We're Having Gay Sex

This episode is FIGHTING, listener! Jen Davis is an incredible actor, content creator, and Ashley’s perfect girlfriend, but today she’s sitting on the couch to chew Ashley out — and NOT in that way, listener! We discuss hooking up with people out of the country, the beauty of a long-distance fling, drawing boundaries with your partner, and being cute even in your sleep. Ashley gets in serious hot...

This episode is learning and growing, listener! It’s been a long time coming — a catch up with beloved comedian and friend of the show Ali Kolbert! It’s a duo episode today as we discuss what everyone’s been up to, straight propaganda in the New York Times, navigating comphet, disgustingly stinky ladies, and the three qualities you MUST have in order to get onto a boat. Also Ali made a VIRAL QUEER...

This episode is smooching, listener! Beloved actor, comedian, writer, and friend Breanne Williamson RETURNS for the annual ASH-BRE CATCH-UP — and you best believe there is gonna be some kissing involved! We discuss the crisis of kissing in younger generations, Love Island, the mental illness of young men, European vs. American sense of humor, and whether or not “Belly” is sexy dirty talk. Ashley h...

(TW // self harm discussion; 8:14 - 9:52) This episode is making awkward moves, listener! Sabrina Wu (they/them) is an unfathomably funny stand up comedian, writer, and actor who you've seen on Joy Ride, Murderbot, and Abbot Elementary — but today they’re in the apartment to pop their queer cherry! We discuss realizing you’re gay when young, the bizarre ways you explore at that age, genderqueer id...

This episode is living through a real fantasy, listener! Zach Noe Towers is an endlessly lovable stand up comedian whose work has been featured on E!, Netflix, and Comedy Central, but today he’s in the apartment to showcase his work from GRINDR! We discuss having a LEGENDARY hookup straight out of “Heated Rivalry,” interpreting flirty body language, short & fiery flings, and big boy dumps. Ashley...

This episode is going out tonight, listener! Rachel Karp is a writer, producer, and lesbian bar expert who has been documenting the history of sapphic nightlife in America, but today she’s in the sapphic space of Ashley’s apartment — and we’re doin’ BODY SHOTS! We discuss lesbian history through the lens of queer bars, the characters and stories found in them, age-gap relationships, and kissing yo...

This episode is musical, listener! WHGS is comin’ at you from ENGLAND with Dodie — an incredible singer, songwriter, and YouTuber with top-charting albums and a hit single, “She,” that took over Lesbian TikTok. We discuss writing queer anthems before knowing you’re queer, the odd ways you explore bisexuality before coming out, internalized homophobia, breakups, and being just like Zooey Deschanel...

Get the full versions of all these highlights, PLUS uncut episodes, live streams, live show tickets, and MORE at https://www.patreon.com/WHGS. Ashley has just wrapped up her 2026 tour in Europe (thanks to everyone who came out to a show), so to give her a week to recover, we have decided to release a bunch of highlights from our exclusive PATREON ONLY bonus series — You’re Having Gay Sex. We react...

This episode is all about theory, listener! Carmen Maria Machado is an author, essayist, and finalist for the National Book Award with her impressive body of work around queer identity, but today she’s in the apartment to put her genius towards solving age-old queer conundrums! We discuss topping vs. bottoming as a lesbian, what that actually entails, how it manifests in practice, and the Renaissa...

This episode is lore heavy, listener! Brad Davis is a queer musician, tech artist, and my dear girlfriend’s little brother, but today he’s in the apartment to be my little BOTTOM! In addition, for the FIRST TIME… WHGS producer and man-behind-the-camera Alex Vrahas fills in as co-host. It’s a BOYS EP as we discuss romantic flings while abroad, anticipation in sex, coming out, being a very straight-...

This episode is the most inclusive, listener! NOAHFINNCE is a transgender pop-punk musician and YouTuber that’s been rocking the internet since 2015 with his incredible songs, but today he’s in the apartment to rock your BED! We discuss having a fivesome with every single person represented in “LGBTQ,” sexual dynamics when you have autism, horny fans, disabilities, and starting your career as a “M...

This episode is depicting women correctly, listener! Halie Torris is an oil painter and visual artist whose incredibly detailed work you’ve seen go viral on TikTok/IG, but today she’s in the apartment to paint YOU like one of her French girls! We discuss the female gaze, how to define it, capturing it in your work, the artistic process in the modern attention economy, and having your gay little he...

This episode is philosophizing, listener! Chelsea Cutler is a singer, songwriter, producer, and one of your favorite queer musicians with over 3 billion global streams and worldwide tours, but today she’s in the apartment to take a tour through your BODY. In addition, we have the incredible comedian Emily Wilson filling in as co-host! We discuss queer identity, when one can claim that they’re gay,...

