Clearing the Wreckage

Send us Fan Mail  hey my Wreckage Clearers! it is time for us to look at ourselves and stop pointing fingers at everyone else. I share with you a time where I had to really look at myself and the realization was "I am the problem." A lot of us think everyone else is the problem but I'm here to tell you that the problem is you but in knowing that you can also become the solution. To...

Send us Fan Mail Hey my Wreckage Clearers! We wrap up this series on guilt today by using some tools to move beyond that guilty feeling. That guilty feeling of saying, "No." That guilt from taking a break or simply resting. That guilt from performing poorly or failing a task or making a bad choice. We discussed it all and we learned together how to begin clearing this wreckage.  To learn...

Send us Fan Mail  Hey my Wreckage Clearers! We must be willing to go deep to figure out the why. Why is it that we are feeling guilty? Ids it healthy guilt or is it unearned or unhealthy guilt? Well let's discuss it and find out. Today I shared with you why I mainly have felt guilty in the past and I hope it helps you find out why you may be feeling guilty? To learn more about this podcast yo...

Send us Fan Mail Hey my Wreckage Clearers! We are on our last bit of the series, fear, shame and guilt. Today we discussed guilt and what it is and the different types of guilt. We are doing this so that we can become aware of what it is that we are feeling guilty for? Then and only then can we move forward. Let's figure this out together as we always do. To learn more about this podcast you...

Send us Fan Mail Hey my Wreckage Clearers we are here to discuss how because we already talked about what we are shameful of and why we feel such shame. Now web use push through it. We must clear the wreckage of shame. Walk with me as I give you a detailed approach on how I use the four A's to begin clearing the wreckage of shame. To learn more about this podcast you can direct message me @cl...

Send us Fan Mail Hey my Wreckage Clearers! We are getting down to the root cause today and that is we are answering the question why we feel such shame? In order to move forward and begin clearing the wreckage we must find out why we feel this shame? Why? We could start at the beginning and that is our childhood. Come on and go with me as we explore why we feel such shame? To learn more about this...

Send us Fan Mail  Hey my Wreckage Clearers! Shoot me a DM with your answer to this question. We must start here and we must first become aware of what we are holding shame for or what we are shameful of? That is the first step. How can we move forward without knowing any of this? We cannot and will not grow until we first recognize the what?  To learn more about this podcast you can direct message...

Send us Fan Mail  Hey my Wreckage Clearers! To inspire you today to move through the fear. Because fear will be there, and it's not going anywhere. Now we must ask the question, How? How do we move through this? I know what I'm afraid of and I know why. Now, how do I move through this fear? Well, interesting thing is that you can take small simple steps that will help you begin the proce...

Send us Fan Mail Hey my Wreckage Clearers! We need to dig deep and figure out why we are afraid? We have to do that before we can move through our fear and courageously move. We have to know what we are afraid of and why we are afraid of such thing, then we can figure out the how. first we must get honest with ourselves and we must realize that fear is actually very selfish especially irrational f...

Send us Fan Mail Hey my Wreckage Clearers! I want to get honest with you and openly discuss the time in my life where I actually begin to recognize how fearful I was. I actually answered the question for myself so that I can begin clearing the wreckage. Being afraid isn't necessarily a bad thing but allowing it to stop you from progressing in life, is! Let's continue going forward and gr...

Send us Fan Mail   Hey my Wreckage Clearers! We all want to be secure, right? Then when we become secure does the buck stop there? No, we must continue clearing the wreckage. The securely attached person still has difficult emotions. still goes through life's hardships they just handle them differently. Let's learn together on how this looks and how we can transition to this attachment s...

Send us Fan Mail Hey my Wreckage Clearers! I know that there is someone out there listening or watching that may not know this about themselves because for a while there, I did not know it either. Great thing my therapists pointed this out and helped me along the journey. Your whole existence has been driven from fear, guilt, and shame and you don't even know it. Especially if you are an anxi...

Send us Fan Mail  Hey my Wreckage Clearers. Today I get vulnerable with you and share about my relationship with an avoidant attached person. We were doing a dance, the pursue-withdrawal dance over and over again until the relationship collapsed. of course I share with you what I learned from it all.  To learn more about this podcast you can direct message me @clearingthewreckagepodcast on instagr...

