We're Having Gay Sex

Sophie Santos (buy her new book The One You Want to Marry) is such an incredible story teller and I'm so excited to share story of her first gay sex experience (which sounds like it could not have gone worse). We also get into OCD and whether or not Kate and Ashley have it. Kate has either a gay sex moment or a straight sex moment. Ashley is in a weird thing with a woman who just closed her relati...

Cameron Esposito (Queery Podcast, Conan, STARS) joins the pod this week for a roundtable discussion on queer teenaged longing and the lengths young gays go to for puppy love. Ashley meets up with a girl at camp in the middle of the night. Kate sneaks into a movie with her camp "friend". Cameron can be found @cameronesposito on ig and twitter. They are going to Chicago and Salt Lake City on tour th...

James Tison (The New York Times) cracks open the vulnerability wide open on this episode by discussing his partner's transition, couples therapy, scheduling sex and more. Ashley doesn't understand straight sex. Kate cries. James can be found everywhere @jamestison Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on...

It is no secret that Ashley has a huge crush on Izzy McCalla (The Prom on Broadway and Aladdin on Broadway) and it's because she never disappoints. We cover Izzy's moments getting heckled on Broadway and her very pleasant threesome. Ashley sees boobies for the first time. Kate gets their boobies seen for the first time. Izzy can be found on IG @izzymccalla Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ash...

Lucky us! We got to sit down with one of our top requested guests ever! You might know Gaby Dunn from their viral youtube series, hit podcasts (Bad With Money and Just Between Us), or their work on Netflix's Big Mouth. We get into American Girl Dolls, dating cis men as an AFAB ENBY person, and how cis men are actually the secret to ending climate change. Ashley has another Horse Girl story. Kate h...

Alysia Brown (Tampon Rock Podcast) cancels Ashley on the podcast today, but also dives into the nitty gritty of her own sl*t phase. We get into not knowing your type, loving a "will they / won't they / push and pull", and whether or not having an all black cat makes you an ally. Ashley tries out some BDSM stuff. Someone had sex in Kate's house. Alysia can be found @alysia.brown on ig, alysiabr0wn...

Fumi Abe (as seen on Colbert and a writer on The Late Late Show, and host of the Asian Not Asian Podcast) is respectfully horny and here to tell us what that means. We get into his attraction to soccer plays and strong women and how they always turn out to be gay, copying lesbian fashion as a straight man, and communication during sex. Ashley has mommy issues. Kate has period sex before knowing sh...

Queer Sex Educator Eva Bloom (@whatsmybodydoing on all platforms) is here to answer all your questions about queer sex ed, having a sl*t phase, and also that time she had an insane threesome in front of her colleagues at a sex conference. Ashley goes on a date with horse girl. Kate has an unexpected dirty talk experience.  Eva can be found @whatsmybodydoing everywhere.  We are nearly 100% funded b...

Ian Fidance (Bi Guys Pod) is hands down one of the best comedians in New York City and the first openly bi guy at the world famous Comedy Cellar. We dive into breaking his post-break up celibacy, and how to politely ask for a hand job. Ashley has phone sex with a stranger. Kate wants to get pegged. Ian Fidance can be found @ianimal69 everywhere, including twitch where he streams video gaming. List...

Franqi French (Stand Up NBC) is not only queer herself, but raising a badass baby-they in an ethical open marriage. We hear about how she met her partner and why it's the most trusting, honest, relationship of her life, and all of previous horrible relationships she learned from. Including dating someone who was simultaneously dating her doppelgänger, and catching her ex cheating. Ashley starts ho...

You all have been begging for some sexual health experts and Anna Lee will not disappoint! Anna is the co-founder of Lioness health, a sex toy company that actually uses data to track your orgasms. And she is committed to her craft. We get into how she discovered her own sexuality through building the viral tiktok sex toy, different types of orgasms, and DP (yes, *that* dp) Ashley does a data driv...

You asked for big undercut energy and now you got it: it's NBC News anchor Megan Mitchell! Megan Mitchell gets into her relationship, who's the big spoon, and how cuddling changes throughout her cycle. Ashley sends the worst flirty text of her life. Kate needs a rabies shot. Megan can be found on tiktok and ig @megan.mitchell and @megan1mitchell on twitter! We are nearly 100% funded by our Patreon...

