Hanging Out 4ever

Baby, where the hell is my husband?! In this episode, Aja sits down with comedian and content creator Kali Scott to discuss her journey of trying to find a husband and one of the hardest cities in the nation to find love, LA. If you're from LA you get it. If you're not, you're about to find out. We get into everything from dating serial liars to teen pregnancy to self-worth. So call...

First off YES LEAVE YOUR FIANCÉE! It's a no brainer and when y'all hear the story, YOU WILL AGREE. The theme of this weeks Bestie-Mail is GIVE THEM THE BOOT.  Because not everyone deserves to stay in your life and at some point, you have to be smart enough, strong enough and ready to make that decision. So lock in, it's that time again to give the good people of the Hanging Out 4eve...

This week we’re Hanging Out with Dr. Nigel Marcellus, who has a PhD in communication and studied Black love, relationships and how we experience love. Nigel has shares how and why he has never been in an official relationship and that he's been abstinent for 9 years. So obvs, we talk about sex, abstinence and modern dating from a man’s perspective. We get into the pressure men feel around sex...

This week the Besties had us talking about loyalty, breakups and HIGH standards. Because apparently keeping your boyfriend's friends' ex-girlfriends as friends is enough to get the entire friend group to hate you 😭 But the real question is... if your friends hate your partner, whose side are you supposed to be on? Here are the letters Aja & Grant read: My Boyfriend's Friends Ha...

This is a BIG ONE YALL. Most people have heard about Abigail Porter, aka The Girl With The List, the internets most iconic and influential child free person with over almost 350 reasons to never have children. If you've seen her, you know its her mission to inform women on the risks and dangers of pregnancy told from the perspectives of moms around the world who have dealt with life altering...

This is another Bestie-mail episode for the books.. There's a lot of kinks and fetishes in the world and most of them I don't judge and hell even the one we discussed in this episode I don't judge but the way he went about it was INSANE. And now pregnancy will never be the same for her. I guess the theme in this episode would be family. Here are the letters Aja & Grant read 1. M...

Besties, our most asked question is "what is it like dating interracially?" but our second???!! "How have y'all been together for NINE years?" So we're finally answering it. This week we're talking about what actually keeps a long-term relationship healthy, from communication and trust to keeping the spark alive, learning your partner, and why some couples grow t...

WE'RE BACK WITH ANOTHER EPISODE OF BESTIE-MAIL Yes, this is later than our normal release time. Aja had jury duty. It sucked. but anywhooo, We're back with more dilemmas, more drama, and more people who need advice from us and you . Lets lock in because these are... interesting This week we've got 1. A couple who are exploring polyamory 👀 2. A Black girl who'se white boyfriend...

Besties, in this week’s episode, Aja invites you into the Ladies Lounge for a serious conversation about dating a guy other men would classify as a “simp.” Unfortunately, there’s a dominant narrative that men who “simp” for their women are weak or emasculated, and Aja is here to argue the opposite. Let’s break down what the term simp really means and how a popularized, often misused phrase has bee...

Wake up, go on your lunch break or get off the phone because new ‘Bestie Mail’ has been delivered 💌 ! and theres a BIG DILEMMA about pregnancy and childbirth that we NEED to talk about Theres a lot to unpack, grab a glass of wine, put on a robe and put on a facemask. We gotta help these people out.  Here what we jump into today: My Girlfriend Cheated on Me My Husband Doesnt Care if I  Die WIBTA i...

Hey Besties! In a previous episode we shared how breaking up saved our relationship and we got a TON of questions on the real reason we broke up, a lot of y'all were wondering about the "Why?" so in this episode we talk about what happened that made Aja break up with Grant. We get into, why we broke up, how jarring that was, Grants lack of confidence/self belief and how his self ima...

Wake up, go on your lunch break or get off the phone because new ‘Bestie Mail’ has been delivered 💌 ! And in this episode DL .  Y'all this one has us shaking in our boots, because WHAT DO YOU MEAN your ex boyfriend was DL and now his man wants to fight you?? Theres so many things to unpack, we need to find a therapist and sit on their couch because this one was a doozy 😭 Here what we jump i...

