Parenting For Sanity + Social Change

Upbringing

Kids EN ↓ 177 episodes

We’re Hannah & Kelty of Upbringing- twins, certified parent coaches + speakers who help caregivers across the globe transcend daily conflict with their kids for sanity + social change. Most of us had no idea what magical mindset + sensitive skill set would be required to successfully navigate daily drama with our beloved, infuriating kids... No shame in that! From meltdowns to aggression to sibling rivalry to putting down the screen or getting out the door fully dressed + on time, managing kids’ big feelings + challenging behaviors was never meant to be done solo, let alone perfectly. We’re he...

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Parenting For Sanity + Social Change

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LIVE Q&A // Baby + kids' sleep regressions, chaotic transitions, kids fighting, won't share, mean words, resisting EVERYTHING! 12.04.2021 48:39

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast where we use the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - 8 mo awake 2 hrs in middle of night - 2.5 yo won't stay in bed or room, runs out - How to help regulate kids' nervous systems - Morning routine total chaos, won't get ready - The power of the "circle back" to get on the same page` - 7+3 y...

LIVE Q&A // Kids hurting siblings, hygiene resistance, trouble making friends, parents feeling guilt for constant "slip ups" 05.04.2021 50:39

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast where we use the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - 8 yo despises and harms 4 yo sibling - Spirited kid has trouble making friends because they are so extroverted + loud - Parent struggles with staying the course with respectful parenting when in the world with other families doing things...

LIVE Q&A // Babies + kids crying, resisting hygiene, cleaning up + NEW ONLINE BABY COURSE! 25.03.2021 50:38

Expecting a baby or have one under a year old? Check out our new course, Right From The Start , which we launched this week! Only a couple days left to sign up BEFORE Sunday March 28! Get support in 9 modules of succinct 15 minute videos covering topics such as sleeping, feeding, bathing, diapering, sib relationships, big feelings, independent play and more! Click here to learn more! A few of the...

LIVE Q&A // Kids misbehaving at school, potty regressions, delaying on walks, nagging, helping kids regulate their nervous systems 04.03.2021 57:57

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - How kids learn about how to use power responsibly - Why welcoming kids' resistance and big feelings is vital work - Kid w/ potty regressions, misbehaving at school - Kid delaying on walks, dragging feet, taking for...

LIVE Q&A // Spirited kids misbehaving, pushing boundaries, ignoring parents, struggling w/ frustration + rigidity 01.03.2021 1:12:24

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast, which consists of the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - Rigid 5 yo and how to “coach them” - Kid always runs away with big feels - Spirited 2.5 yo won’t let parents touch her - The ways our kids learn about consent - The RESIST Approach vs CONTROL method - Parent struggling to state boun...

LIVE Q&A // Kids’ big feelings, aggression + misbehavior, eye rolling + attitude, sib conflict 25.02.2021 1:12:24

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast, which consists of the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - Highly sensitive 10 yo struggling to socialize with friends - Aggressive 4 yo misbehaving constantly - 6 yo big feelings around moving - 9 yo struggling to adjust to new school - Parent struggling with self-regulation + staying calm...

LIVE Q&A // Taming Your Triggers! Convo w/ Jen Lumanlan of Your Parenting Mojo 21.02.2021 59:05

We loved connecting with Jen Lumanlan of Your Parenting Mojo about ways we can tame our triggers in the toughest moments with our kids. Learn more about the amazing elements of her upcoming workshop HERE ! We are so excited to begin with you on March 1st, so make sure to register by Feb 28! A few topics we cover with Jen about taming triggers: - Are triggers all because of our kids’ behavior? - W...

LIVE Q&A // Kids won't brush teeth or change clothes, hitting new baby, destructive when disappointed, yelling at parents 17.02.2021 57:24

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. We chat a few times in this episode about the Taming Your Triggers Workshop from our friend Jen of Your Parenting Mojo! Enrollment is open and the workshop begins March 1st! Join us to tame your triggers and break the cycle when our kids are pushing us to the...

LIVE Q&A // Kids harsh words, screaming, hurting pets, picky eating, partners refusing to align with parenting approach 15.02.2021 51:16

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - 4 yo smothering cat - Kid screaming and yelling, overwhelmed parent - Accidental shaming of kids - Kid only eating carbs - What is intuitive eating? - 3 kids under 4 hurting dog + each other - Partner who parents di...

LIVE Q&A // Defiant, resistant kids, bad manners, hitting, no boundaries, transition struggles, won’t clean up 11.02.2021 1:01:20

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - How we’re trying to raise non-fragile white kids - Connection vs control - Kid won’t say please + thank you - How to deal with grief in front of young kids - 2.5 yo hitting parents whenever they’re frustrated - 5 yo...

LIVE Q&A // Kids bossing, negative self-talk, lying, disrespecting, no impulse control, hitting sibling 08.02.2021 1:09:48

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - 5 yo bossing + controlling family talking to each other - 4 yo getting too rough with 5 yo + 2 yo sibs playing - 7 yo self-critical + "doesn't want to be alive anymore" - Parent's empathizing for kid feels patronizi...

