Healing Trauma as a Christian Mama

This episode talks about emotional flashbacks and we go over Pete Walkers 13 steps of what to do when you have an emotional flashback Emotional flashbacks are intense emotional states activated by past trauma (e.g., fear, shame, or feeling unsafe).  Emotional flashbacks may be hard to recognize. They can happen suddenly and it can be hard to pinpoint what caused them. Emotional flashbacks are not...

This exercise is a great exercise if you are thinking about going on a healing journey or your already in one but are feeling stagnant or stuck plateaued. Its a very simple exercise that helps you look at what does the future hold if you DO change and heal and what will it take. It also looks at the flip side, what are the hard parts of change and healing and where will we self-sabotage our own ef...

This episode goes through 3 worksheets to help you know your own nervous system. The first is a personal profile map helping you understand how Fight, Flight, Freeze AND regulation shows up in your body, thoughts, feelings & behaviours The second is a Triggers and Glimmers worksheet that helps you know what triggers you OUT of your window of tolerance and glimmers that move you BACK into regulatio...

This weeks healing exercise: Write your life story from your Inner Child’s Perspective This exercise can be stand alone or piggy back off of last week’s episode of doing a Life Timeline. This is an exercise to begin to work with different ‘parts’ of ourselves. The part for this exercise is our Inner Child. This exercise can help us not only piece together what has happened in our life and what cou...

A life time line is a tool to help us organize all the experiences we've had in our life and give us a starting point for what to work on in our healing. It can help us see why some experiences impacted us more because of other things we had going on or happening at that same time. It gives us a birds eye view of our life and can be a helpful tool to use in our therapy or coaching sessions

This week's episode is about creating a safety plan for yourself. Even if you never use it, it can be so beneficial to have this because we really cant predict whats going to happen in our lives and its better to be safe than sorry. In the episode, we walk through 4 simple steps to have in our safety plan to keep it simple but effective. Check out my social media to get a visual look at this s...

This was an exercise I learned from my counsellor in the depths of my own healing journey, she called it inner healing prayer. In this episode I go over two different ways to do this. The first is to use the exercise to invite Jesus into past trauma's and wounded areas. The second is to use it to help in day to day experiences that happen in real time. Either way, this is a powerful way to bri...

A genogram is an important tool for self-awareness, personal development, and relationship development. It can reveal how a person’s experiences today make sense in the larger context of their family-of-origin and past experiences. A genogram can  give you insight into the many different things that have happened in your family , such as negative family dynamics and family struggles, like divorce,...

The trauma egg is a great tool to utilize to help gather information about things you've experienced and insight into your upbringing. In this episode I go through the process of completing the trauma egg and why each part of it is important for our healing journey

This episode I share 3 external tools I use to help with my anxiety. *None of these are paid ad's or products where I get anything from so this isnt a sales pitch, I truly use these tools on a regular basis and want to share my experience with each for you. The first is loop earplugs. These have been lifesavers for me as a busy mom of 4 who gets unbelievably overstimulated by noise. I get very...

Todays episode is a vulnerable one. I am joined by my husband Lorne to share our story publicly for the first time ever.  Our story has a lot in it that you don't see on social media. We lived for years and years in a toxic dynamic that eventually led to a 10 month separation. Our story has every thing you could possibly imagine in it: addiction, abuse, toxic dysfunction, codependency and mor...

This episode is the last in the series about The Rebuild, my signature program which is a step-by-step guide for the healing journey as a Christian women.  This last section is all about our Identity, as a Child of God and how we learn to stand in that and have access to the same power that rose Jesus from the grave. We always look at in this section, who we think we are vs who we truly are b...

This episode looks at the 2 last walls of the Framing section of The Rebuild, my signature program helping you tear down the lies, messages and faulty beliefs and rebuild on a solid foundation with Jesus.  We look at Regulating our emotions, the importance of naming our emotions and learning how to feel our feelings without getting triggered and shutting down. We also look at the wall of Resources...

When we are healing, our relationships are a huge part of this journey. Our healing impacts our current relationships as we change who we are in our healing, which changes how we show up in relationships and what we tolerate as well. In this episode we talk about the core trainings in this section of the Framing part of the The Rebuild Program  -Love Systems -The Drama Triangle and healing into Th...

This episode is about Reparenting, one of the walls of the Frame section of The Rebuild. Reparenting is a model of healing where we show up as the parent they never had. From a secular perspective, we are the parent but as Christian and integrating our faith, we also invite Jesus in to be the perfect parent with us. We still show up and are apart of our healing and this process however we work as...

Now we're rebuilding and in the rebuilding process we have to have a solid foundation and so have the footings which is our relationship with Jesus and our and how important that is and then these footings are going to be the foundation and the foundation like we've learned is the this solid foundation that really holds up the rest of the structure right it holds up the whole house, you build wall...

The next phase that we're looking at in this rebuild process is restoration. Now we've excavated, we've removed all the debris, and before we rebuild, we wanna restore what was good. Not all of our story is bad. We don't have just trauma only, and so we wanna restore things that are good and what that looks like in a healing journey is. Resolving wounds that we've had bring healing into our wounds...

So the next phase of the rebuild we're gonna talk about is the debris removal. If you think about when you're excavating, you'd be excavating all these rocks, all this dirt, and then all this stuff is kind of exposed at that point. And sometimes when you're actually excavating in real life, you hit bedrock. And you have to blast that bedrock so that you can get, be beneath it. And so then you have...

Have you ever been watching one of those home builder shows and It's time to tear everything down to make way for the new project?  At some point, after some inevitable playful banter with hammers, it’s time to put hammer to wall. Or in our case, it’s time to put the excavator to concrete slab and get rid of the existing foundation to make way for a newer, more functional rebuild. The first s...

This episode looks at the two first important phases of The Rebuilding process  Your Toolbox : Looking at different tools and strategies to regulate your nervous system!   Your Safety Plan: Creating a safety plan so you know what you are going to do if things get hard! 

One of the most impactful things for me has been creating a Safe Base with Jesus.  This is where I go to 'do the work,' to be refuelled by him, to surrender and forgive, to freak out and let all my big emotions out, and to have a safe place to do it all.  This tool is to create your own safe base for your own journey

This POWERFUL episode is the perfect way to end season 2.  We sit with Ashley Henriott, A Christ-centered Confidence coach and content creator (among several other amazing things she does)  Ashley tells us a little bit of her story, her redemption and how Jesus saved her life.  We talk about the road from Healing to Heaven, that place where we live after we have done deep healing bu...

We all have things that happened in our childhood that have impacted us. But if we don’t grieve the stuff that hurt us, whether it was intentionally done or not, it will hold us back from growing. Sometimes we had parents who couldn’t meet our emotional needs, or who were emotionally dysregualted themselves that we had to learn how to cope around that, or things happened like bullying or lots of m...

Today we talk about Grief without loss. Much of the time when we think about grief we think about when someone dies, but there are so many loss's we experience that cause emotional pain and today we talk about this. Things like -loss of a job -loss of a relationship -loss of the hopes and dreams for our life (also in regard to the two above) -loss of a marriage -loss of our old life as mothers, or...

An amazing interview with Amber Kuipers!  The next podcast series is: GRIEF  This episode is about Grief after loss. We dive into  👉🏻 our culture's response to grief and how it can be harming those who are grieving, even from the church community  👉🏻what NOT to say to someone grieving  👉🏻what TO DO for someone grieving  👉🏻All the different roles we can pl...