Why are we always fighting? Why is everything always a problem with you? Why can’t you just be happy? In this episode we get into conflict, resolution  and how to get to the other side of an argument with your partner.  Somebody has to be the one bringing up the hard topics and that’s not always easy, especially when you want things to work. Sometimes in relationships, we fight to be understood, h...

Wake up, go on your lunch break or get off the phone because new ‘Bestie Mail’ has been delivered 💌 ! And in this episode the men tell all .  We need to remember men are people with feelings and today they’ve stopped by to share. Bodyshaming, divorce and dead beat baby daddies- OH MY Put your counselor caps on because we’re gonna dive in, break these stories down and give some advice. Here what w...

Addiction but make it comedy!  This week we talked to the one and only Juicy Mawma, comedian, content creator and 3 years sober girly- about her journey through sobriety, what partying in LA looked like for her, doing coke, drinking, and the realization that the lifestyle she was living was affecting every area of her life, including the men she was choosing to date. If you are on a journey throug...

Listener Letters Besties, we've officially increased the Listener Letter episodes to twice a month, due to popular demand! We've got some dilemmas here that we need to address and they are certainly things that a lot of people go through.. Well, except for the last one, that one is pretty unique. As always, we get into it! But FR for real we actually need to talk about how society raises...

Have Grant and I ever thought of cheating on each other? And could he live without me? Over the last 30 days, we've gained a ton of new besties!! (Welcome in!!) so we figured that it would be cute and fun to do a lil couples quiz episode, so we can share more about us, our relationship, and some of the obstacles we went through to make it to nine years. So if you're new here, this will b...

Listener Letters WOOF, Besties — this one was rough. Some episodes we walk away from with a good chuckle and a lil bit of WTF energy, but this wasn't one of them. Monster-in-laws are everybody's nightmare, but these listener letters take it to a whole new and terrifying level. If there's one thing we learned, it's how normalized it is to treat women poorly and that, unfortunate...

OK besties, in this episode we're answering a long standing question that many of you have asked what does my family specifically my Dad think of me dating a white guy? So our special guest is none of them my Dad, Michael and I sit down with him and a one-on-one conversation. We get into everything from meeting Grant the first time, to his expectations of me dating, and on top of that I read...

If you've been with us for a while you'll know that Aja used to  not believe in marriage and was fine to just "hang out 4ever" with Grant. But apparently things have changed. They talk about they potential of getting married, the social pressure expected out of people who date long term and what marriage really means. Let's get into it Besties and as always, let us know yo...

Happy Sunday Bestie Babes! Welcome to the 'Ladies Lounge' a new mini series apart of the Hanging Out 4ever podcast with Aja where we keke, keep it real and talk everything about dating and dealing with men. Welcome to the first episode which is one of the first steps you should take in a relationship,  'How To Run a Strict Program with Your Man' Sit down, pour up, or clean your...

She's building most controversial product to ever come out of Harvard Business School and it all revolves around women, pleasure and orgasms 👀 Aja sat down with Morgan Hewett, founder of Devin Toys one of the first AI-powered sex tech companies in the world fully centered around women, and we get into what that actually means, how the Devin works and learns you and your body in real time and...

This episode was one we knew we had to have, and it was a long time coming. Grant opens up to Aja about the moments he realized he wasn't man enough for the relationship he wanted to have with her. From being emotionally passive, to struggling financially, to putting in the bare minimum, and almost losing Aja completely — Grant shares what the most difficult parts of growing up while being in...

Hey Besties! We’re keeping it light on this week’s episode… but trust us, the next few weeks are about to get heavy. So before we dive into all of that, we decided to switch it up and ask each other some very serious “Would You Rather” questions. And by serious, we mean the kind that lowkey reveal how you really think about love, loyalty, jealousy, boundaries, and SECRETS. Let's get into this...

Hey Besties! We sat down with pro-sex content creator Lady K to talk about how Women experience pleasure, shame, ego, submission, dominance, and what happens when a Woman stops centering men and starts centering herself in the bedroom. There’s this weird thing in society where Women are allowed to be sexualized but are made to feel that aren't actually allowed to enjoy sex, not allowed to wan...