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Today, John and Shaun get real about control, creative burnout, and what it means to walk away - maybe just for now. From family patterns to personality frameworks, they explore the subtle ways we try to mold the people closest to us, and how that effort can quietly extinguish our own inner spark. They reflect on how responsibility, relationships, and the pace of adult life can dim our fire - and...

Today, John and Shaun get real about trust, control, and what it means to shape a life that doesn’t always follow the plan. From confessions about the past to reflections on what we can and can’t control - careers, relationships, even timing - they navigate what it means to let go and still show up. Shaun opens up about missing his father, while John shares what it’s like to not miss his. Complime...

CW: There is some talk about violence towards women in this episode, specifically about cases of Uber drivers drugging female passengers. Today, John and Shaun get real about attraction, ambiguity, and the old wounds that shape how we love. From body talk and gym-floor preferences to the deeper imprints left by early heartbreak, they explore what drives desire - and what quietly drives us away. Th...

Today, John and Shaun get real about celibacy, the unexpected wisdom of edging and what it means to hold space for change. As they dive into how we show up for friends, and navigate endings with grace (or not), they explore what it means to sit with discomfort and desire. Also on the table: sex in senior living homes, prostate surprises, and the enduring mystery of midnight erections. And then com...

Today, John and Shaun get real about what it means to let go - with grace, awkwardness, and a few unexpected laughs. As the podcast edges toward its final episodes, they reflect on the shifting dynamics of friendship, the tension between presence and performance, and the quiet courage it takes to speak the truth out loud. From lighthearted debates about minivans and shower preferences to deeper mo...

Today, John and Shaun get real about psychedelic revelations, aging skin, and why they’re rethinking what makes their podcast worth doing. From John’s guided MDMA session and a “my mom never hugged me” breakthrough, to Shaun’s retinol skincare journey and anti-aging the natural way, this episode rides the line between hilarity and healing. They dive into the tension of overcommitting, how time and...

Today, John and Shaun open up about emotional honesty, the fear of being too much, and the art of letting others take care of you. From cock ring experiments and therapist breakthroughs to growing up without unconditional love, they explore the tangled roots of worthiness and connection. Also: the Love Drive podcast is making a comeback, and the house cleaner found the cock rings. They dive into w...

Today, John and Shaun get real about singlehood, morning moods, and what it means to wake up feeling alone. From retirement fund fears and post-fire perspective shifts to questioning whether AI can truly touch hearts, they explore how life—and money—quietly reshapes us. Also on the table: LA as the land of opportunity and the timeless wisdom of Winnie the Pooh. They dive into why we’re drawn to em...

Today, John and Shaun ride the roller coaster of texting anxiety, threesomes, slippery self-care hacks, and the occasional social media meltdown. They break down why a simple “Good morning” text can feel like a high-stakes game and the many unexpected uses of coconut and olive oils. Special guest, Lydia from Face Yoga by Lydia , joins to prove that, yes, your face needs a workout too. Expect exper...

Today, John and Shaun dive into the orgasm gap —why so many women aren’t reaching the finish line in the bedroom. They break down the importance of communication in sex, myths around male performance, and why “homie, your dick’s not enough.” They’re joined by guest, Sabrina Zohar , who shares her insights on modern dating, picky partners, and how unrealistic checklists keep people single. Plus, is...

Today, John and Shaun talk about the struggles of aging, navigating dietary changes, and the unexpected joys of pooping on command. They also discuss the concept of "optimistic nihilism" and the blurred lines between platonic and romantic relationships. They share thoughts on speed dating, social media jealousy, and whether liking photos online is harmless or a sign of "leaky energy." Plus, Shaun...

Today, John and Shaun talk about hair insecurities, moving to Costa Rica, and the challenge of making big life changes. They also discuss dating in Los Angeles, social anxiety, and the importance of stepping out of your comfort zone. As they look ahead, John and Shaun brainstorm ways to expand the podcast, from guest appearances on other shows to adding expert guests of their own. Shaun shares ins...

