Wildly Her

In this episode, I'm talking about the roles children are assigned in narcissistic family systems. We break down a little bit about the scapegoat, the golden child, and the ones caught quietly in the middle who learned to survive by becoming invisible. These roles were never our identity… but many of us grew up believing they were. We explore how narcissistic parents project their own wounds,...

When you’re dealing with a narcissist, peace doesn’t come from changing them. It comes from changing how you show up. In this episode of Wildly Her , I’m breaking down one of the most powerful truths in healing: your interaction is your protection. We’ll talk about why engaging, defending, explaining, and waiting for accountability keeps you trapped… and how stepping out of that cycle is where you...

TRIGGER WARNING: ABUSE AND TRAUMA In this episode, I’m opening the door to my own story. I’m sharing the reality of what it took to walk away… the violence, the heartbreak, the unraveling of everything I once called my life. Because no one really talks about this part. Leaving doesn’t feel empowering at first. It feels like grief swallowing you whole. Because leaving wasn’t just a goodbye, it was...

In this episode, we’re talking about two more beliefs that stay long after emotional and psychological abuse ends. These are some that make you shrink, hide, and panic because you feel like you’re still the problem… even when you’re finally free. You’re not broken. You were conditioned in an environment that trained you to believe you were. This is a continued conversation about unlearning the ide...

In this episode, we’re talking about the beliefs that stay long after emotional and psychological abuse ends. The ones that make you question yourself, doubt your worth, and feel like you’re still the problem… even when you’re finally free. You’re not broken. You were conditioned. This is a conversation about unlearning the identity you were given, understanding why healing takes time, and gently...

In this episode of Wildly Her , I'm talking about emotional conditioning. The subtle, often invisible patterns that slowly teach you to shrink, second-guess yourself, and keep the peace at your own expense. When you’ve been in a narcissistic or emotionally manipulative relationship, the damage isn’t always loud or obvious. It’s layered. It’s quiet. And over time, it changes how you see yourse...

In this deeply honest episode of Wildly Her , I open up about one of the most confusing and painful dynamics in narcissistic and emotionally abusive relationships: triangulation . Triangulation is a tool used to control, divide and manipulate. When communication is filtered through a third person, it can quietly erode trust, distort reality, and create distance between the people who need connecti...

In this episode of Wildly Her , we talk about how emotional and psychological abuse erodes self-trust, why our nervous systems cling to what’s familiar even when it hurts, and how having just one safe, grounded person can help us come back to ourselves. When we’re with someone who is emotionally regulated and empathetic, our nervous systems can co-regulate with theirs bringing calm, clarity, and t...

When we believe someone we love may be in an emotionally or psychologically abusive relationship, our instinct is often to fix it , warn them , or push them to leave . But what if, in our fear, we unintentionally begin to mirror the very control we’re urging them to escape? In this episode, we talk about what it truly means to support a friend who may be in an abusive relationship, without taking...

In this episode of Wildly Her , I’m sharing the top 10 truths I’ve learned over the years through therapy, lived experience, and the long road of healing — especially as they apply to recovering from narcissistic abuse . These aren’t surface level affirmations or quick fixes. They’re the grounding truths that helped me untangle confusion, release shame, rebuild trust with myself, and slowly come f...

In this episode of Wildly Her , we look at what happens in the aftermath of leaving a narcissistic relationship. Leaving a narcissistic relationship is only the first step and what happens next can be just as disorienting. We explore the painful and often overlooked aftermath: the shifting friendships, the family dynamics that suddenly feel uncertain, and the heartbreak of watching people you trus...

In this episode of Wildly Her we're talking about who narcissists target and why . This conversation isn’t about weakness. It’s about strength. I'm talking about the similarities in all of us as survivors who learned how to survive, adapt, and carry others when needed. In this episode, I break down the powerful traits that live inside all survivors, and how those very qualities become th...

For so many of us in psychologically and emotionally abusive relationships, using our voice wasn't safe. It was met with silence, dismissal, punishment, or chaos. We learned to stay quiet to survive… or to scream just to feel seen. In this episode of Wildly Her , we explore what it really means to find your voice after living in emotional invisibility. We talk about why validation and being s...

