We Can Do Better

Today, Shaun and John talk about their upcoming live podcast at Mama Shelter, their Valentine’s Day retreat, depression, and what women look for in men. They also answer and give advice on two listeners’ questions: what should you do when you’re dating someone who doesn’t want the same things as you, and any advice on how to handle a long distance relationship when you both have kids? You can leav...

Today, Shaun and John talk about quitting nicotine, their addictions, complexities of parental relationships, and generational views on money. They also answer and give advice on two listeners’ questions: how do I know if I’m being too picky choosing a partner, and do you have any advice on how to channel more of my feminine energy? You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and Shaun at 657-54...

Today, Shaun and John talk about a skill Shaun’s secretly good at (fixing bikes), communal living, Bitcoin, and money. They also answer and give advice on two listeners’ questions: should men be making a certain amount of money before getting into a relationship, and how can my new boyfriend and I navigate fiances? You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and Shaun at 657-549-1001 Please take...

Today, Shaun and John talk about cutting people out because of political differences, John’s new tattoo, Shaun’s apartment hunt in LA, and feedback from their listeners. They also answer and give advice on two listeners’ questions: have you ever thought about having a threesome with John’s wife, Vanessa, and do you have any tips or advice on dating in your 40’s? You can leave a one minute voicemai...

Today, Shaun and John talk about Shaun’s big move to Los Angeles, John and Vanessa’s wedding in Mexico, and how people respond to men crying. They also answer and give advice on two listeners’ questions: what does “we can do better” mean in politics for the male community right now, and how can we do better for women’s safety and rights in the US? You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and...

Today, Shaun and John talk about riding motorcycles, happy endings, al-anon meetings, and supporting sex workers. They also share positive feedback from their listeners, and answer a listener’s question: how do I begin self-reflecting on my tendencies to cheat?  You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and Shaun at 657-549-1001 Find out more about al-anon meetings ⁠⁠HERE ⁠⁠ Please take a mome...

Today, John and Shaun talk about fear, negative feedback from listeners, asking for what you need, and male body and bedroom insecurities. They also answer and give advice on two listeners' questions: how do you get the courage to leave a marriage, and how do you deal with jealous feelings in a relationship? You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and Shaun at 657-549-1001 Please take a mome...

Today, John and Shaun talk about jet skiing to Catalina, their first fight, being seen v.s. fitting in, and repairing after conflict. They also answer and give advice on two listeners' questions: how do I avoid getting into unhealthy relationships, and how much information should I share about my divorce on the first few dates? You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and Shaun at 657-549-100...

Today, John and Shaun talk about Shaun’s first tattoo, getting rejected after one date, different types of breakups, and more “icks” in dating. They also answer and give advice on two listeners' questions: how do you move on from a breakup that completely blindsided you, and how do you stop feeling unworthy after a breakup? You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and Shaun at 657-549-1001 Pl...

Today, John and Shaun talk about their parents, post travel blues, overthinking your first tattoo, and upcoming creative projects. They also answer and give advice on two listeners' questions: how do I reverse having "the ick" for someone I'm dating, and how long does it take for someone to get over infidelity? You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and Shaun at 657-549-1001 Please take a m...

Today, Shaun and John talk about tattoos, MIGs (most inappropriate guests) at weddings, and not wanting to have kids. They also answer and give advice on two listeners' questions: should I tell someone their partner is cheating on them, and the men I date don't want anything serious after a few months - is it personal? You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and Shaun at 657-549-1001 Please...

Today, Shaun and John discuss making romantic connections while traveling, feedback from listeners about consent, sex parties in Berlin, and skinny dipping. They also answer and give advice on two listeners' questions: why does Shaun want to have a "super slutty hot girl summer" instead of a "f*ck boy summer," and is there a list of fool proof questions to ask someone to be...

