Your Breakthrough Blueprint with Becky Aste | for the highly ambitious, high-performing wife who is ready to repair connection in her marriage and harmony in her body and life

This week I'm joined by Julie Brumley, my client support coach, and one of our Root to Rise clients who came to us three years ago desperate to save a marriage that was slipping away before it ever really began. What she shares in this episode is the most honest version of this journey I can offer you: the marriage didn't survive, but she did, and she walked away with a connection to herself, her...

I've been the woman who did all the therapy, all the modalities, all the healing programs, and still stood frozen at every crossroads not trusting my own next step, so this conversation with Vanessa Soul cracked something open for me. We get into why so much of what we call indecision is actually a fawn response in disguise, and how to tell the difference between old fear recycling and the real, q...

We're heading into summer, and I know so many of you are in the thick of transition right now, where the schedule you've leaned on all year just goes out the window. In this one, I'm sharing the two kinds of anchor points I've been using to keep my nervous system steady when life inevitably lifes, plus the real story of how mine flew out the window by Wednesday and why that was actually the whole...

I used to think the answer was getting my husband on board, that if I could just explain the vision clearly enough or feel called loudly enough, he'd finally buy in and stop resisting me. What I didn't understand back then is that I was speaking a completely different nervous system language than he was, and the harder I pushed for his approval the deeper he pulled away into apathy. This week my d...

A couple weeks ago, a two word text from another mom sent me into a full spiral, and I spent days looping, over apologizing, and chasing reassurance that never came. I'm getting vulnerable about what happened at my daughter's birthday party, because the same pattern that had me texting that mom is the same one that has you scanning your husband's face and asking "are we okay?" for the hundredth ti...

This week I sat down with Woniya Thibeault, the first woman to ever win a solo survival challenge on Alone, and our conversation cracked something wide open for me. We talked about what it really means to choose yourself before life forces the decision for you, and why the loneliest kind of starving is the kind you feel sitting right next to your person. If you have ever wondered whether walking a...

I've been moving through this body for years without ever stopping to ask if it actually feels safe, and today I'm guiding you through the same 20-minute somatic practice that changed everything for me. We'll travel from your roots all the way to your crown, pausing at each layer to feel what's been stored there instead of just talking about it. This is your invitation to stop holding yourself up,...

If you're the woman who looks wildly successful on the outside but still goes to bed wondering why peace feels so far away, this conversation with Cara Ugolini is going to hit deep. We get into why so many of us are running on a hustle we inherited long before we ever consciously chose it, and why no amount of achievement will ever feel like enough until we address what's driving it underneath. If...

Understanding and Working Through Triggers This week, we’re diving into the world of triggers — what they are, why they happen, and how we can begin to move through them with more awareness and care. We all get triggered sometimes, and it’s in spaces like this that we get to unpack what’s really going on underneath. Whether it’s emotional, relational, or nervous-system based, this episode offers t...

This one is for the woman who knows something feels off but can't tell if it's her intuition or her anxiety, the one stuck replaying his tone, doubting her own gut, wondering if she's the problem. I'm getting honest about what these last few weeks of my life have actually looked like, including the things I've avoided for years and what finally got me to take the step. And I want to share what I'm...

My mentor Kate Appleton is back on the podcast, and this conversation is the medicine I think so many of us are desperately seeking right now. We get into why so many women are walking around exhausted, controlling, and disconnected, and how the grief underneath all of it is actually the doorway back to ourselves and our families. Kate gives us such tangible, doable ways to start coming home to ea...

In this episode, I'm taking you into one of the most tender and real practices I know: learning to let yourself actually want things again. We've been in survival mode so long that dreaming feels dangerous, and I want to walk you through exactly what it looks like to cross that tiny bridge from who you've had to be to who you already are. This one is a somatic experience as much as it is a convers...

In this conversation, I sit down with three-time Olympian Shannon Rowbury, and we go deep on what it actually means to rebuild trust with your body after pregnancy, postpartum, and beyond. Shannon shares how years of elite athletic training taught her that the small, overlooked muscles and the quiet moments of recovery are what create sustainable, lasting strength. Whether you've been putting off...