This episode is going all in, listener! Andrea Allan is an unfathomably funny podcaster, comedian, and co-host of “Respectfully” alongside Lizzy Cassidy, but today she’s in the apartment to “respectfully” pipe you down! We discuss exploring your bisexuality in the Burning Man orgy tent, the dynamics of using a strap on, embracing the chaos of coming out, and getting diseases from butt-munching. As...

This episode is BI, listener! Franchesca Ramsey is an actor, comedian, writer, and producer known for her hyper-viral content and award-winning series “MTV Decoded”, but today she’s in the apartment to taste the sexual rainbow! We discuss bisexuality, polyamory, dating a man and a woman at the SAME time, coming out late in life, and encountering genital piercings so crazy that it stops sex. Ashley...

This episode is POETIC, listener! Eileen Myles (they/them) is a celebrated poet, novelist, and journalist best known for “Chelsea Girls” and poems that queers everywhere tattoo onto their arms, but today they’re in the apartment to SEDUCE! We break format this episode to interview Eileen and learn about their career, history, and legendary love life. In-between, we discuss art, coming out, New Yor...

This episode is DRY, listener! Sofie Hagen (Netflix, Fringe) is an award-winning Danish stand-up comedian, author, and podcaster that tours all around the world, but today they’re in the apartment for some SEX tourism because things have been dry! We discuss not having sex in 10+ years despite liking it, why that can be affected by the intersections of trauma, gender, and body image, and how you c...

This episode is historic, listener! Jenny Zigrino (Conan, JFL, Don’t Tell) is a hilarious stand up comedian, writer, and performer that breaks boundaries, but today she’s in the apartment to thrust DEEP… into history. We discuss queer history in Colonial America, attraction to masculinity regardless of gender, drag, burlesque, and how bisexuals are pretty dang cool. Ashley has sex on a timer. Lizz...

If you have the funds, Donate to Kylie’s GoFundMe: https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-kylie-kick-brain-lesion-ass  (TW \\ SA; skip 42:44 - 49:33 to avoid) This episode is SICK, listener! Kylie Vincent is a stand up comedian, writer, and beloved co-host of WHGS, but today she’s phoning into the apartment fresh out of the hospital. Kylie got a freaking BRAIN LESION, so we take some time to check in on...

This episode is a POWER BOTTOM, listener! Chrissy Chlapecka is an enchanting musician, content creator, and activist that’s about to kick off a nation-wide tour, but today she’s returning to the apartment for some verse activity as an out-and-proud LESBIAN! We discuss topping as a high-femme lesbian, methods to approach that with your butch GF, overcoming comphet, and the best queer scenes across...

This episode is HORRIFIC, listener! Roz Hernandez is a mind-blowing stand up comedian, podcaster, actor, and paranormal export that has been sending people to the afterlife with laughter, but today she’s in the apartment to investigate the most GHASTLY ick she has ever encountered on a date! We discuss purposely being given the ick by people you’re trying to date, only dating queer people, identit...

Go watch Kate’s NEW stand up special RIGHT NOW: http://Of.tv/lmaof130 or https://bio.site/KateSisk. Kate Sisk is a beloved comedian, writer, and the former co-host / “cancel coach” of WHGS! But today, he’s BACK in the apartment to make a movie…and it’s RATED X! We discuss watching queer adult content, bizarre videos, seeing your friends in said videos, & suckin’ self. Oh yeah, and the set may or m...

This episode has been years in the making, listener! It’s a DUO episode today as we are joined by Alayna Joy, an incredible queer therapist, content creator, and co-host on Ashley’s other podcast, Chosen Family. However today she’s coming into the WHGS apartment, because Ashley banged her doppelganger?! In-between the details of this epic story, we discuss getting married after coming out 6 years...

This episode is trying new things, listener! Sarah Keyworth (they/them) is an award-winning stand up comedian & podcaster that’s been taking the UK by storm, but today they're in the apartment from across the pond to teach us naughty students a lesson! We discuss your friends taking dominatrix lessons in their 30s, coping with bad times, biking, gaming, and how 3D printing is a massive turn off. A...

This episode is running experiments, listener! Carson Olshansky (they/them) is a fantastic stand-up comedian, writer, and creator that you’ve seen blowing up your social media feeds, but today they’re in the apartment to fingerblast you so accurately you’ll scream “Eureka!” We discuss a/b testing the best finger for bangin’, finding sexual compatibility, dating mascs with a complicated identity, a...