Your Unpaid Therapists

Do dating app rrrrrreally work for lasting love or are they only good for short term disasters? Feeling defeated about hitting the dating scene post 30? Don't stress! Today's guest, David Hicks, is going to share with us how he Lifestyle Coached some of his clients and then found himself "on the apps" as well, much to his distain. And who did he find? None other than your very own Valery Ortiz, Mz...

Happy Holidays! As our gift to you we brought on a dear friend and yogi expert, Paul Benedict, to discuss tantric energy to help spice up and deepen intimacy with your partner during this cozy season! And if you're single, don't worry, you're still going to learn a LOT. I mean, you saw the last part of the title right? Yes, Valery & Alikona were equally as shocked! Get out your cocoa and your...

If you're a fan of CW/Netflix hit series In The Dark then you'll love hearing Keston John A.K.A. Darnell talk all about some his off the wall dates, his thoughts on thirst traps, and more! Cause, let's be real, as entertainers Alikona & Valery have loads of gay male besties and sometimes is refreshing to get that straight male perspective on the things ladies do for attention. As always be sur...

Ya'll know today's guest as the sassy Southern dancer, Kyle Hart, who marries Raquel (Valery Ortiz) before she passes away. SPOILER ALERT: They done killed Valery's character off! But today we're not talking about Hit The Floor, rather, we catch up with Kat Bailess to discuss her intimate journey with IVF in her 40's while Alikona shares her experience as a donor to another couple who ended up hav...

Now you knnnnnow there will always be people who use omission as a means of not quite lying, and it's often times coupled with cheating. Not always, but it happens, Bestie! In this one on one with Alikona & Valery they talk about their own experiences of being on the receiving end of some pretty hefty omissions. Our stellar Unpaid Therapist Matt Marr pops in at the end to give us his clinical...

Valery gets giddy as she introduces her boo thang; model, actor, life coach, and real estate agent, David Hicks. Finally a face to a name! Even better is we get to hear about David's amazing journey filled with taking huge chances with his life and career, how he mustered up the courage, and of course, how it all paid off. We hope this episode inspires you to dig deep and follow your calling too,...

The talented and intuitive Dream & Energy Coach, Teresa Espinosa shares some wild stories of healing by simply getting still and asking your body what it's trying to tell you. From chronic pains to diseases, it's all trapped energy that just wants to be acknowledged and released. In this episode Teresa coaches Alikona through releasing trapped emotions in her hip while Valery reveals how she r...

The pressure to have it all takes a toll on many of us, and in this episode our guest Roxana Rodriguez shares how hustle culture led to a mental breakdown. Not only that, it forced her to look at her upbringing and how she was parenting her own daughter with criticism by default. Roxana continues to amaze Valery & Alikona as she opens up about discovering she has AD (formerly referred to as As...

You've seen today's guest on TV shows like In The Dark, The Good Place, Chicago Fire, and as a Na'vi in Avatar Way of The Water! It all seems glamorous, but in this episode Valery & Alikona sit down with their good friend Keston John as they discuss the different ways in which they grew up and the challenges that came from parents who didn't know how to always create a safe emotional space for...

Protecting your glowing energy goodness is super important, but sometimes can be difficult when you are stuck around someone who is a constant "Debbie Downer." In this EP Alikona, Valery & Matt talk about how to deal with someone who just can't get off the complain train and/or how to recognize if you're the one manning the train!! And, as always their "Never Have I Evers" are loaded with a ni...

The term "toxic masculinity" might be newer-ish, but it's existed since the dawn of time. Sure, people talk about it, but in this episode Alikona & Valery sit down with special guest, Anthony Cardona, who openly admits that he's spent most of his life as a toxic male on a rampage of unintentionally hurting women. Anthony gets super vulnerable in sharing how his traumas and cultural roots allow...

For many of us, regardless of gender, there is a deep rooted societal pressure to look a certain way. Outside of pop culture and the media, "friends" and family members can also contribute to the unhappiness we somehow learn to feel about our bodies. Alikona and Valery share some of their own insecurities, how they developed, and how they cope, while their Unpaid Therapist Matt Marr gives us the t...

Therapist and Reality Gays Podcaster Matt Marr is back ya'll and he's dropping his professional knowledge on us! Whether we want to admit it or not, our little selves are still piloting our big selves, and gaining that awareness is only step one! Matt breaks down this on-going journey while Alikona discusses her own research and self healing practices as an adult child of an alcoholic. This episod...

This week's guest and manifestation guru has graced the stage with Janet Jackson, Britney Spears, Prince, Usher, Limp Bizkit, Justin Bieber - are your eyes tired yet? The list goes on. But what we want to know is, skill aside, how did those opportunities flow into her life? After studying independently and with manifestation masters, Teresa Espinosa realized she had been using the power of manifes...

YES! You read that title correctly. Our traumas can be directly tied to "kink" in the bedroom. Alikona drops a little knowledge from her Human Sexual Behavior class in college and special guest Anthony Cardona shares his own experiences as someone who dove into the world of kink and ended up finding out a lot about himself, his sexuality, and the reason infidelity kept following him into his relat...

Are you a total push over? Do you have every intention of not doing the thing, but somehow end up doing it to be nice? Then you are Alikona's spirit animal and this episode is for you! Alikona & Valery are joined once again by therapist and Reality Gays Podcast host Matt Marr as we discuss how empowering "no" can be. Annnnd this episode's Never Have I Ever are hilarious and quite, um, adventur...

You may have seen these two on T.V. (Hit The Floor, Ultimate Tag, Gabby Duran, AfterBuzz TV) or not, no big! But Valery Ortiz & Alikona Bradford are inviting you to pull up as seat on the couch as you get to know them on a deeper level for the first time ever! Break the ice with a lil' Never Have I Ever then, with the help of the jovial therapist and Reality Gays Podcast host Matt Marr, they d...