Your Unpaid Therapists

Valery gets riled up discussing the men & women who agree to do things to get ahead then turn around and claim they've been harassed or mistreated. This all came into her orbit after decided she no longer liked Blake Lively after seeing an interview where Blake seemed rude. Months later Valery found out there was a smear campaign against Blake shortly after Blake filed for harassment on set. W...

Thanks to IG people are suddenly throwing the term narcissist around like it ain't nuthin' but a G thang. However, there are so many layers to that word and whom it truly applies to. And sure, we've all dated our share of selfish folks, but it's helpful to know if you're dealing with a legit narcissist or perhaps if you are one. So our awesome returning friend, Matt Marr, joins Valery & Alikon...

Happy New-New! With 2025 promising a new beginning (if you're into that) and the excitement of a promising future, Alikona & Valery know how easy it is let those goals and resolutions slowly dwindle with out the RIGHT motivation. So in this episode the ladies are breaking down their best tips for sticking to the milestones that will keep you rocking towards your dreams! Let's get iiiiiiiii! Yo...

After dealing with multiple failures and allowing life to lead her in a new directions towards success, Kit Rich found herself amidst a depression during the pandemic. Rather than letting it break her, she decided to return to her passion, put pen to paper, and write a screenplay. This self expression led to directing a movie for the first time which went on to receive an array of accolades at fil...

Ho-Ho-Ho Bestie!!! This holiday season you may have been running a muck in those malls and ready for a nap, but before you close those weary eyes, take a beat and celebrate you! Val & Alikona know it might feel a little weird gifting yourself when you're supposed to be gifting others, but it's so important to fill thy cup!!! So whether it's a monetary gift or not, they want you to treat yo sel...

We're told that T'is the season for joy & happiness, but sometimes happy can be hard to find during the holidays, whether it's because of a life circumstance or you're just not feeling the consumerism of this time of year. Regardless, you deserve to feel happy! So in this episode, Valery & Alikona talk about all they ways they like to combat loneliness or somber feelings in hopes it will i...

Have you even been in a relationship where it just to that point? Gosh, we hope not, but that *ish happens! In this episode Valery brings up her guilty pleasure, a TV show called Ultimatum, which she can whole heartedly relate to. She gets vulnerable in sharing an ultimatum that didn’t go as she expected while Alikona shares her dislike for giving & receiving them. Love is such a complex...

So the saying goes, "never mix business with pleasure," but odds are everyone's ignored that at least ONCE in their lives and it was either awesome or shit went down in flames! This week Valery's boo thang, David Hicks, joins us as we discuss taking friendships or relationships to a totally different level by getting involved through either business, investments, or just plain ol' moving in with s...

Justin Timberlake & NSYNC made saying goodbye seem so easy! But ending a relationship; be it with a love interest, a friend, or family member, can be very difficult. And sommmmmmetimes we do it in unhealthy ways that involve talking a LOT of shit about the other person whilst forgetting the blessing that came from knowing the person. So, today your besties discuss how they’ve been challenged w...

Say my name, say my nammmme! While Destiny's Child may have been asking a man to proudly say her name, there is something to being able to say your name proudly and advocate for yourself when others want to be lazy and not take the time to learn it when it's not basic. "Huh?!, What are you talking about?," you might be thinking. When it comes to diversity in culture and ethnicity, having a na...

Opinions? There are many. Feelings? A whole lot. And as "minority" women who are close friends with members of the LGBTQIA2S+ community, Valery & Alikona are dumbfounded and still processing the reason why so many people were willing to overlook the blatant hate/discrimination and ignorance towards us and our friends by the two men that were just elected into office. While we try to rationaliz...

Diddy, Weinstein, Jeffries... the list of people finally getting caught for their abuse is continuing to grow. But with people like Diddy who have been accused of grooming talent and preying on those hungry to make their dreams come true, Valery & Alikona contemplate how far would you go? What would you do? Alikona even shares a couple experiences in her own life where she's both been proposit...

Ever wonder what it would be like to be psychic? Or have a weird hunch that you can't decipher whether it's your intuition, a psychic ability, or just a past trauma that's giving you that feeling? Alikona & Valery have!! Outside of being fascinated by the subject, your besties wanted to talk with someone who has been gifted with not just a psychic ability, but also took the time to study/train...

