You & All Your Parts

Join Laura in this podcast episode as she unravels Jill Bolte Taylor's 90-second rule of emotion. Laura delves into the concept, exploring how our emotions chemically only last for just 90 seconds, and the power we hold in choosing how to respond to them. Discover valuable insights on emotional resilience and strategies to navigate the ebb and flow of emotions, making this episode a transformative...

Explore the profound importance of acceptance with Laura in this podcast episode, where she delves into the multifaceted nature of acceptance across various healing modalities. From Kristin Neff's Radical Acceptance work and Internal Family Systems, Laura explores acceptance and how it has impacted her life, and she hopes she encourages you to consider adding a little more acceptance into yours.

Listen in as Laura talks about how your Parts might feel about New Years. Are they excited or 'eh? Either way, she'll share some of her past New Year's self-reflection exercises and she tells you how to grab her 2023-2024 Parts Work Journal so you too can reflect on your Parts Work journey.

Join Laura as she guides you and your Parts through a quick but effective meditation so you can find out how your internal system feels about the holidays. As always, she knows your time is valuable. Enjoy this quick 10-minute meditation that you can use daily on this upcoming holiday week.

Laura pulls back the curtain on her life and her creative process as she shares with you how life has been very challenging and her top tips for staying connected to her own Internal Family System, i.e. her Parts during the last few difficult months.

Laura's has been quite open about her Road Rage Part. Listen in as she updates you on how she's been working with it since it hijacked her back in the summer. She shares what she's learned about why it gets so triggered, and also how she now works with it to avoid being hijacked. Listen in and see if you might be able to use the tools Laura shares to work with your own reactionary Parts.

Laura chose the phrase "Just Be" for her 2023 Word of the Year. She shares with you what came up in her system when she actually tried "Just Being", and what Parts came up when she talked to other Parts Nerds about it. She'll challenge you to notice how your system reacts, and then get curious about "Just Being."

Externalizing your Parts is a fabulous way to help you unblend from your Parts. Laura shares with you multiple ways you can externalize your Parts, and encourages you to keep trying different methods until you find one that really resonates to you.

Laura makes no bones about the fact that she loves Inner Critics. She knows they are loathed by other Parts in many peoples' systems, which is what makes her love them so much. And to that point, there is rarely JUST a Critic. There are other common Parts that show up with an Inner Critic. Listen in to see if you recognize any of the Parts Laura mentions.

Laura shares how shocked she was when she recently realized that her Part's opinions were not actually facts. The Parts were very convinced of what they said, but when Laura could unblend a bit, she could see their agenda. Listen to to see if you have Parts that present information like it is a fact.

A question came in to Laura, "How can a Part be older than me?" Listen in as Laura shares her thoughts on why Parts can appear older than we are and she event tiptoes into the arena of guides.

Have you heard of these two acronyms: W.A.I.T. & W.I.T.? Laura thinks they could be helpful to you in life and in your Parts Work journey.

A question Laura gets is "are their common Parts people have?" Laura shares a list of Parts Jay Earley has identified and gives her own take on those Parts. The truth: yes, there are common Parts people tend to have, but how they show up is unique to you and your lived experience.

Have you ever wondered where your Parts come from? Laura shares that IFS believes we're all born with our Parts and then talks through how some of them get burdened.

Being able to work with your Parts as things are happening in your life is where the rubber meets the road in Parts Work. Laura shares with you two examples, one hers, one Liz Gilbert's of working with your Parts in real-time when they become activated. Listen in!

We can't always do everything our Parts want us to do. This is particularly true when you have two Parts that want diametrically opposed things. Listen in as Laura walks through how she uses her Triple A's of Acknowledge, Accept, and Appreciate to help her listen to her Parts with compassion and then make a choice that is best for her overall system.

It wasn't that long ago that Laura learned this truth: you don't have to act on EVERY thought you have. Laura shares this truth but also talks about being hijacked by a Part, because that is a thing that happens. Listen in to learn more.

A common question Laura gets is "How many Parts do I have?" Listen in for Laura's spin and how even though she has identified over 150 of her own Parts, she doesn't see them every day.

Laura revisit's Gary Chapman's 1992 best-selling book, The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. She shares that it didn't really resonate with her back then. But now she understands its because her Parts have differing wants and desires and that includes different Love Languages.

Laura shares a guided meditation based on Joanne Twombley's work to help you create a safe haven for your Parts.

After people clapped back at Laura's use of the word 'blending' with a Part, she looked up the IFS definition in her Training Manual. She discusses how after several conversations with people on the topic, they can agree to disagree about what 'blending' means and if it's "good" or "bad."

Listen in as Laura discusses the magic of blending with your Parts and embracing their energy. Some folks mistakenly think that the whole point of Internal Family Systems (IFS) is to detach from your Parts and live solely in Self-Energy. But that isn’t true. Our Parts, in their unburdened form, have gifts to share with us. Blend with those gifts and enjoy more of your life.

Did you know that IFS has added a 9th C to the list of Self-Energy Qualities? Exciting, right? Tune in as Laura shares with you the two books that have now added that 9th C and when and how that 9th C evaded her recently in her own life.

Laura shares how she's been working to create scripts to help people who struggle with speaking to their Parts from a place of love and compassion. She shares how she's faked it until she's made it and wants to help you too! If you have a situation with your Parts that flummoxes you on how to be loving, write her. She'll be glad to help you script out a loving response.

Are you overwhelmed by complex emotion charges that splinter out into ever larger circles or are pages and pages long? So was Laura. Tune is as she shares a simplified version of an emotion chart she found in "The Loving Parent Guidebook" by ACA. She hopes it resonates with you and your system like it did with her and her Parts.