Today, John and Shaun talk about nudity, dating without relying on technology, verbal consent, and ghosting. They also answer and give advice on two listeners' questions: will men lose interest in women if they want to be friends with benefits but without penetration, and how can people flirt without it turning into dirty talk? You can leave a one minute voicemail for John and Shaun at 657-549...

Today, John and Shaun discuss travel, dropping into your body, who pays on the first date, and using dating apps to make friends. They also answer and give advice on two listeners' questions: what's the best way to communicate interest in someone after the first date without scaring them off, and how do I check my male friend who's going down a toxic self improvement rabbit hole? You c...

Today, John and Shaun talk about John's first time taking Molly, anal play, threesomes, and ethical porn. They also listen to a few dirty voicemails and give advice on two listeners' questions: why can't men be just as noisy as women in the bedroom, and how does one become more comfortable with dirty talk? Here are the links Shaun and John were talking about in today's episode! A W...

Today, John and Shaun discuss emotional safety in the bedroom, erectile dysfunction, and compromise in friendships. They also answer and give advice on two listeners' questions: what's the best way to be vulnerable with your partner so they don't use it against you, and am I wasting my time dating people who aren't looking for a serious relationship when I want one? You can leave a...

Today, Shaun and John discuss controlling behaviors that show up unconsciously, breaking up with friends, and providing a safe space for men on this podcast. They also answer and give advice on two listeners' questions: what's the concept behind "bros before hoes," and how do you deal with libido differences in a long term relationship? You can leave a one minute voicemail for Jo...

Today, John and Shaun talk about their recent retreat experiences, celebrity man crushes, and their first blowjobs. They also answer and give advice on two listeners' questions: Is it a woman's responsibility to ask the man she's dating to go down on her, and how do I know when (or if) I should pull the plug on a connection after giving it a fair chance? You can leave a one-minute voic...

Today, Shaun and John talk about how men struggle to be vulnerable, abandonment wounds from childhood, thirst traps, and their new voicemail hotline. They also answer two listener questions: how should I tell my boyfriend he's leaving skid marks on the bedsheets? And where do I find a good man to date after doing the inner work and being single for so long? You can leave a one minute voicemail...

Today, John and Shaun discuss how they handle criticism on social media, men getting vasectomies, using sex toys in the bedroom, and hall passes for celebrity crushes. They also answer a listener's question and give advice about whether women should wait for men to chase them, or if they should ask men out first. Find out more about John ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HE...

Today, Shaun and John discuss hairstyle insecurities, aging, and the ethics of keeping exes' nudes. They bring on two live caller's and give advice on how to bring more flirty energy into your life, and what to do about a boyfriend's panty kink. Find out more about John ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about Shaun ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Sh...

Today, Shaun and John touch on their kinks, seeking therapy, experiences growing up, and “parts work.” They also bring on their first two live callers and answer their questions. The first caller asks how to set boundaries and distance yourself from unhealthy people. The second caller seeks their guidance on coping with anger towards systemic injustices and daily dilemmas.  Find out more about Joh...

Today, Shaun and John discuss the concept of 'nectar' as a source of joy, and retiring the term 'Big Dick Energy.' For the Q&A, they tackle when to define the relationship and what the most appropriate age gap in relationships is. Find out more about John ⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about Shaun ⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Shaun on Instagram ⁠⁠...

Today, John and Shaun discuss ankle socks, and sexual terms like 'stealthing.' For the Q&A, they tackle the topics of keeping mementos from past relationships, retroactive jealousy, threesomes, and more. Here are the links Shaun was talking about in this episode: Yoga Nidra For Deep Rest Radish House, Oakland Find out more about John ⁠⁠⁠ HERE ⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠ HERE ⁠⁠⁠ F...

Today, John and Shaun touch on the challenges of dealing with criticism, and disclosing herpes status. For the Q&A, they explore why we tend to date a**holes, and what it means when our exes still watch our stories. You can read Shaun's article, How to Talk About Sexual Health For the First Time, HERE Find out more about John ⁠⁠ HERE ⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram ⁠⁠ HERE ⁠⁠ Find out more abo...