I meannnn, IS love blind or do we need to see all the superficial aspects of a person to determine if they are for us? In this episode Valery delves into her obsession with the show Love Is Blind and how we as a society and all our apps & technology have lost the art of getting to know someone. So perhaps this show is doing a service for couples in forcing people to get outside themselves to r...

Ever hear one of your friends complain about how they always attract emotionally unavailable men/women, cheaters, losers, married men/women, etc.? Do you always seem to attract the same type of lovers or friends and can't seem to figure out WHY?! Often times we blame the pool of shitty men/women that are available in the dating world and forget to check ourselves and how we're showing up in the wo...

Yooooooooo! Did you know that in tantric practices it's believed that being in a heightened state of awareness, such as peaking just before and during orgasm that you are the most powerful, in regards to manifesting your dreams? Also, breath work can be the key to unlocking moments of bliss throughout your day! Now that we have your attention, we know you're going to love so much about this episod...

In a world where we've been bombarded with the terms "self-care" & "self-love" many of us don't realize that we've somehow confused the two. Most of us, especially women, THINK we are loving ourselves by getting that massage or pedicure, but the truth is those are not a means of loving ourselves the way we think. In this episode Alikona & Valery breakdown the two and workshop how we can st...

Last week we tackled coping with trauma. This week we are continuing onto the aftermath, healing, and rediscovery of thy self post life-changing events. Our WOW Women of Wrestling Superhero, Jennyfer Roberts A.K.A. Ice Cold, is back to continue her story and share how she transformed her struggles into opportunities that landed her across the country and on T.V. Jennyfer's light and vulnerability...

To say this week's guest is a survivor would be an understatement. Taking a series of back to back physical and emotional hits, the Universe (and W.O.W.) have turned her into a "superhero" whose strength is undeniable. For anyone who's ever dealt with any type of trauma, you are not alone and Jennyfer Roberts A.K.A. "Ice Cold" from WOW Women of Wrestling is sharing her story in hopes you feel seen...

This episode will drop your jaw! WOW Superhero, Keta Rush, sits with us to share her journey of being bullied - which landed her in the hospital followed by years of recovery - to becoming the founder of Team Bully Busters to help combat bulling. We cover both the physical and mental aspects of bulling and how to take matters into your own hands, especially if you are a parent and/or your child is...

Birthdays. We love them as kids and can't wait to be another year older! Wooo! But then something happens, especially for women, once we exit our early 20's. Suddenly the idea of getting older no longer seems fun. The world treats you different, your sex appeal in society may or may not change, and your body starts doing things it hadn't before. It can all seem so strange, when it's actually not....

After marathoning across the Great Wall of China, Valery found herself in a whirlwind of emotions that reminded her of the precious moments created when stepping out of your comfort zone. In the is episode she and Alikona discuss some of their epic adventures in hopes of inspiring you to go out and have some of your own! From travel flops to burnt armpits, this episode will have you both laughing...

Teresa Espinosa is back in the house and we are talking about getting that monnnnnaaay!!! And if you're new to Teresa, she's just you know danced & choreographed for some of the hugest names in Hollywood as well as choreographed movies like Magic Mike. How you might ask? Using the same mindset she coaches others to do as they set out to accomplish their dreams and make great money doing it. Ho...

Besties, in a day and age where we as adults are owning when a relationship may not be working and filing for that D, it doesn't mean that it's easy. We know what at least SOME of you might be thinking, so get your head out of the gutter! Not that "D!" We're talking about divorce. One of Valery's childhood O.G. Unpaid Therapists, Karina Rodriguez, shares her experience with coming to terms with wh...

This is such a hot topic for us in today's world of lazy daters! We're talking about the folks that put in little to no effort and the many that come on wayyyyy to strong. How do we deal?! Our returning guest, Yael Tygiel, has loads of opinions and we're here for all of them! For more YourUnpaid Therapists be sure to follow us @yourunpaidtherapists & scope out our Patreon at www.tinyurl.com/Yo...