Your Relationships Are Keeping You Fat – a Ms. New Booty Fitness Podcast

You whisper, "I'm fine, I've got it," while tracking an endless mental list that never fully turns off. You secretly hope someone will notice how empty you are running. But the moment help gets close, your body tightens and you take the task right back. You are exhausted from carrying everything, yet terrified of what happens if you let yourself be carried. In this episode, we are looking closely...

You have that one really good week where everything clicks, and you think, there she is, I'm back. Then life happens, your circumstances shift, and suddenly you can't recreate that exact energy. Instead of seeing it as a single moment in time, you turn it into a permanent standard you have to meet. And now you're spending months trying to chase a version of yourself that no longer fits the life yo...

You are sitting there at the end of the day, looking at your schedule, thinking about what you said you were going to do. Suddenly, a quiet, undramatic thought shows up: I don't have it in me today. Just a few days ago, you were completely "locked in" with a perfect plan, and now it feels like something went wrong. You didn't fail because you lack discipline; you are caught in a predictable cycle...

You manage households, carry entire teams, and push through exhaustion. Yet, you still sit down at the end of the day feeling like you didn't do enough. The moment things finally slow down, your brain immediately starts searching for pressure again. Stopping feels strangely unsafe. For high capacity people, the hardest struggle happens quietly. It is a predictable pattern where your underlying wor...

You manage households, carry entire teams, and push through exhaustion. Yet, you still sit down at the end of the day feeling like you didn't do enough. The moment things finally slow down, your brain immediately starts searching for pressure again. Stopping feels strangely unsafe. For high capacity people, the hardest struggle happens quietly. It is a predictable pattern where your underlying wor...

You’re standing in the pantry at 9:37 PM, staring at the exact snacks you promised yourself you wouldn't touch. You aren't calmly choosing anymore; you're hunting for comfort, feeling like something has completely hijacked your brain. And right on cue, the inner critic chiming in to ask, Why can't I just have self-control? We tend to treat this late-night desperation as a personal failure or a sud...

There’s a specific week where you put on an outfit you’ve been excited about all week, and suddenly everything feels wrong. Within minutes, the excitement is gone, replaced by a heavy, critical energy that leaves you changing five times and pulling at your clothes. You spend the whole night trying to hold your stomach in, wondering if everyone else notices what you notice. It’s the moment your con...

You felt like you were finally getting back into a rhythm. Meals were planned, workouts were hit, and you felt focused. Then, something shifts, and suddenly everything feels heavy. You start asking yourself, "Why can’t I just stay consistent?". That midweek shift isn't a random failure of discipline; it is the friction caused by applying a linear expectation to a body that is inherently cyclical....

You’ve been showing up. You’ve been doing “everything right.” But when you look in the mirror, it feels like your body isn't responding. You start to wonder if your body is working against you. The frustration you feel when progress stalls isn't a sign that you need to try harder; it’s a sign that your body is operating under a different set of conditions than you realized. When your approach to h...

Send us Fan Mail The kitchen is closed. You aren’t even hungry but you find yourself standing in front of the pantry anyway, just looking for something to take the edge off the day. That nightly trip to the kitchen isn't a random failure of control; it’s a predictable response to a day where you’ve been "on" for everyone else. When your brain is mentally exhausted and your system is overstimulated...

Send us Fan Mail "I don't have it in me today." You said this week would be different. You felt clear, you were "locked in," and you meant it. But now, that quiet urge to pull out has arrived. The shift you're feeling isn't a failure of discipline; it’s the result of moving away from pressure as your primary fuel. For a long time, you relied on the tension of needing to "fix" yourself to create mo...

Send us Fan Mail You don’t fall off because you lack discipline. "This week is going to be different." "I'm locking in." But by Wednesday, the pressure you mistook for clarity starts to feel like a weight you can't carry. The struggle you experience every midweek isn't a random failure of willpower; it is a predictable pattern rooted in the way you start your week. When you begin from a place of u...

Send us Fan Mail You don’t keep starting over because you lack discipline. You keep starting over because of the voice you’re listening to in the moment things don’t go as planned. In this episode, we’re breaking down the internal dialogue that drives your decisions… and how it quietly shapes your consistency, your habits, and your identity. The moment your plan shifts… The moment you miss a worko...

