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My client found that her husband of many years was distant. She felt he was no longer sharing about his shift days with her like he used to. He wasn’t as physically affectionate as he was before he experienced a traumatic incident that pushed him over the edge. He wasn’t struggling emotionally and she was feeling like her needs weren’t met. Instead of drawing him closer, she was pushing him away w...

Dating a cop can be different. My client’s friends were telling her she wasn’t seeing him enough. She was questioning things and getting all up in her head. Sure, she didn’t see him as much as other people saw their boyfriends because he worked a ton of overtime, but he was there for her, loving, and kind when they were together. Through group coaching in my Resilient Ride Along program, she was a...

Generalized reciprocity is a philosophy necessary when you’re a police wife, firefighter wife or military wife or dating a cop, firefighter or veteran. It will help you be at peace and have more harmony in your relationship or family. Resources from this episode

This easy to adopt strategy will improve your communication with your partner as a police wife, firefighter wife or military wife immediately. I’m so excited for you to feel closer to your partner as a result even on their long shifts or deployments away from home. Resources from this episode

Stop feeling like you’re doing it all alone by embracing generalized reciprocity in your relationship as a police wife, firefighter wife, military wife or girlfriend Resources from this episode

Release the pressure to have more time together or have your partner open up to you more as a police, firefighter, and military wife or girlfriend Resources from this episode

Go from feeling like two ships passing in the night and disconnected to feeling like you’re partners and on the same team again. Resources from this episode

As a police wife, firefighter wife and military wife, your partner experiences trauma and it is a part of him when he comes home. I share two stories from my own marriage where we have run into trauma he has experienced at work. I share practical tips on how to navigate trauma in your own relationship and provide reasonable accommodation to the symptoms of trauma that you see. Resources from this...

You’re feeling disconnected from your partner as a police wife or girlfriend, firefighter wife or girlfriend or veteran wife or girlfriend because he’s not telling you about his day at work. In this episode you will become more connected by learning to identify ways that your police husband, firefighter husband or military husband is indeed opening up to you and being vulnerable. Resources from th...

Feel like you’re doing it all alone and the responsibilities are weighing you down like a weighted vest? Girl, I got you. In this episode, you will learn exactly how to feel supported and end resentment. You will feel okay about asking for help. Resources from this episode

Ever feel like your conversation doesn’t go anywhere when you ask your police officer, deputy, firefighter veteran partner for help? As a police wife, firefighter wife or veteran wife or girlfriend, it’s so critical that you learn Assertive Trauma Informed Communication to be heard. This communication method will transform your relationship. Ready for your convo so go smooth next time you bring up...

As a police wife, deputy wife, firefighter wife or military wife, you know the shift work, overtime, and last minute shift changes are consistent, but what about consistent time together AND the confidence to embrace your first responder family lifestyle in a way that is unshakeable? That’s what this episode is all about and I know it’s going to be relationship changing for you. Resources in this...

My client, a K9 deputy wife and mom of a new baby, went FROM her husband feeling like she didn’t support his job because she was used to her teacher schedule with weekends and holidays off TO feeling like she was so lucky and loved her K9 deputy so much. This story highlights the power you have to shift the dynamic of tension to strong you can feel it to peace in your relationship with a police of...

If you’re a police wife, firefighter wife, military wife, first responder wife, veteran wife or girlfriend, and you’ve wondered how to respond when your child asks you about why you can’t go to that restaurant down the road or why their Dad doesn’t like crowds, this podcast episode is for you. Resources in this episode Say hi on Instagram

If you’re a police wife, firefighter wife, or veteran’s wife, you see symptoms of trauma, but you’re only recommending talk therapy, I provide you with two other ideas that will help your first responder or veteran to return from fight or flight to rest and digest so you can release the tension and be laughing together and catching up on the latest episode of Love is Blind in no time together. Res...

In this episode, police wife, firefighter wife, and military wife, you will learn how to shift your mindset to gratitude, create independent daily routines to ask for help, and empathize with trauma to rid of resentment and open a life of peace for you and your family. Resources from this episode Fireproof , the movie Say hi on Instagram @heelsandholster