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Send us Fan Mail How to Overcoming Burnout We normally think about burnout as an after thought. Once we have overextended ourselves, our health has deteriorated, and we lose motivation to do everyday life.  The unfortunate reality is that we have grown accustomed to this way of life. So much so, that we often wear it as a badge of honor, and encourage others to do the same. "If you truly want...

Send us Fan Mail Our most Traumatic experiences often happen at home, and from relationships that were originally designed to protect us from harm. In this episode, we discuss the impact of mother-daughter trauma and how our relationship with our mother can deeply influence our relationships as adults.  If you have a strained relationship with your mother, or experienced abuse or neglect growing u...

Send us Fan Mail How do you find closure after a relationship has ended? When there are unanswered questions, and ideas about what could have been, closing that chapter of life can feel like a never-ending battle.  Even when a relationship is not good for us, or we know it should be over, closure is not always easy. In this episode with Psychotherapist, Nettie Jones, she gives practical advice abo...

Send us Fan Mail Respect is a big word in relationships, especially for men - but what does respect truly mean?  We all need respect, but not always aligned on what it looks like in a relationship. In this episode, with licensed therapist Quentin Jiles, we take a look at the topic of respect and answer many of the questions people have.  Why is respect so important?  How do you distinguish between...

Send us Fan Mail When it comes to counseling, making the first step is not always easy. Whether it is a cultural barrier, stigma, fear or hesitancy with talking to someone new, there are many obstacles that could prevent us from getting the help we need. However, despite these obstacles, the importance of investing in our mental health is stronger than ever. Now is the time, you don’t have to be i...

Send us Fan Mail Overcoming Mom Guilt It’s called mom guilt, but it’s the feeling you get when you feel bad for dropping your kids off at school. When you are unable to attend an after-school program, or when you believe you aren’t living up to certain expectations. Not only can these feelings make us feel like we aren’t being a good mom, but they can make us question ourselves, and override all o...

Send us Fan Mail Boundaries is one of the most common words used in therapy and in our everyday lives, but what does it really mean? In this episode with Dr. Ana’Neicia Williams, we look at the reality of setting boundaries, the challenges, and why it’s so difficult. Everyone agrees that boundaries are essential, but when it comes to our family, the lines become blurry and our ability to navigate...

Send us Fan Mail Conflict is inevitable in relationships. There is no way to avoid disagreements, different perspectives, or misunderstandings. However, when it comes to conflict in a relationship knowing how to Fight Fair is essential.  Despite the rules of engagement, we have all been guilty of doing and saying things that we later regret or that were unproductive to the overall health of the re...

Send us Fan Mail Vulnerability is often talked about in relationships, especially among men. However, with so many voices about what it means to be vulnerable, why it’s important and what it actually looks like – this important topic can become blurred at best.  Still, being vulnerable is an essential component of connection and bridge the gap in communication. Not only does it help establish trus...

Send us Fan Mail When it comes to having a child, the experience and journey is different for everyone. For some, this experience is exciting, and the process is met with little to no difficulty. However, for many others, their reality is different. In this podcast episode, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined board-certified obstetrician and gynecologist, Dr. Tamika Cross as she shares insight and provides so...

Send us Fan Mail When couples reach out for counseling, difficulty communicating is usually one of the first problems they mention. When there is a breakdown in relationships, communication is one of the first areas impacted. Is communicating in relationships that difficult or are we missing what the real problem is altogether. Whether you find yourself not communicating at all or simply wanting t...

Send us Fan Mail Getting over an ex can be difficult, even when we know it’s time to move on. If you have ever found yourself “going back” when you said you wouldn’t, calling after you committed to cutting them off, or blocking someone to only unblock them weeks later, this episode is for you. Dr. Holly Cotton provides practical insight on how to successfully get over an ex. She answers questions...

