Healing Trauma as a Christian Mama

When the waves of life come at us, we need to be anchored so we dont get swept up in the waves.  Who (or what) are you anchored to.  Jesus is the only never failing anchor we can attach to, but are we connected to him? 

It is so important that you find something that fills YOU up. You cannot pour from an empty cup, so its important to find the balance between getting enough pouring INTO you so your can do all the things, and not run dry yourself! 

Especially if you follow The Holistic Psychologist, she talks about this a lot. But this is a way we can show up for ourselves and learn to reparent or build our confidence in ourself! 

I have been on a journey to love and accept myself. To believe what God says about me...but also not fall into the trap of pride!! Not an easy one, and maybe will never be 100% there but if I can accept and respect myself, and truly believe I am loved, valued and accepted by God....Im happy there! If I asked you to make a list of people you love..... how long would it take to add YOU?

Did you know that you can know your identity in Christ as a child of God, but still struggle to love and accept yourself? I got to this point, and went on an adventure learning how to love and accept myself as who God says I am and truly believe it! But in order to do that, the first step is to KNOW what God says!!!  Thats what we dig into today!

Especially if you have an anxious mind, it is easy to feel pressure and and overwhelming urge to figure EVERYTHING OUT RIGHT NOW! Like this second, it cant even wait until later today.  Unfortunately, for some things it's just not that simple and you might not to be able to do that in one go.  So then what?  That doesn't make that pressure go away? How can we combat that? Let's dig into that today...

We are free to fail because we are secure in our position in Christ. This should be the most freeing and exciting message, but some have twisted this into a license to sin.  The reality is, we are imperfect humans and we WILL fail...but we need to remember that we are free to fail because we have a relationship with God that will not be shaken if we do. We died with Christ and rose again, and no f...

Theres something special about having a place to connect to God. It can be ANYTHING you want, I used todays example as outside but I love having special places to worship, connect and wrestle! 

We need to normalize Mental Health Days for us AND our kiddos 

Mental Health Hack 💞 Cut out OR protect from Toxic People So I have been diving into the question ‘Can you have toxic people in your life, AND stay healthy yourself?’ I talk about in today’s episode about a bowl of apples with one rotting apple; the other apples will stay healthy, but eventually it will start to affect the whole bowl. Now most people will cut out a toxic person, but what if for o...

That Freedom, Peace and Healing is contagious! Sharing your story...could be someone elses survival guide.

One thing I have noticed about my generation, is the voice we have for healing, for trauma recovery, for mental health. Generations above see a lot of this as oversharing, airing our dirty laundry...and it’s easy to judge them for accepting the denial, to not talk about anything but we are all just doing the best we can...and trust me, our kids will judge us lol! Despite that, I love being on this...

There is nothing you can do, to change another person.  Sometimes our Strength can be disguised as strength, when really we are trying to change a person. Some peoples waves will drown you, no matter how hard you can swim

This was some Advice from our pastor at the beginning of my healing journey. There were other people involved that also needed healing, but one of the main things I have had to learn and accept is: I cant control anyone else. I can make anyone get the help, do the work, partner with God to transform their heart.  But this is the key to it all: That doesnt matter. You need to do the work for your o...

In order to let go of control, and let God transform you. You need to get to the end now yourself, your resources, your efforts. As we get to the end of ourselves we leap into the unknown and allow God to show up and show us who he is!

There is a lot of talk about boundaries in recent years, and some great resources on them. I try and talk in today’s episode about maybe some new ways to look at them to give you a fresh perspective or another way to see them. Boundaries are so hard because at first you want to say ‘you can’t do this to me’ but really boundaries are NOT about the other person; boundaries aren't about telling anoth...

When we think of recovery, its easy to think about alcohol, drugs or pills (which are part of my story) but to be honest, anything we are using to escape, numb, push down, not feel or is just coping negatively needs some healing, processing, resolving and bondage breaking. Recovery in Christian Communities can be so shameful its easier to just hide behind the problem.  But that only hurts you. Tod...

Isolation is part of the journey, its not easy or fun but God needs us in a protected place where we can be safe to open our wounds and allow him to heal. This cannot happen when we are busy or using all the survival coping skills we've found. The more I learn others experiences with healing, isolation becomes a common thread God uses to take us away, (not always physically) out of our comfort zon...

Ask yourself: Am I listening to SHAME or GRACE?? *because... what you listen to, grows. I started digging into the word VALIDATION today (which I now have created another post about emotional validation vs invalidation b/c I found some mental goldmines today!) But I came across this ladies comment and I want to leave you with this for now. “I realized that every second I spent doubting my self-wor...

Where are all my people pleasers at!? So today we’re going to take a lesson from toddlers, who have ZERO issue with this tiny yet powerful word: NO! If your like me, you might have had an adverse reaction to that, because saying no to someone feels confrontational and terrifying! BUT let’s talk about it, why is it so hard? How can we start? For this one, I’m with you friend, but we can learn to sa...

As we heal, as we break away from the ways of survival, we need to unlearn these ways of coping that were keeping us safe. Thats no easy feat! It takes a lot of work to rewire your brain, stop unconscious behaviours and RELEARN new ways that are healthy and serve us in our quest for a healthy life.  BUT, it is possible. Do not believe the lie that you are doomed to stay stuck where you are. O...

You will come up with survival coping skills, whether you are conscious of it or not. Unfortunately, when they are unconscious..they tend to be negative and give us the instant gratification to feel better NOW. We need to take an inventory of how we are coping to get an idea of what we are doing...and if there are things we need to work on.  

We are so willing to burn ourselves, in order to give other people what they need. And let me tell you from personal experience and to save you the pain....the burn hurts.

This week, I’m sharing things that got my attention and helped me look into codependency. I’d learned about it before, but never connected to it I read a few recommended books and I still didn’t totally resonate. Then I read this tiny little booklet by June Hunt I got from a waiting room...and it changed my life forever. When I was able too it in relation to my relationship with God..the convictio...

Change sucks. Change is scary. BUT If we arent willing to change when its no longer serving us to stay where we are, that ends up hurting us more