Healing Trauma as a Christian Mama

Knowing how we operate helps us be more productive, actually benefit from whatever strategy are implementing because we are doing it within our own strenghts

This tiny little saying is changing my life!!! Ive always lived in a shame based world that said to myself 'i did a bad thing, I am bad' aka 'I yelled at my kids so Im a bad mom. HERE'S THE TRICK: 2 THINGS CAN BE, AT THE SAME TIME! I can have yelled at my kids AND still be a good mom!!!!  I dont even want to waste any more of your time reading, listen and then click below to the smart people talki...

Sometimes we can only focus on the next 12 hours, the next 12 minutes or maybe even the next 12 seconds.  The more.... we plan, the more expectation, the more control and the more overwhelmed we can get. Especially in a hard season, give yourself this rule you cannot focus on longer than 12 hours from now. 

Its so easy to say 'oh its not that bad' or compare ourselves to someone else's 'bad' BUT today I encourage you to not let pride and shame do the talking, and give yourself the freedom to get help! 

We are SO hard on ourselves, and of course its so much easier said than done but its so important to do!! Today we talk about the MPA on how to help ourselves step outside of ourselves but still help ourselves! 

What youve been through is NOT your fault. If you had trauma in your past, that is not your fault. BUT Healing is up to you. Noone else can do it for you, but it will impact in a positive way not only YOU but the relationships in your life and generations to come.   It might be hard, but doing the work to heal is what you need to do for yourself. 

The more we hold onto things, the more anxious and stressed we get about keeping it.  God designed us to live a life our hands open to receiving his blessings and also keeping our hearts open to him..not letting ourselves take over the control seat.  The more I try and keep things on my own, the more control I need and the more 

Life is unfortunately not consistent. You wont always feel motivated, you wont always feel like you've got it all figured out.  BUT you always wont always feel awful! Even with a lot of low points in mental health, it lets up for brief moments and gives us a hot second to breath.   Being prepared can give us the appropriate expectations for ourselves and the world around us 

No matter how far into a healing process you are, things will trigger you.  It is my firm belief that major triggers are connected to deep meanings and unmet needs, and/or bring you back to how you felt when you felt that way for the first time...and your brain and body stored it.    Today we are talking 3 things to do when you do become triggered. 1) to help in the present moment,...

A great little trick is to DO THE OPPOSITE OF HOW YOU FEEL. So if you are feeling sad, watch a funny moving If you want to isolate, call a friend. Today we talk about doing the opposite and how you can also take baby steps to get there! 

Knowing what we do BEFORE we fall over the edge aka breakdown or crisis is so important because it gives us the opportunity to intervene.  Somehow there is a rabbit trail that takes us to pottytraining a baby and carrying around a suitcase toilet which is hilarious and is left in for your pure enjoyment.  Rate this episode and Ill send you a picture of me and my carry potty lol! 

Its easy to shame and blame others, and see their faults.  But being able to say sorry and admit your own faults is a direct mirror into your heart. And that is a reflection of where your head is at.  

Life is busy, but if we dont take time to intentionally slow down, we miss things and we miss God speaking into the stillness of our heart. 

It is so easy to find our value and worth in other things or people, but if it does not align with the truth that we are loved, valued and accepted by God and nothing changes that....then we are putting our value in others hands, which can be very emotionally damaging! 

When live is going good; things are stable and balanced, and you are operating in healthy ways...we have the ability to take on more without becoming overwhelmed & stressed out. BUT sometimes, in some seasons, we need to recognize that we need to switch plates. Our ‘backup’ plate has on the essentials, the things we cannot let go of (like keep us and our kids alive for example lol) sometimes it’s...

Feelings go up and down and cannot always be trusted.  BUT on the other hand, we need to feel safe enough to be able to feel our feelings without having them invalidated so we can process them in healthy ways

Healing is hard, its painful and scary. BUT the reward is freedom from bondage and the chains of toxicity, peace that satisfies your soul more than anything here on earth and transformation into a new identity who is secure and safe in Christ.  Do the work, its worth it. 

Its so easy to get caught in the trap of comparison, but deeper than that it is a heart issue.  If we are struggling to accept ourselves, we fall into the comparison trap so much easier. 

It's okay not to be okay...it really is!  BUT my heart screams DONT STAY THERE!  Awareness is key, we need it to move forward...but staying in awareness will cripple us! God has a glue that is unlike any other, that can heal wounds that seem beyond repair by our standards. 

When we are focused on the storm; the fear and worry, the bad things that are happening..it is easy to get consumed. But if we are focused on his truth, love, power and trust that he is in control....we are going to be in a much better place mentally 

It is so easy to put others needs above our own, especially if we are people pleasers. But we cannot pour from am empty cup so we need to learn how to stand up for and prioritize our own mental health! 

At the heart of codependency is believing that if we just love harder, just do more, just be better...that will change someone else 

Today we look at FILLING OUR NEEDS by God 

We dont always have a clear concept of how much shame holds us down and beats us up. 

3 PRACTICAL ways to help. 1. Move your body (Regularly) & NO this is not a fitness program....it can be stretching your body, it can be as simple as walking! 2. Get Outside 10 minutes minimum a day - this will save you 3. Light - Light can impact our brain in significant ways!