Send us Fan Mail  We all have a need to feel appreciated in our relationships. It makes us feel valued, seen, and encourages us to be there for our spouse. However, despite its importance, so many people exist in relationships where they don’t feel appreciated.  The consequence of this reality is damaging and will prevent any relationship from reaching its full potential. It’s a simple act that ca...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever wondered why you can’t sleep at night?  Is it because of stress, issues on the job, problems in your relationship, health reasons… There are so many reasons why our sleep may be impacted, but what should consider most.  When it comes to our mental health, and the quality of our relationships, are we underestimating just how important a good night’s rest is?   If you...

Send us Fan Mail The excitement of a new child can also bring about a lot of unexpected emotions. Emotions that can be hard to understand, and process during the countless changes that occurring in the world around you. In this episode of the Untherapeutic Podcast, Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Dr. Shaenor Ishmael, dedicated Maternal Mental Health Therapist.  Regardless of whether you are expecting a...

Send us Fan Mail A topic that has been taboo, A Passion for More gives us a first-hand account on the extramarital affairs of women. Author Susan Shapiro Barash has interviewed thousands of women and explored the behind the scenes events that led to affairs, the aftermath, and everything in-between. Listen to this episode and learn some of reasons "why" these women explored relationships...

Send us Fan Mail How to Rebuild Trust in Your Relationship What does it take to actually rebuild trust in a relationship once it is lost? Is it possible to recapture what existed before? How much time does it take? What should we do when one partner still questions your every move? In this episode of Untherapeutic , Dr. Nic Hardy is joined by Dr. Angela Jones as they delve into the subject of trus...

Send us Fan Mail Daddy Issues  We have all heard the term, “Daddy Issues”, but how does the relationship with your father really affect you?  Is it possible to not be affected by an unhealthy relationship with your father? How do you separate “daddy issues” from a problematic relationship? What should you do, if you find yourself repeating the same problems relationally? These are the type of ques...

Send us Fan Mail Talking about your spouse’s health can be a sensitive topic. This is an ongoing battle that most of us deal with personally; therefore,  understanding the ins and outs, and challenging outdated beliefs is essential.  If you want to learn how to address this topic without creating an unsafe environment, tune in to this episode on the Untherapeutic Podcast.  In this episode, Dr. Nic...

Send us Fan Mail When we are active, not only do we lead healthier lives, but our energy level increases, mood improves, and we are able to grow our self-esteem and confidence. Although, getting the motivation to exercise can be difficult. Work. Busy schedule. Competing priorities. Fear and Embarrassment. Exhaustion. The list goes on….  It’s not always easy, but now more than ever, is it critical...

Send us Fan Mail Dating can be difficult. Dating when you have a career that is public facing can be extremely difficult. When our professional lives are also public, how do we maintain privacy? How do you determine if someone is in to you, or who they believe you are? How do you create boundaries, and determine what to share and what not to share?  In this episode of Untherapeutic, I am joined by...

Send us Fan Mail If you are in a relationship or have considered being in a relationship, social media has played a role in some way.  With access to “ex’s”, past relationships, and endless exposure to the lives of our peers, it makes sense why social media is the reason a lot of relationship fail.  Since social media is a part of our lives, , it’s best to learn how to manage it in a healthy way. ...

Send us Fan Mail Discrimination at work is stressful. It’s sometimes subtle, and the signs are not always obvious.  Even when discrimination is not the case, if you have experienced it in the past, it’s impossible to exclude that possibility. However, when dealing with problems at work, most of us don’t have someone that can coach us through the process. If we do, is this someone you can trust and...

Send us Fan Mail  Is your job destroying your sex life? Do you give so much to growing professionally, that you overlook the potential consequence on our sex drive? Does your partner get the leftovers?   Is it your fault or are you the victim of an oppressive system that forces us to exhaust ourselves? Is it just how things are in a capitalistic society, or do we put more pressure on ourselves the...

Send us Fan Mail How to Wait Well  What does it mean to Wait Well?  When you have done everything you know to do, and still, nothing has happened – there is a tendency to question. Did I hear God correctly? Am I doing something wrong? Why others and not me? Is this even the Will of God for my life?   In the book Wait and See, author Wendy Pope shares timeless biblical wisdom on how to prepare for...