Send us Fan Mail   Hey my Wreckage Clearers!! It's a wonderful time to for us to walk together in learning about our attachment styles. Are you anxiously attached? Do you know what your attachment style is? This conversation is for us to identify with other ourselves or our partner or spouse. If we recognize it in them or us? Either way, it is time to clear the wreckage. To learn more about t...

Send us Fan Mail   Hey My wreckage Clearers! Well what is anxious attachment style? I'm glad you asked and the only way to find out is by listening to this episode. This will be a two or three part series as we discuss this particular attachment style. We discussed where all of this came from and how I began the healing process and that is what I am sharing with you today.  To learn more abou...

Send us Fan Mail Hey my wreckage Clearers!! this isn't about gaining knowledge this is about gaining wisdom. Wisdom and brilliance is about practical application in our lives. Learning from our experiences but also learning that nothing was happening to us but rather for us. All for the betterment of us and not for the detriment of us. How are you going to become brilliant? Well, Listen up an...

Send us Fan Mail Hey my Wreckage Clearers! We got to see loss, pain, trauma, as an opportunity to grow. I had to become intentional with my life after my marriage. That old building had to be demolished and rebuild. Just in the same way, I had to be demolished so that I can rebuild. I wanted to become someone that I didn't even know existed. that old me could not comeback, it was time to beco...

Send us Fan Mail Hey my Wreckage Clearers!! It is important for you to feel all the feelings so that you can heal. you can only find the wreckage by taking time to look inside and that means feeling how we feel in order to clear the wreckage. We must not become the trash or the damage or the garbage that we feel. We are still good and that will never change. It will always remain a fact that you a...

Send us Fan Mail Hey my Wreckage Clearers! I'm back and today I want you to hone in on this episode because this is something I learned that I had to hold on to for dear life. That is, I am always with me. I am in relationship with me. first and foremost and always will be, no matter where I go, who I am with, I will be the common denominator. I might not have been married anymore but I sure...

Send us Fan Mail Hey my Wreckage Clearers!! I openly share with you how it is important to grieve yet it is also important to restart your life. Yes, after my divorce I felt it all from pain, anguish, hurt, sadness, and I did not know what life would look like without her in it. going through loss is hard but I am here to help you navigate through it as I share my experience with you. To learn mor...

Send us Fan Mail Hey my Wreckage Clearers! After my divorce in 2019 I had a gripping overwhelming feeling of loneliness. I mean I was and I didn't have any to come home to anymore. If you have experienced loss or a break up or heart break or even divorce than you know that feeling or you maybe can empathize with me a little bit. I was reassured by the fact that we are never alone. I may feel...

Send us Fan Mail Hey my Wreckage Clearers! This conversation is based on my experience of my marriage from 2017 to 2019 and how I lost myself but finally came home to my true self. I go over the analogy of baseball with you a little deeper than last time and how it relates to life's journey and my journey then. I hope this conversation is relatable and impactful to you. Let's continue to...

Send us Fan Mail Hey my Wreckage Clearers! As you know I get real and personal and vulnerable with you. Listen as I share about how I learned where my anxiety was stemming from and the why behind it all. I am sharing this with you because this is where we clear the wreckage and I hope that this conversation will enlighten you and as always take the time to look inside so that the wreckage can begi...

Send us Fan Mail Hey my Wreckage Clearers! Today I get vulnerable with you and share with you how I was feeling during parts of my marriage to my ex wife. I was only feeling the way I was due to my ego. Feeling great then feeling horrible was all produced by my ego and only that. It was not until I took the time to look inside that the wreckage begin to clear. Let's walk together on this jour...

Send us Fan Mail Hey my Wreckage Clearers! Do you feel that someone else's happiness or unhappiness is your fault? Do you offer unsolicited advice? Do you derive your self worth from being needed? Do you struggle to say "no"? Well, I do and I did. I don't as much as I did back then and I'm here to share my story with you. So come along on this journey with me and let'...