Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee

Most people are waiting to feel ready before they give themselves anything good. Waiting to like what they see in the mirror. Waiting to fix the patterns. Waiting for the feeling to arrive first. The feeling isn’t coming first. The action is. In this episode Rachel Lee breaks down what self love actually looks like in real life — not the concept, not the aesthetic, but the actual practice of showi...

Most people think they need more clarity. More awareness. More time. More answers. But that’s not what’s keeping you stuck. In this episode, I’m talking about something that sounds simple — start with yourself — but almost nobody actually understands what that means in real life. Because this wasn’t me for most of my life. I wasn’t aware of my patterns. I wasn’t “doing the work.” I was living on a...

This week I learned something I didn’t know before. Next Sunday is Divine Mercy Sunday — the day Jesus appeared to his disciples after the resurrection and showed them his wounds. Not to say look what happened to me. But to say — look. I’m still here. And I thought — that’s exactly what I’ve been trying to do on this podcast. There’s a difference between a wound and a scar. For a long time I empha...

There are people who fall apart. And then there are people who don’t. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “Why don’t I feel more than this?” or “Why do I just keep going no matter what’s happening?” This episode is for you. In this episode of Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee, we’re talking about what actually happens when you’ve spent most of your life handling everything — and never stopping l...

Why does other people’s behavior start bothering you more as you grow? In this episode of Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee, Rachel explores the connection between self-awareness, judgment, and personal growth — and why increased awareness often leads to decreased tolerance. She shares honest insights on noticing judgment in others, recognizing it within yourself, and understanding how past patterns...

What if joy isn’t something life gives you — what if you have to steal it back? In this episode, Rachel Lee gets honest about something she’s never fully named before: the practice of stealing joy from the moments that try to take everything. Not toxic positivity. Not silver linings. Defiance. Rachel shares the real stories behind how she learned to steal joy — from the relationships that ended an...

Awareness is often the first breakthrough in personal development. You start noticing your patterns, your habits, and the beliefs that shape how you react to the world. But awareness alone doesn’t change your life. In this episode of Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee , Rachel breaks down the gap between awareness and real change — and why so many people stay stuck even after they understand their pa...

What do we actually mean when we tell someone, “You’re not broken” ? In this episode of Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee , Rachel breaks down why that phrase—while usually well-intentioned—often misses the point entirely. Most people aren’t walking around thinking they’re defective. They’re exhausted. Overwhelmed. Numb. Grieving. Disoriented. And reassurance without specificity doesn’t help them un...

Why do certain moments hit harder than they should? Why does something small create a reaction you can’t logic your way out of? In this episode of Figuring It Out , Rachel Lee breaks down what triggers actually are — not something to fix or get rid of, but a signal your body has been here before. Using personal stories and real-life examples, Rachel explores how triggers repeat not as the same sit...

Why does calm feel uncomfortable? Why do good things make you brace instead of relax? In this episode of Figuring It Out , Rachel Lee breaks down what receiving actually means — not accepting help, not saying thank you, but allowing something good to exist in your life without preparing for its disappearance. Growing up in chaos wires your body to stay alert. Even when things are going well, you d...

Saying yes doesn’t always mean you're helpful. Sometimes, it means you're hiding. In this soul-shaking episode, Rachel Lee breaks down why overcommitting isn’t about productivity — it’s about pain. From organizing a football league while grieving, to quietly unraveling under the praise of being "so capable," Rachel shares what it really looks like to trade performance for peace....

What if being “the strong one” is actually just… self-abandonment in disguise? In this raw, resonant episode, Rachel Lee unpacks the hidden cost of looking impressive on paper — while quietly unraveling underneath. From staying overnight at the office (twice), to realizing her identity was built on being useful, Rachel tells the truth about performance, praise, and the parts of us that get buried...

What does it really look like to live like you’re worth it — even when you don’t feel like it? In this episode of Figuring It Out, Rachel Lee shares the messy, layered, and very human journey of reclaiming self-worth. This isn’t a highlight reel. It’s the real work of choosing yourself, again and again. Inside this episode: * Why knowing your worth isn’t the same as living it * The subtle ways unw...