In my darkest season, I found myself asking if there was any coming back. Drawing on the story of Jesus in the garden of Gethsemane, through betrayal, crucifixion, and resurrection, I'm walking you through the most powerful metaphor for what we go through as women navigating our hardest chapters. Whether you're in the tomb right now or just beginning to emerge, this one is going to meet you exactl...

This episode genuinely had me asking "where has this been all my life?" I sat down with Dr. Perry Nickelston, also known as "The Lymph Doc," to talk about a system most of us have been completely ignoring: the lymphatic system. We broke down how it connects to your nervous system, your immune health, and your body's ability to heal. Plus, Dr. Perry walked us through his simple but powerful "Big Si...

This episode is a special sneak peek inside my two-day live immersion, Unspoken, where we dove deep into the side of communication that nobody talks about — the nonverbal kind that lives in your body, your nervous system, your energy, and your tone. I brought in expert voices, my husband Sebastian, and even past clients to show you what it actually looks like when women stop fighting to be heard a...

In this episode, I'm taking you inside one of my most powerful Root to Rise group coaching calls and it's something I've never done on the podcast before. We go far beyond the surface-level communication advice you've heard a thousand times, diving into the energetic and somatic side of why your voice gets stuck in the first place. If you've ever felt like Ursula stole your voice, this one is for...

Dub Paetz spent 80 days completely alone in the sub-zero Arctic as a finalist on Season 11 of Alone, and the parallels to what so many of us experience in our emotional and relational lives are undeniable. What struck me most wasn't just his physical survival skills, but the way extreme isolation forced him to face decades of buried wounds and come out the other side more himself than ever. If you...

In this episode, I'm sitting down with my dear client and friend Kristi, whose journey through unimaginable loss, a cancer scare, betrayal, and a crumbling marriage led her to one of the most profound transformations I've ever had the privilege of witnessing up close. What she shares about learning to stop controlling everything and finally come back to herself is the kind of raw, hard-fought wisd...

What if the parenting advice we were handed wasn't actually aligned with how God designed our kids? This week, I'm sitting down with Meaghan Hampton, LPC-Associate and founder of Soul Care for Families, and we are going deep on this topic. If you grew up in the church, were handed certain parenting books, or ever felt that knot in your stomach when a teaching just didn't sit right, this one is for...

This episode is one of the most personal ones I've recorded in a long time, and I'm so grateful you're here for it. I'm sharing what's really been on my heart — grief, a hospital scare, breathwork, my nervous system, and the quiet courage it takes to keep showing up when life feels this tender. If you've ever wondered what healing actually looks like in real time, this one's for you. ✨ Topics Cov...

This week I'm joined by one of my Root to Rise clients, and hearing her share how she went from constant hypervigilance and fear of abandonment to genuine peace in her relationship reminded me why I do this work. Sonia's breakthrough wasn't about fixing her partner or finding the perfect relationship strategy, it was about learning to slow down, trust herself, and stop abandoning herself in the na...

In this episode, I share tangible, practical ways to create safety in your mind and nervous system during turbulent personal and political times. With so much collective fear and uncertainty, I invite you to root deeper into your somatic, spiritual, and subconscious safety than ever before. Join me as we cultivate somatic strength and sanity when the world feels scary. ✨ What We Cover In This Epi...

In this episode, I sit down with Elizabeth Scarcella to explore why you might still feel physically depleted even after doing deep emotional and nervous system work. We unpack the biochemistry of betrayal trauma: how cortisol floods your system like a firefighter that won't stop spraying water, dampening your thyroid, draining your progesterone, and throwing your entire hormone cascade into chaos....

This week, I'm joined by Christina Lane to talk about something that keeps so many of us stuck: what happens when love has hurt us so deeply that our bodies literally can't tell the difference between intimacy and danger anymore. We explored how triggers aren't proof that something's wrong with us; they're actually invitations for deeper connection if we know how to work with them. Christina share...