Upbringing

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this episode: - When our partners don’t adopt respectful parenting - Hitting! - When kids won’t sit down to eat - Feeling stuck + resentful w/ 4 & 2 year olds - When kids prefer one parent - When kids “defy” + won’t eat or clea...

Welcome back to our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this week: - Brené Brown’s Family Gap Plan + why we find it problematic - How we’re attempting to create shame-free family manifestos - The #1 way to prepare/arm kids for the cruel outside world - What to do when grandparents deman...

Today on our LIVE Q&A SERIES we talked about: - Kid angry mom won’t play with him so he trashes the playroom - 6 year old argues and says NO to everything - 10 year old constantly arguing - The power of validation - How to set limits with hitting + throwing - We we look beyond behaviors to the underlying need - Overwhelmed 3 year old won’t respect personal boundaries - 4 year old won’t eat at...

Today we kick off our LIVE Q&A SERIES on the podcast through the rest of the year, using the audio from our weekly Instagram LIVE videos. A few of the topics we cover this week: - 5 year old’s anger turning physical  - Parent gets physically pummeled during kids’ tantrums - 2.5 year old being bossy and demanding - 5 year old flips out when limits are set - Post screen time meltdowns - Sibling...

Before launching this next season, we wanted to highlight a handful of favorite podcasts we’ve been guests on recently. We speak with some amazing folks about Upbringing, our mission and approach in practicing powers beyond control when it comes to daily discipline with our kids!  The Fresh Start Family show is hosted by husband and wife team Terry and Wendy Snyder, parenting educators and coaches...

Before launching this next season, we wanted to highlight a handful of favorite podcasts we’ve been guests on recently. We speak with some amazing folks about Upbringing, our mission and approach in practicing powers beyond control when it comes to daily discipline with our kids!  The Balanced Parent is a top-rated podcast hosted by Dr. Laura Froyen that offers practical tools and mindset shifts t...

Before launching this next season, we wanted to highlight a handful of favorite podcasts we’ve been guests on recently. We speak with some amazing folks about Upbringing, our mission and approach in practicing powers beyond control when it comes to daily discipline with our kids!  This week, we’re sharing our interview with Jen Lumanlan on the Your Parenting Mojo Podcast. We discuss how we grew to...

Before launching this next season, we wanted to highlight a handful of favorite podcasts we’ve been guests on recently. We speak with some amazing folks about Upbringing, our mission and approach in practicing powers beyond control when it comes to daily discipline with our kids!  Not Your Mother’s Podcast is a top-rated show hosted by Sonnet & Veronica, two mothers who have sought some of the...

Before launching this next season of Upbringing, we’d like to share a handful of favorite podcast episodes we’ve been interviewed on recently. For the next few weeks, tune in as we connect with inspiring parenting communities about our radical mission to practice powers beyond control when it comes to daily discipline! Find the Magic is a top-rated podcast hosted by three mothers who aspire to hel...

Today we recap our podcast season and explore 10 ways we are attempting to parent for sanity and social change through our discipline. We laugh, we cry, we lean in… join us! Relevant Links: - Our Freedoms Model - Our RESIST Approach - Our Empowerments - Our Shop + the new Big Feelings Survival Guide! - Our Resources Page - Our Coaching page - Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist - Mary Schroeder, Up...

Today we hear from a parent who is at the end of her rope with battles over escalating screen time with her two sons, age 6 and 10. How can we set limits without over-controlling, pulling the parent card or getting intense pushback to the rules? We explore power, control, attunement, independent play, family agreements, loving limits, and some alternatives to screen time itself.  We also chat ways...

Today we hear from a parent who is exhausted from navigating the persistent frustrations, anger and big feelings of her spirited daughter. She worries about the possibility of her daughter ALWAYS being like this, as well as the impact of her big outbursts on the wellbeing and behavior of her younger brother. We explore temperaments, stress, kids’ brains, boundaries, empathy, acceptance and why OUR...

Today we hear from two parents whose partners are not taking on as much of the learning around kids’ development + brains, respectful parenting and positive discipline solutions as they are themselves. They struggle, like so many of us, to find a way to bring their partners and other caregivers into the work of growing up alongside their kids as well as finding the words to articulate those differ...

