What You Took Back Podcast

Picture your family or friend group chat. Someone's asked you to host Christmas again — same as every year — and for the first time, you type the word "no." Then you delete it. You write it again, this time with a paragraph attached: how tired you've been, the kids' schedule, a "maybe next year" so nobody feels rejected. That's not a boundary. That's a boundary wearing a disguise so it can sneak p...

Someone decided you were the strong one. Nobody asked your permission. And somewhere along the way, it became the only thing you were allowed to be. This episode is for the woman underneath the strength — the one who has held everyone else together and never once been the person someone rushed to check on. It's time to talk about what that costs. You became the ceiling that holds everything up. An...

Episode 17 — "She Was Always the Strong One. Nobody Checked on Her." Everyone decided you were the strong one. Not because you asked for it. Not because anyone sat down and voted. But because when things fell apart, you stayed steady. When there was a crisis, you handled it. When everyone else needed holding — you held them. And because you did it so well, so consistently, so quietly — nobody thou...

Episode 15 — "You are not difficult. You are just done." You were the easy one. The agreeable one. The one who never caused a fuss. You let things roll off your shoulders. You swallowed the truths that deserved to be said out loud. You kept the peace — even when it meant losing yourself. And somewhere along the way, you called it strength. It wasn't strength. It was self-abandonment. In this episo...

EPISODE 14: THE BARE MINIMUM IS STILL SOMETHING Ever had one of those days where simply getting through it felt like an achievement — but you still convinced yourself it wasn't enough? This episode is for the woman carrying the mental load, juggling everything, showing up for everyone else, and quietly beating herself up for not doing more. Somewhere along the way, you started believing every day...

Episode 13 — The Price Of Being Everything To Everyone Following on from last week’s episode My Sister’s Keeper, this conversation goes deeper into the roles women inherit… and the identities they slowly disappear inside of. Some women were never taught how to belong to themselves. Only how to be useful. Needed.  In this episode, Skye explores the quiet conditioning many women carry through relati...

# My Sister's Keeper: Navigating the Complexities of Caregiving in Childhood  Explore the emotional journey of childhood caregiving in "My Sister's Keeper". Understand the impact of early responsibility on personal growth and mental health. In this deeply personal episode of "What You Took Back", host Skye Underhill opens up about the intricate dynamics of being a caregiver from a young age. For m...

Episode 11: I Don’t Need a Holiday, I Need Everyone to Stop Asking Me for Things This week’s episode is lighter, honest, and probably a little too relatable. We’re talking about the kind of exhaustion that isn’t fixed by sleep or a weekend away — the mental load, constant accessibility, emotional labour, invisible responsibility, and what happens when being “capable” quietly becomes your entire pe...

Skye Underhill discusses a transformative approach for women seeking lasting change, emphasizing honesty, structure, and accessibility over gimmicks. She shares her methodology rooted in genuine understanding and internal development. Key Topics: The pitfalls of temporary gimmicks in women's self-help A structured, honest approach to lasting change The importance of internal authenticity in person...

Have you ever sat down for dinner with your partner, only to find that both of you are distracted, scrolling through your phones or lost in thought? If this sounds familiar, you are not alone. Many couples are experiencing a gradual drift in their connection amidst the chaos of daily life. In this podcast, we will explore how we can reclaim what belongs to us—genuine intimacy and connection with o...

What if your perfect life feels empty inside? This episode is for anyone who seems to have it all, yet still feels lost or unfulfilled. Skye gets into the psychology of why this happens to so many of us — men and women — and why it has nothing to do with making bad choices. In fact, it happened because you made all the right ones.   She shares her own story of lying in the pitch black one night se...

Episode 7. Skye navigates life after 40, and how it’s easy to feel adrift in our friendships. We have our lifelong pals, sure, but what about those new connections that can spark joy and understanding?  Here’s the thing: the gap where new friends should be can feel vast. It’s not because we’re broken or anti-social; it’s a structural issue. We grew up in a friendship model built on forced closenes...

We all have moments when we lose our confidence, often without even realising it. It doesn’t happen all at once; it’s a gradual process where life’s demands overshadow our true selves.   Confidence slips away like the tide, leaving us standing on unfamiliar ground, questioning who we are. It’s a feeling many women share, and today we dive deep into understanding and reclaiming that lost confidence...

Skye Underhill shares her powerful story of resilience, motherhood, and overcoming societal stigma. This episode explores themes of identity, shame, and the strength it takes to step into your truth, especially as a young mother facing judgment. Skye examines the subtleties of labels, judgment, and understanding in human behaviour, highlighting the importance of empathy and recognising complexity...

Have you ever stopped for a second—somewhere in the middle of doing everything for everyone—and thought, what am I actually doing all this for? If that question has crossed your mind, you’re not alone. In this episode, Skye talks about purpose—but not in the big, overwhelming, “find your life calling” kind of way.  Skye discusses the small, real moments when you begin to come back to yourself. The...

You look like you’ve got it together. You show up. You deliver. You handle it. But underneath it? There’s a quiet thought you don’t say out loud— “What if I don’t actually belong here?” This episode dives into the silent weight of feeling like a fraud in rooms you’ve already earned your place in. Not the loud, obvious self-doubt… but the subtle, persistent fear that one day, someone’s going to “fi...

Most women are taught to be the "strong one"—the calm, capable, constant in chaos. But what happens when that strength becomes a mask, draining your energy and hiding your true needs? In this candid episode, Skye Underhill exposes the quiet toll of overfunctioning, revealing how the 'infrastructure' of emotional labour can quietly strip away your sense of self. You'll discover why the role of the...

Welcome to episode 1, The Woman Who Never Drops the Ball. # The Woman Who Never Drops the Ball: Understanding Strong Women and Their Hidden Struggles.  Discover the emotional cost of being the reliable one. Learn how strong women can reclaim their identities and boundaries as they navigate life's challenges. In today’s fast-paced world, many women find themselves labelled as the "reliable one"—the...