Episode: Show Them Who You Are: Reflecting on 2023 & Exploring New Possibilities Originally aired: December 19, 2023 This week’s Fan Favorite comes from Jawanda . She chose this episode because it captures a real turning point: telling the truth about where you are, then choosing to show up as your full self. You’ll hear her reason first and then the full replay. 🗣 Episode highlights Honest re...

🎧 Fan Favorite Series: Storm’s Pick Episode: You Can’t Take Everyone With You Originally aired: October 11, 2022 This week, we’re kicking off the Fan Favorite Series — 10 episodes handpicked by the DAMN Fam that left a real mark. First up is Storm’s pick , “You Can’t Take Everyone With You.” She shares why this one hit her the hardest and honestly, I get it. Sometimes growth means leaving certain...

I wasn’t supposed to record this episode. I didn’t have notes. No outline. Just a moment. A moment where I found out It’s About DAMN Time won Best Wellness Podcast at the Black Podcast Awards and I almost broke down because I almost quit this whole thing. This episode is me, raw and unfiltered, recording in real time as the emotions hit. I talk about doubt, faith, and how showing up...even when no...

Five years. Two Black Podcast Awards nominations. “Critically acclaimed.” I’m grateful, loud, and smiling… but here’s the truth: that outside validation didn’t magically fix my self-doubt. In this episode, I talk about the high of being recognized, the quiet shift that started before the nominations, and the mirror moment where I had to stop the negative self-talk and practice grace. If you’ve bee...

What happens when the hustle finally breaks you? In this episode, I sit down with my friend Dr. Cassandre Dunbar—physician, podcaster, and wellness advocate—for a vulnerable convo about what burnout really looks like. We talk about the emotional exhaustion that sneaks in, the guilt and shame nobody talks about, and how burnout ain’t just about being tired, it’s your whole system shutting down. I o...

I said I’d report back...so here it is. Five days of living unfiltered taught me way more than I expected. In this follow-up, I share what worked, where I froze, and the deeper roots underneath my overthinking: people-pleasing and a scarcity mindset . This isn’t just a challenge anymore—it’s a lifestyle shift. In this episode: What five days unfiltered actually felt like (wins + misses) The real r...

What happens when you stop overthinking and just let yourself live ? In this episode, I kick off a 5-day experiment to do exactly that—no filters, no edits, and definitely no second-guessing . For five days, I’m saying what I feel, doing what I want, and seeing who I am when I’m not stuck in my head. This isn’t about being reckless or hurting feelings—it’s about finding out who I am without consta...

Does saying “no” feels like a betrayal… This week, I’m joined by the incredibly insightful and hilarious SaKarra Fite, and we’re talking about the people-pleasing habits that hold us hostage. From family pressure to generational patterns to simply not wanting to let people down, we get real about where it starts...and how to break free. We unpack the cost of being the “go-to” person, how boundarie...

When I was a kid, I had to make a dozen donuts last two weeks. At the time, I thought I was just rationing snacks… but really, I was learning to ration my whole damn life . In this solo episode, I’m breaking down how scarcity mindset has shown up for me...from childhood habits to family money beliefs, from skipping guac at Chipotle to turning down big opportunities in podcasting. And I’m not just...

We always talk about getting to the bag, but what if the real block is the emotional baggage that came with the bag? In this episode, I sit down with Anthony Weaver, host of the About That Wallet podcast, to dig into something we don’t talk about enough in our community: money trauma . From growing up with syrup sandwiches and lunch money guilt to navigating the pressure of being the “financial fi...

Toxic workplaces don’t always come with a warning sign. Sometimes it starts as a vibe you can’t shake the anxiety before logging in, the shift in your spirit, the way your joy slowly disappears. And if you’ve ever had to question if you were the problem…this one’s for you. In this CLASSIC episode, I catch up with Stephy Kiss for a real, unfiltered conversation about getting fired, letting go, and...

You ever make a promise to yourself... and then break it? Yeah. Me too. In this solo episode, I’m unpacking something I’ve been sitting with for a minute: the trust issues we have with ourselves . We talk so much about being let down by other people, but what about all the times we’ve let ourselves down? All the times we said we’d change, show up, commit...and didn’t? This ain’t a lecture. It’s a...

What if grinding harder isn’t the answer? In this episode, I’m joined by the multi-talented media force and community advocate Ron Brown for a vulnerable, funny, and layered conversation about what it really takes to keep going when you’re tired, frustrated, and questioning your own pace. We get into the reality behind the highlight reels—burnout, guilt around rest, creative comparison, and the me...

We talk a lot about dreams. About purpose. About “someday.” But let’s be honest—most of us aren’t stuck…We’re just not moving. In this solo episode, I break down five questions that’ll tell you real quick why you’re not where you want to be...pulled straight from a Justin Kelly TikTok and a hard conversation with someone I love. This ain’t a lecture. I’m answering them out loud in real time. I’m h...

This episode wasn’t planned… but it was necessary. Fresh off a job interview (and still in my feelings about it), I hit record and let it all out—from second-guessing myself, to almost talking myself out of a blessing, to that one moment when a friend’s words washed over me and reminded me that what’s for me is already mine . If you’ve ever felt stuck in your own head, constantly overthinking inst...

There comes a time when you gotta stop shrinking, stop explaining, and just start being . On this episode of It’s About DAMN Time , I’m joined by the unapologetic truth-teller herself, Cookie Brown , host of The Dirty Bag Podcast . We talk about what it really looks like to live in your truth—even when it makes people uncomfortable. From people-pleasing patterns to the fear of being misunderstood,...

Everybody’s talkin’ about how they want the soft life these days—no stress, no mess, just trips, massages, and somebody else taking the trash out. But here’s the real: if you ain’t giving that energy to yourself first, how you expect somebody else to? In this solo episode, I’m breaking down the other side of the soft life. The stuff folks don’t always post about. The part where you realize that be...

Ever wanted to help someone who's struggling—but didn’t know what to say or do? In this episode of It’s About DAMN Time, I get real about what support actually looks like when you're dealing with depression, burnout, and emotional exhaustion. Spoiler alert: it’s not always a phone call or a “let me know if you need anything” text. I open up about where I’ve been the past few weeks, how isolation b...