Today we hear from a parent whos kid has begun struggling with middle of the night wakeups, then bedtime transitioning, and now daytime apart from parents. We explore ways to lean into his big feelings and resist the urge to fix, minimize, explain away, judge or stop his fears -- but rather to listen, validatek acknowledge, relate to and slowly innovate through a two-way conversation what may be c...

Today we hear from a parent whose daughter has been intensely rude to her, her mother and her new partner. We explore ways to look beneath behaviors, connect instead of correct, run the RESIST Approach in the moment, and build skills and connection together as a family. When we can help our kids attune to themselves, we are breaking cycles of cultural conditioning that don’t serve our child, our f...

Today we hear from a parent who is concerned her 4 year old’s brain is wired to react and respond in fear and people pleasing because she has used shame in her parenting. Our answer: IT’S NEVER TOO LATE! We explore ways that can help repair our kids’ brains and our connection as we build skills, practice and grow up alongside our kids and one another. The hard stuff is the good stuff. We laugh, we...

Today we share a pre-existing episode of one of our favorite podcasts: Fare of The Free Child: “Raider as Ritual” Episode 172, posted originally May 27, 2020! Fare of the Free Child is a lifestyle and parenting podcast about the connection between liberation, learning, and parenting-- particularly among BIPOC communities. In this episode, Akilah speaks with LA-based mother, activist, and entrepren...

Today we share a pre-existing episode of one of our favorite podcasts: Raising Rebels, hosted by Noleca Radway, Episode 3: "I brought you into this world...", posted on June 20, 2019. Raising Rebels is a podcast about oppressed parents raising free children, featuring courageous conversations with real parents who are encouraging their children to be fully themselves in a society that doesn’t alwa...

When we feel like we're living our own horrifying version of the movie Groundhog Day, it makes dealing with kids big feelings and challenging behaviors pretty torturous. How can we channel the Phil Connors from the last several minutes of the movie, who can lean in and engage with his "new normal" with curiosity, generosity, patience, humor and joy?  Today we explore 10 ways we’re working to do ju...

We’re all going through a tough transition right now as we adjust to life at home… with kids… and work… and for many us, other caregivers. Our unique childhoods, unconscious beliefs and clashing approaches can increase the conflict, which can create stress for us, tension in our relationships and confusion for our kids. We’re all on the hunt for answers, but are beginning to realize that the quest...

Today we’re back as we explore our kids’ FREEDOM TO SPEAK! Does your kid struggle to speak respectfully? To lean into ‘manners’? To respond when questioned? Hang on as we radically grant our kids the right to speak (gasp) in whatever way comes out naturally. So what’s OUR job during this verbal shitstorm? We explore ways to align our values with our day-to-day interactions. To model our asses off....

Referee. Hall monitor. Manner police. Supporting our kids through their challenges together can feel like we’re wearing a bunch of crazy-ass hats, and their constant antics push us to yell, threaten, judge and issue consequences. Join us this week to explore a few common moments of sibling conflict that drive us all bonkers -- a toddler hitting the new baby, a 4 yr old fighting with their smaller...

Today we’re back as we explore our kids’ FREEDOM TO CONTRIBUTE! Does your kid struggle to clean up after themself? To pitch in to the household? How can we avoid either 1. Letting it ALL GO or 2. Getting in there so hard it makes contributing to the family FEEL TERRIBLE? Join us to explore the middle way -- The ways we are endeavoring to build skills, positive associations and connection for us AL...

Today we explore our kids’ FREEDOM TO FEEL! This is the Q&A wrap-up to our weekly episode where we dive deep into our kids’ (and our!) struggles with big feelings. We explore how tantrums are a gift-- an opportunity to nurture our nervous systems, build emotional intelligence skills and maintain our connection through it all. The big question is HOW can we sensitively support our kids’ big fee...

Today we’re back as we explore our kids’ FREEDOM TO FEEL! Does your kid struggle with big feelings? Do YOU struggle with their big feelings, not to mention your own? This week we explore how BIG FEELINGS are a gift-- an opportunity to nurture our nervous systems, build emotional intelligence and maintain our connection through it all.  How can we sensitively support our kids’ big feelings when we...