LIVE Q&A // Spirited kids acting out, kids disrespecting, avoiding bedtime, hitting themselves, scratching 03.02.2021 47:35

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - How to get a 6 yo to value his own opinion more - Spirited 5 yo acts out + won’t stop behaviors - 8 yo blows up when opposed, won’t self-reg, runs away - Our interview on The Purpose Show w/ Allie Casazza about pare...

LIVE Q&A // Kids spitting, sassing, defiant, breaking consent, parents struggling to self-regulate 02.02.2021 1:20:27

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - Spirited 4 yo hates circling back - starts spitting - 17 mo frustrated and has no words to explain - 5 yo sassing parents all the time - 6 yo with low emotional intelligence - Spirited 5 yo hard on little twin sibs...

LIVE Q&A // Kids being mean, resisting agendas, won't clean up, listen to us, do what we say 28.01.2021 1:02:15

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - Parent struggling giving consequences - Kid spitting randomly all the time - Boundaries vs consequences - Should we mirror our kids' faces when they're upset? - 3yo pushing 2yo sibling all the time - Upset 5yo only...

LIVE Q&A // Kids hurting sibs, won’t eat, hoarding toys, hugely frustrated, vaping, husband explodes w/ kids 25.01.2021 1:22:14

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - Spirited 5 yo won’t leave the house when its time - 5 yo antagonizes little siblings til she gets hurt - Boy get over-excited + mean on playdates - 19 mo keeps leaving table during meals - 2.5 yo hitting kids + tear...

LIVE Q&A // Sensitive + spirited kids ignoring, freaking out when boundary held, partners insist on spanking, over-the-top reactions 21.01.2021 1:00:20

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - Kid is an extreme negotiator, loses it when boundaries are held - 3 yo laughs uncontrollably when parent states boundary - Kid has insomnia, parent struggling to stay regulated - 3 yo sensitive + spirited kid - Buil...

LIVE Q&A // Kids saying “Bad Mommy”, hurting their siblings, bickering, clingy, doing gross stuff, won’t share 18.01.2021 1:01:31

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - Kid saying “bad mommy” when parent gets home with no binary talk at home - Mom not at her best with new baby + 3 kids, how to show up? - Kids hurting each other and parent can’t get there in time - Clingy 3.5 yo who...

LIVE Q&A // Kids without impulse control, won’t play alone, stay in their room, stop hitting sibling, be quiet + relaxed 13.01.2021 1:07:19

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - Kid refuses to play alone, moves through activities too quickly - Supporting 5 month old with a demanding 3 year old - What are open-ended play opportunities? - Kids needing sleep support… when is too young to “fade...

LIVE Q&A // Kids won't brush hair + teeth, rude, harsh words, won't empathize 11.01.2021 50:46

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - Kid refuses to brush knots out of hair - Constantly stressing + apologizing to kids - 19 mo won't won't brush teeth - Kids are rude, call each other dumb, stupid - 6 yo won't leave park, even after agreeing - 5 yo...

LIVE Q&A // Sensitive kids, resist shots + medicine, won’t clean up, share, rude at playground, resisting bedtime 07.01.2021 1:05:47

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - Kid refuses shots, medicine, tooth cleaning - Early parent lives with a parent who yells + shames their kids - Highly sensitive kid resources - 2 kids getting out of control before bedtime - Kid won’t share when pla...

LIVE Q&A // Kids complaining, negative attitudes, tantrums, won't finish food, nightmares 04.01.2021 53:46

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - When one kids’ big feelings freak out the other kids - When kids' big feelings freak out our partner or other caregiver - Kids complaining, negative attitudes, whining - How to handle insecure kid with new little ba...

LIVE Q&A // Kids raging, running away, rude to friends, separation anxiety + clinginess 31.12.2020 52:45

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - 3 yo running away in parking lots + during transitions - 6 yo copying negative behaviors from school - 2.5 yo needs help understanding neuro-diverse cousins - Little boy raging and kicking in meltdowns - Kid being r...

LIVE Q&A // Kids kicking dog, angry words, won't clean up, constantly "naughty" + "acting out" 21.12.2020 1:04:21

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - 2.5 yo hitting + kicking dog - Parent struggling with reactivity - Kid saying violent things like “I want to cut your face” - Kid hitting + seeking sensory stimulation - "Naughty" kid + how to support/stop labeling...

LIVE Q&A // Why connection trumps correction w/ kids hitting, won't listen, go to school, sit for dinner, play nice 17.12.2020 57:34

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - Kid stonewalling + gaslighting parent - Toddler ignoring requests + expectations - Kid refusing to go to school - Kid won't sit for dinner, "hands out NO like candy" - Kid throws food at sitter, struggles w/ online...

LIVE Q&A // Teach respect to spirited, angry kids + our concerns with Brené Brown’s Family Gap Plan 14.12.2020 51:33

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - Teaching kids respect, worthiness, belonging - When our kids are “rude” - @ModernMomProbs, where we spoke about spirited kids - 10 yr old challenging everything, always has to have last word - Parent struggling as “...