We're Having Gay Sex

Andrea Jin (Just for Laughs, Sirius XM) is an amazing shanghai-born comedian and writer whose work has been featured on VICE, CBC Comedy, and more, but today she has dropped into the apartment to wash her private parts. We discuss realizing you’re queer without having sex, feeling stuck in relationships, and fast food-based vaginal hygiene. Ashley blows through some red flags. Kate bangs with a br...

(TW: sexual assault) Fan-favorite Austin McKenzie (Spring Awakening, When We Rise, Unhinged) is a multi-talented actor and musician, but today he is pausing his gay sex vacation to swing by the apartment! We discuss sexual assault in the gay male community, overcoming sexual trauma, and the intricacies of RuPaul’s media pantheon. Ashley steps up to her bully. Kate has ADHD.  You can find Austin Mc...

Sam Morrison (Tonight Show Showcase, Stand Up NBC, NY Comedy Festival) is a top-tier stand-up comedian, gay diabetic widow, and Ashley’s bestest friend/future sperm donor, but today he’s in the apartment to spread the daddy bear gospel. We discuss dick-based sense memory, dealing with grief, and getting up in your mugger’s FACE. Ashley seeks closure. Kate hits the Big Apple, LESBIAN STYLE!  You ca...

Caitlin Peluffo (Good Time Gal) is a hysterical stand-up comedian who performed across the United States and on your television on Late Night with Stephen Colbert, but today she is stopping by the apartment to dip her toes back into the gay sex game! We discuss exploring your sexuality, uncomfortable group sex, and the beauty of the butch woman. Ashley battles for cat custody. Kate gets emasculate...

Angel Flores is a transgender powerlifter, political activist, and coach at the Liberation Barbell Club, a queer-friendly gym, but today she is putting down her heavy work to get sweaty with us in the apartment! We discuss transition milestones, dating mid-transition, and which tactics to employ in order to stare at titties. Ashley’s sex fest gets interrupted. Kate celebrates his queer identity.  ...

Mak Ingemi is a lively queer vlogger/influencer with nearly three million followers across YouTube, TikTok, and IG, but today she is focusing her efforts on some pleasure with the gang! We discuss phone sex, maintaining healthy outlooks in relationships, and the lesbian curse of carpal tunnel syndrome. Ashley navigates the “Broad Squad.” Kate plans a name change.   Mak can be found on TikTok and I...

Natalie Wynn (ContraPoints) is a YouTuber, ex-philosopher, transgender woman, and all-round genius who has decided to put down the books for some sexy times with the gang! We discuss compulsory heterosexuality, managing overwhelming romantic feelings, and our glorious new algorithm overlords. Ashley meets a true “chucklefucker.” Kate celebrates the New Year, COLOMBIAN STYLE! Natalie can be found @...

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Eman El-Husseini (Comedians vs. The News) is a rib-tickling stand-up comedian and ½ of the dynamic lesbian comedy couple, the El-Salomans, but today she is stepping inside the apartment for an affair with the gang! We discuss finding true love, queer dating abroad, and ski-cucking your long-time partner. Ashley has a date, and she’s FREAKING OUT. Kate seduces a Spaniard. Eman can be found on IG: @...

Tien Tran (How I Met Your Father) is a riveting lesbian stand-up who has performed on Comedy Central and more, but today she is calling in straight from the mid-west for some cybering in the apartment! We discuss accidental injury in bed, terrible exes, and the intense historical rivalry between France and rural Illinois. Ashley encounters a “poly supremacist.” Kate has a subway stand-off.        ...

Hilarious queer comedian Franqi French (Stand Up NBC, Curb Your Enthusiasm) has been on a meteoric rise, but today she has decided to come BACK the apartment for more hijinks, laughs, and gay sex. We discuss public sex acts, late vs. early bloomers, and maybe accidentally getting too high before work. Kate prepares to lose their virginity. Ashley performs for geriatric swingers. Franqi can be foun...

Gus Constantellis is a 1st generation Greek-American stand-up/writer, a hysterical human, and the viral “Greek Mom” who has performed across the tri-state area, California, and your TikTok feed, but today he has settled into the apartment to get wet and wild! We discuss immigrant parents, spontaneous sexuality, and MILF metaphysics. Ashley finds “mommy.” Kate gets down and dirty, literally.    Gus...