What does it really mean to protect your peace? In this episode, Rachel Lee unpacks the often-misunderstood topic of access — who gets insight into your world, your energy, your emotions — and why it matters. From boundary confusion to oversharing habits, Rachel shares personal stories of what happens when access is given to the wrong people… and how to reclaim your voice without apology. You’ll l...

What happens when you stop reopening what was already healing? In this episode of Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee , Rachel explores the idea of scabs — the moments after pain, when healing has already begun, but familiarity tempts us to touch what no longer fits. This conversation isn’t about reliving wounds or rehashing trauma. It’s about access , boundaries , and the quiet power of restraint. Ra...

What if growth isn’t about being “there” — but realizing you’re further than you were ? In this episode of Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee , I talk about the kind of healing and personal growth that happens quietly — the internal shifts that change how you think, choose, and show up, long before life looks different on the outside. I share my own experiences with unlearning conditional worth, navi...

Healing isn’t always the dramatic breakthrough moment we expect. Most of the time, real healing is quiet, subtle, and invisible while you’re in it — and only obvious later when you look back and realize you’re not the person you used to be. In this episode of Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee , I’m sharing what healing has looked like in my real life — not the romanticized TikTok version, but the sl...

In this deeply personal episode of Figuring It Out with Rachel , I share why I stopped journaling as a child after a betrayal that changed my relationship with words — and how I found healing, legacy, and safety again through the power of voice. We explore: The trauma that made my words feel unsafe How grief shaped my understanding of voice and memory Why I chose audio as a way to reclaim my story...

Do you believe in signs? Not angel number trends. Not vague spiritual quotes. I’m talking about real moments — when something bigger reaches out to you. In this deeply personal episode, I share the signs that have shaped my life: The moment my son crawled into my dad’s room on the day he passed. The recliner that moved until I acknowledged it. My mom’s final words — after two weeks of silence. The...

In this episode of Figuring It Out with Rachel Lee , I dive into the truth about self-trust — how it breaks, how it shows up in your relationships and career, and how you rebuild it one small decision at a time. I share the moments where I ignored my intuition because I couldn’t “justify” it, including a story from almost a decade ago where my gut warned me about someone long before their true beh...

Figuring Out The Wound — Understanding Emotional Trauma, Healing Your Identity, and Becoming Who You’re Safe Being In Episode 9, Rachel Lee takes you into the heart of emotional healing — exploring the wounds we carry, the identities we build to survive them, and what it actually takes to feel safe inside your own life again. Through the lens of her personal story, Rachel unpacks childhood trauma,...

In this episode, Rachel breaks down the confusing “in-between” season — the hallway between who you used to be and who you’re meant to be . This is the space where everything feels blurry, uncomfortable, and unclear… but something inside you keeps whispering, “There’s more for you.” Rachel shares the real, raw stories of being spoken to like her old self, choosing herself through consistent action...

We’ve been lied to about healing. In this episode, we crack open the quiet truth nobody tells you: you're not supposed to get over your pain. You're supposed to get through it. From a raw grief group memory to a chance conversation with a stranger fighting anxiety, this episode walks you through the unspoken middle — the place between falling apart and putting yourself back together. If you've eve...

Ever catch yourself thinking, “What is wrong with me?” Or judging someone else with, “What the hell is wrong with them?” This episode is your permission slip to pause… and ask a better question. In today’s conversation, I unpack the difference between what happened to you and what’s wrong with you — and why that one shift in perspective is a game-changer for healing, boundaries, and emotional matu...

In this episode, Rachel Lee dives deep into what it truly means to choose yourself — even when it feels uncomfortable or uncertain. From setting boundaries to embracing your own path, Rachel explores how self-trust and courage can transform the way you show up in your life. Whether you’re navigating change, chasing a dream, or simply trying to reconnect with who you are, this conversation will rem...