In this episode of Wildly Her , we dive into how rejection can shape our identity.  Rejection doesn’t always show up as a single moment. It's on replay when we're under psychological and emotional abuse.  Sometimes it becomes a quiet narrator in our minds and it begins to shape how we see ourselves, how we love, how we show up, and what we believe we deserve. In this episode, we walk thr...

In this episode, I shine a light on one of the most exhausting parts of psychological and emotional abuse: the way an abuser twists the narrative to make you look like the problem. From flipping blame to provoking emotion and then shaming you for having it, these traps are designed to confuse your mind, shake your confidence, and make you doubt your own reality. I break down some of the most commo...

In this episode of Wildly Her , I open up about the well-intentioned advice I received that actually caused me more confusion in my healing.  I felt pressure to be thankful for what I endured and to forgive in ways that dismissed my pain and furthered abusive behaviors. I talk about how the misconceptions behind these messages, especially for survivors of psychological and emotional abuse, can cau...

In this episode of Wildly Her , we’re talking about survival mode. The automatic behaviors we adopt to endure psychological and emotional abuse, and how those same behaviors can follow us long after we’re “safe.” I’m sharing pieces of my own story and the subtle survival patterns that became my “normal” during years of narcissistic abuse. These coping habits once protected me but eventually they k...

In this episode of Wildly Her , we’re diving into the topic of narcissism. We discuss what it is, how it shows up, and some of the different types of narcissists. This conversation is for awareness and education only—not for diagnosing anyone. Any use of this podcast for diagnosis is strictly prohibited. I’ll share some of the common characteristics associated with narcissistic behavior, along wit...

In this Wildly Her interview, I sit down with author Mia Hanks, writer of Bride Made: A Memoir , to talk about escaping narcissistic abuse, the lasting impact of emotional manipulation, and the power of reclaiming your story. As a survivor, Mia shares the truths she uncovered about narcissistic relationships, and together we explore what it means to rise from the wreckage of abuse with courage and...

In this episode of Wildly Her , I open up about the pivotal moments that pushed me to begin my healing journey. It wasn’t a single breaking point. It was a series of things that broke me and that led me to seek help. My counselor was the first person who didn’t try to fix my relationships or mold me to fit into them. Instead, she helped me discover the things inside of myself that I had buried lik...

In this episode of Wildly Her, we step into the hidden reality of why so many victims remain in emotionally and psychologically abusive relationships. It’s not weakness—it’s survival. Abusers use powerful techniques to isolate, manipulate, and break us down until leaving feels impossible. We’ll talk about the crushing weight of rejection, the manipulation that strips us of our strength, and the in...

In this episode of Wildly Her , I open my heart and share pieces of my own grief and the losses I had to face. Grief after psychological and emotional abuse is often invisible, and yet it runs deep. We can grieve the time we lost, the version of ourselves we couldn’t be, and the love or safety that never came. Together, we’ll talk about how grief is not a sign of weakness but a natural part of hea...

In this episode of Wildly Her , we step into the raw ache of worthlessness... the place where love feels impossible to receive and every whisper says you’re not good enough . Psychological and emotional abuse can twist our reflection until we believe we are unlovable, broken, and undeserving. But beneath the lies, there is still a deep desire for love and connection. Together, we’ll explore what i...

In this episode, we expose the hidden playbook of emotional and psychological abusers. I'll explain the subtle tactics and manipulative techniques they use to keep you off balance, doubting yourself, and under their control. From gaslighting to emotional blackmail and silent treatments, we’ll name the strategies for what they are so you can see them clearly. This isn’t about fear. This is abo...

In this episode of Wildly Her , we talk about the obstacles that often rise up when we begin to heal from abuse. We'll unpack the doubts and hidden emotions that surface as we start to uncover what’s really happening inside of us. Together, we’ll explore why these challenges show up, how to face them with compassion, and what it means to keep moving forward on the path to wholeness. We'd...