Fan-favorite Casey Tanner, AASECT, is a Queer Sex Therapist and founder of The Expansive Group, a queer-affirming therapy group that provides consultation and clinical work to individuals and institutions alike. But, today she is BACK in the apartment to answer questions and drive Ashley crazy. We discuss the complexities of queer identity, unpacking trauma, and why Ashley can’t stop simping. Ashl...

Brian Bahe is a hilarious Indigenous comedian, writer, and gay man who has been written up by NPR, Vulture, and the Los Angeles Times, and has an upcoming stand-up set on Comedy Central. However, thanks to the Covid-19 Omicron variant, the gang is avoiding the apartment this week and doing some cybering! We discuss coming out in school, underground sex parties, and getting horny via Pavlovian cond...

Kevin McHale (Glee, Virtually Famous) and Austin McKenzie (Spring Awakening, When We Rise) are an absolute power couple taking the world by storm, best known for their numerous performances across television, film, theatre, and music, but today they slow down to get intimate in the apartment. We discuss the dynamics of sleep kink, the ins-and-outs of topping, and… *ahem*… the 2nd Amendment. Ashley...

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Gianna Marie, or “gwizzle”, is a super wonderful, super talented goofball who can be found singing her heart from the confines of her car to nearly 4 Million followers on TikTok, Instagram, and more, but today she is sneaking into the hotel room for some fun with the gang. On yet another special episode of We’re Having Gay Sex, “Road Dog Edition,” we discuss messy first hookups, sex on anti-depres...

Chrissy Chlapecka is an absolutely fabulous social media influencer who is spearheading the empowering “BimboTok” movement, battling tired stereotypes with nearly 4.5 million followers across social media, but today the gang is in HER apartment for a wild time. In today’s special We’re Having Gay Sex, “Road Dog Edition," we discuss the positives of a “slut phase,” navigating unfulfilling relations...

Akeem Woods is a hysterical stand-up comedian who opens for comedy greats like Tiffany Haddish and Godfrey, as well as makes frequent appearances on Kevin Hart’s LOL Network, but today he’s in the apartment to get into the nitty-gritty. We discuss differences in gay male vs lesbian hookup culture, strategies for taking better nudes, and the logistics of keeping a phone just for your sex life. Ashl...

Ali Kolbert (The Ali Kolbert Show) is a side-splitting writer/comedian who has worked in some of NBC’s most prestigious programming (SNL, The Tonight Show, Late Night w/ Seth Meyers), but today she has graced WHGS with her hilarious presence. We discuss lesbian role models in media, dating during big life transitions, and the intricacies of tomboy fashion. Ashley gets introspective about her futur...

Jake Cornell (Going Out With Jake Cornell Podcast) is not only one of Kate's hilarious BFFs, he is TikTok famous, Insta famous, and truly hysterical. We get into his study abroad fling, age gap relationships, and how to get out of sleeping with someone but still using them for their mattress. Ashley goes on a date with Kate. Kate has to figure out if she was on a date or not. Merch: www.werehaving...

Casey Tanner, AASECT, (@queersextherapist) is a Queer Sex Therapist and founder of The Expansive group, a queer-affirming therapy group (www.theexpansivegroup.com). But she is also absolutely hysterical and one of Ashley's favorite people on the planet and high-key crush. We dive into common queer sex therapy questions (like mismatched sex drive, and preparing for your first queer experience) and...

Brilliant actor and comedian Jess Henderson (as seen on Shrill) joins us this week to talk toxic positivity, long distance dates, and reality tv self care. Ashley has a run in with a cruise guest. Kate finds a butt plug CW: We discuss Sexual Harassment on this episode, if this is triggering for you, then it might be best to skip from minute ~20:00 to ~40:00 If you need resources on this topic you...

YouTube Super Star Jessie Paege joins the pod to cover some sexy cosplay and the pure joy of enjoying someone else's kink. Ashley has sex with a squirting baby gay. Kate delivers some huge news! Jessie can be found @jessiepaege on IG and YouTube. Merch: www.werehavinggaysex.com/merch Ashley's Tour: ashleygavin.com/tourdates Newsletter & Live Events: bit.ly/WHGSPodcast @ashgavs on ig and twitter. @...

Jamie Raines & Shaaba Lotun came on the pod to flex how cute they are together. We discuss what it was like to get PhDs while making viral YouTube videos, Jamie's sex lab research on genitals, and why usually Shaaba is proudly displaying her sex toys. Ashley discusses her not-date with Jen. Kate does a walk of shame to and from church. Jamie can be found @jammidodger on YouTube and @jammi.dodger o...