Today, John and Shaun talk about internal misogyny, dating older women, how they lost their virginity, and starting over. They also answer two listeners’ questions: how do you know when you’re ready to have kids, and how do you learn to trust yourself and your intuition? You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and Shaun at 657-549-1001 Find out more about Shaun and John’s Spring retreat HERE...

Today, John and Shaun talk about different styles of communication, the American dream, the meaning behind tattoos, and relocating outside of Los Angeles. They also answer two listeners’ questions: what was the skateboarding life like for you guys, and what’s the best way to disclose to someone that I have herpes? You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and Shaun at 657-549-1001 Find out mor...

Today, Shaun and John talk about their recent Valentine’s Day retreat, past addictive behaviors, Shaun’s new sex toy, and the benefits of using cock rings in the bedroom. They also answer and give advice on a listener’s question: how can you help your partner without feeling like you’re mothering them? You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and Shaun at 657-549-1001 Check out Shaun’s new se...

Today, Shaun and John talk about break ups, their Valentine’s Day retreat, making platonic friends, and celebrity drama. They also answer and give advice on a listener’s question: why don’t men make more noise in the bedroom? You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and Shaun at 657-549-1001 Please take a moment and leave us a review on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apple Podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . Your review means the w...

Today, Shaun and John talk about rebuilding after loss, their struggles getting older, the pressure to be productive, and comparing yourself to others on social media. They also answer and give advice on two listeners’ questions: how can men approach women without being “creepy,” and how do you know when you should leave a toxic relationship? You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and Shaun...

Today, Shaun and John talk about their relationship with sweets, new love experiences, and making friends in Los Angeles. They also answer and give advice on two listeners’ questions: how do I make friends and meet new people when I struggle with social anxiety, and can people stop using delivery apps and go out instead since it’s so hard to meet people in person nowadays?  You can leave a one min...

Today, Shaun and John talk about their fears regarding the aftermath of the LA fires, thirty day diet challenges, Shaun’s successful first date, and digital detoxes. They also answer and give advice on two listeners’ questions: how can I navigate feeling guilty for not wanting to spend time with my friend’s kids, and what does it mean when someone says they need to “cool off” from the relationship...

Today, Shaun and John talk about the LA fires, their Valentine’s Day retreat, and how to help those who were affected by this tragedy. They also listen to a voicemail from one of their followers who lost their home in the fires. You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and Shaun at 657-549-1001 As some of you might know, John and his family lost their home in the LA fires. John has started a...

Hey folks. As some of you might know, John and his family lost their home in the LA fires. John has started a GoFundMe to support friends and families in Altadena and help with basic needs such as shelter, food, and clothing. If you called to donate, please do so here: https://www.gofundme.com/f/basics-needed-for-friends-who-lost-their-homes-today If you were planning on joining our retreat, signi...

Today, Shaun and John talk about motorcycles, things they need to work on with their parents, feedback from their first live show, and shared phone plans. They also answer and give advice on a listener’s question: do mixed sobriety relationships work? You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and Shaun at 657-549-1001 Find out more information about the Love Thyself: Valentine's Day Retreat ⁠⁠...

Today, Shaun and John talk about choosing a child-free life, fitness, spiritually, and being of service by sharing your gifts. They also answer and give advice on two listeners’ questions: where’s the line between being the best version of yourself and being lazy or selfish for prioritizing your needs, and how do you maintain a friendship with someone who doesn’t think women are viewed or treated...

Today, Shaun and John do a live podcast recording on the rooftop of the Mama Shelter hotel in Hollywood, California. We talk about dating app fatigue, how to feel confident in LA when it's easy to feel insecure, Shaun's new sex toy collaboration, and we take live questions from the audience about regaining sexual confidence, dating outside the apps, and more! It's a special one, folks. You can lea...

Today, Shaun and John talk about what they want for themselves in 2025, showing emotion by crying, and wounded masculine and feminine energies vs sacred masculine and feminine energies. They also answer and give advice on two listeners’ questions: should women hold back and make the men they’re dating chase them, and how do I become less avoidant and not get the “ick” in the early stages of dating...