Send us Fan Mail You’re not broken. But something is shifting. And for a lot of women… that shift can feel confusing when the pattern's become noticeable. In Season 1, we named what’s been happening beneath the surface: perfectionism, pressure, comparison, control,the patterns shaping your relationship with food, your body, and consistency. And for many women, that awareness brought relief. It als...

Send us Fan Mail You didn’t fall off, but it felt like you did. You have a good week. You follow through. You feel consistent. And then one moment… One off-plan meal. One missed workout. One busy day. And suddenly… it spirals. “I knew this would happen…” “Here we go again…” “This is why I can’t stay consistent…” It’s not the “off” day. It’s what that moment makes you feel about yourself because wh...

Send us Fan Mail If you keep telling yourself, “I’ll start over tomorrow” or “I just need to get back on track”… this episode is for you. Because the cycle of starting over doesn’t come from a lack of discipline. It comes from what you’re carrying into the moments when things don’t go as planned. A missed workout. An unplanned meal. A busy or overwhelming day. And the pressure that follows. In thi...

Send us Fan Mail If you’ve ever wondered why you know what to do for your health — but struggle to stay consistent — this episode connects the dots. In the Season 1 finale of Your Relationships Are Keeping You Fat , host Darla reflects on the deeper patterns shaping women’s health behaviors. After more than 15 years coaching women through body and lifestyle transformation, Darla shares the powerfu...

Send us Fan Mail Why do so many women struggle with consistency even when they know exactly what to do? In this episode of Your Relationships Are Keeping You Fat , we explore the powerful connection between self-worth, identity, and behavior change . Because the truth is, many women aren’t struggling with motivation — they’re protecting the identity they had to survive with. If your health goals f...

Send us Fan Mail Perfectionism isn’t just about high standards — it’s a nervous system strategy designed to avoid criticism, failure, and uncertainty. In this episode of Your Relationships Are Keeping You Fat , Darla explores how perfectionism fuels all-or-nothing thinking, disrupts motivation, and creates start-stop cycles in health and fitness. You’ll learn: • Why perfectionism activates the ner...

Send us Fan Mail Comparison doesn’t just steal joy — it disrupts nervous system safety, identity stability, and long-term adherence. In this episode, we explore the psychology and physiology of comparison, why high-achieving women are especially vulnerable to silent self-evaluation, and how social media, life-stage milestones, body image, and career metrics quietly reshape perception. You’ll learn...

Send us Fan Mail If you struggle with losing motivation for weight loss, workouts, or healthy habits, this episode explains why. Motivation isn’t designed to sustain long-term fat loss — and relying on it may be the reason consistency keeps breaking. In this episode, we unpack the neuroscience behind dopamine spikes, shame-driven urgency, all-or-nothing thinking, and identity threat. You’ll learn...

Send us Fan Mail If you feel like you’re constantly “getting back on track,” this episode explains why. Consistency in fitness often feels fragile — not because you lack discipline, but because life, stress, hormones, and identity shifts aren’t accounted for. In this episode, we explore: • Why consistency breaks during stress • Hormonal cycles and energy fluctuations • Gym anxiety and emotional sa...

Send us Fan Mail If food feels stressful, confusing, or emotionally loaded, this episode will shift your perspective. We explore emotional eating, food anxiety, cultural conditioning, and how fear-based dieting disrupts sustainable weight loss. You’ll learn how rebuilding trust with food improves hormone balance, consistency in fitness, and long-term adherence. We discuss: • Emotional eating patte...

Send us Fan Mail If you’re a high-achieving woman struggling with weight gain, fatigue, or burnout, this episode is for you. In this conversation, we unpack how hustle culture, workplace stress, and emotional overload impact hormone health, cortisol levels, and sustainable weight loss. We explore why burnout quietly erodes adherence and why motivation fades when stress rises. You’ll learn: • How c...

Send us Fan Mail Your weight loss journey doesn’t happen in isolation. In this episode, we explore how relationships influence sustainable weight loss, food choices, consistency in fitness, and identity. From dating and marriage weight gain to social pressure and alcohol, we unpack how external dynamics impact adherence. We discuss: • Weight gain in marriage and dating • Social drinking and fat lo...