Lou Gonzalez (founder of Squirrel Comedy Theatre, a majority queer, majority POC improv and sketch theatre) is one of the most talented improvisers in the world, and now you can hear him riffing on WHGS! We get into ass eating, getting over ass eating related trauma, and how to hide your porn. Ashley breaks down boob energy. Kate has sex at a straight wedding. Lou can be found on ig and tw @angryl...

Hannah Berner (Bravo's Summer House, Berning in Hell, Giggly Squad) is back and get into pegging, why lesbians are the most superior form of woman, and her fear of missing out on p*ssy. Ashley makes a hinge profile. We introduce the incredible Kate Sisk, our cancel coach, to the podcast, and discuss the time they lost their strap on. Hannah can be found @hannahberner everywhere, listen to her podc...

After an incredible year on the pod, Gara is stepping back and made this audio note for you. Let's wish them well and all the love in the world. Follow Gara's podcast En(ba)by , @garararararara on IG, https://www.patreon.com/garalonning Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jaclyn Moore (Netflix "Dear White People") gives us the full story on being a queer sex worker, sex while transitioning, and her pre-transition hook ups with lesbians. Ashley shares a kiss in public at camp. Gara gets their butt poked in a gay bar. Jaclyn can be found @jaclynpmoore on ig and twitter Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok....

Finally some L-Word representation on the show! Leo Sheng hops on the mic today to discuss meet cutes and his moms (yes plural) watching him hook up on the L-World. We talk about intimacy coordinators, meet cutes, and red flags. Ashley gets jealous visiting her college girlfriend during study abroad. Gara has an on stage kiss. Leo can be found @ileosheng on Twitter and Instagram. You can watch him...

It's an heart-wrenching break up episode and who better to come and provide emotional support than Ashley's closest friend, Breanne Williamson (@breannewilliamson on all platforms, peep her YouTube). Ashley explains the break up and what might be in store for the future, while Bre admits to Gara that she had a sex dream about them. Gara finally loosens up for their partner for the first time in 2...

Courtney Revolution (Netflix's The Circle) joins the pod to discuss gooches and his high school sweetheart. We get into knowing when you're in love vs. when you're just comfortable, what he did when the internet came after his partner, and the great wolf lodge. Ashley bombs in bed. Gara abandons a date. Courtney can be found all platforms and youtube @courtneyrevolution Courtney's podcast "Overhea...

HOLY CRAP IT'S SHANNON BEVERIDGE! You've been requesting her for a year and now she's here. We talk about dating someone who won't come out, why it's sexy to almost get caught, and the origin story behind her YouTube channel. Ashley has sex in the dark. Gara makes a tinder profile for their threesome.  Shannon can be found everywhere @nowthisisliving Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @a...

Michaela Okland (She Rates Dogs) joins the podcast and we delve into her queer cat-fishing roots on club penguin. We discuss the origins of her podcast, which turn out to be the gay agenda, and talking to women on the apps for the first time. Ashley enters the threesome zone. Gara plans a big summer blowout (yoohoo!) Michaela can be found on ig @michaelaokland and tw @michaelaokla. Her podcast is...

Marth Woertman (@marthwatermelon on ig and @marthwubbles on tiktok) brings the heat on this episode and we both melted. She discusses being a queer model, being bi and having masc energy, and her goth phase. Ashley gets revenge on her ex girlfriends parents. Gara relives their first queer kiss.    Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on ig and twitter. @ashgavscomedy on tiktok. @g...

Kate Willett (Netflix, Colbert, Comedy Central, & Reply Guys podcast) relives the drama of losing her dream girl, and then attempting to join Scientology to get her back. We also cover bi-curiosity and "experimenting". Ashley tells the third and final installment of the cat girl saga. Gara stars in Gara-lox and the 3 twinks.  Kate can be found on twitter @katewillett and on ig @kate.willett . Her...

Evan Ross Katz (Shut Up Evan podcast) is totally un-cancel-able in this episode, no matter how hard Ashley tries to trick him.  We get into sexting, how a relationship can start in a beautiful slow burn, and meeting your not-yet-partner's parents before you define the relationship. Ashley and Jen finally successfully sext. Gara does foreplay via sext in an Uber.  Evan can be found on ig & tw @evan...

Youngmi Mayer (Feeling Asian podcast) bros out with us on the podcast this week and we talk about chaotic bottom-ing, fire sign energy, and the complexities of dating someone who is cis "passing". Ashley discusses meeting her first serious girlfriend. Gara is desired by two people in the same night.  Youngmi can be found on ig & tw @ymmayer, and tiktok @youngmimayer Newsletter & Live Events: bit.l...