Untethering Shame

In this episode, Kyira Wackett and Janice Holland explore the theme of hiding and the pressure to perform in society. They discuss the origins of this pressure and how it perpetuates shame and inauthenticity. They also delve into the hidden realities we often keep to ourselves and the toll it takes on our well-being. The conversation highlights the importance of breaking free from oppressive expec...

In this episode, host Kyira Wackett and guest Stacey Urig explore the intricate world of shame and trauma. They discuss the different types of trauma, how it manifests, and the profound impact it has on individuals and society. Stacey shares her journey with trauma and how she found healing through therapy and hypnosis. They emphasize the importance of changing the narrative around trauma and refr...

Loving without condition or expectation is one of the hardest aspects of healthy relationships. Sure, we know the big red flags of conditional love. That's not what we are talking about. We are talking about the little things. The "you would be so much happier if's" and the "goodness, why can't they just's..." Learning to accept people fully and then decide how...

In this conversation, Kyira Wackett interviews Sandra Huitt, who grew up in a cult. They discuss the challenges of leaving a cult and the process of healing and finding oneself after leaving. Sandra shares her experience of feeling othered and struggling to fit in after leaving the cult. She also talks about the difficulties of opening up to her parents about her struggles and the anger she develo...

Join me as I reflect and celebrate all this first year of the podcast has brought to the table and talk more about year 2! What was your biggest AHA moment? What did you learn about yourself this year? What episodes do you want to see in Year 2? Tell me all of the things in the comments below! Ready to take the next step? Download the FREE handout, " 5 Things Shame Resilient People do Every D...

In this episode, Kyira Wackett and guest Amy Holder discuss the pressure to conform to societal expectations and the pursuit of external validation. They explore the idea that checking off boxes and achieving milestones does not necessarily lead to fulfillment and happiness. They share their personal experiences and observations from working with clients who have also felt the disconnect between s...

This week's solo episode discusses the power and importance of letting go of relationships that no longer serve you. Ready to take the next step? Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People do Every Day" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace. Book a free 25-minute discovery call to discuss...

Summary In this episode, host Kyira Wackett and guest Emily Hardy delve into the 'good child' concept and its unrealistic expectations of mothers. They discuss how societal narratives lead mothers to strive for perfection, impacting their self-worth and parenting. The conversation highlights the challenges of meeting societal standards, external validation's role, and self-compassion&#...

In this episode, host Kyira Wackett and guest Cait Pearson discuss the profound impact of loss and the expectations and pressures society imposes on the grieving process. They explore the loneliness and fear that often accompany grief, as well as the need for a safe space to process emotions. They also touch on the challenges of holding space for others while dealing with their own grief, and the...

In this week's solo episode, I want to discuss your expectations. Expectations are not a bad thing. Expectations out of context or without flexibility are the problem and are ultimately fueled by and refueling your shame. So what can we do about it?

In this episode, Kyira Wackett and Lara Days discuss intuitive eating and body image. They explore the challenges of shame surrounding food and the journey towards intuitive eating. They also delve into the pitfalls of diet culture and the importance of challenging fat phobia. The conversation highlights the physiological and psychological reasons why we struggle with intuitive eating and offers i...

The conversation covers relationships, career flexibility, and personal growth. It examines relationship evolution, communication, and the impact of children. Career flexibility, the courage to explore new paths, and the significance of choosing one's own adventure are discussed, along with upbringing's influence on career choices and the value of personal growth. The conversation addresse...

how to reconcile that feeling that other's don't work as hard as you and the pressure you carry as a result.

Summary In this episode, the host and guest discuss moving on from toxic relationships and the healing process. They address societal pressure to stay in unhealthy relationships and the importance of emotional processing and growth. The conversation highlights seeking help and support, the impact of conditional love, and the role of shame in hindering healing. Lucy Price delves into the emotional...

In this episode, Alicia Jacobson and Kyira Wackett discuss the relentless impact of shame and the challenges of navigating daily life while contending with shame and trauma. They explore the compounding effect of shame and the importance of finding respite in music. They also delve into the universality of shame and the process of unpacking and recognizing personal shame. The conversation highligh...

WE ARE CONSTANTLY FORCING OURSELVES TO "GET OVER IT." We fear conflict and challenging conversations to the point we bury our feelings inside until we either explode or become so detached and resentful we no longer engage meaningfully in our relationships. Why do we do it? The short answer, it's easier...in the moment, anyway. But what if we stopped? What would it be like to change t...

In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Cassandra Johnson discuss the importance of acknowledging and healing the inner child as a part of trauma recovery. They explore the concept of using fantasy and imagination as a tool for healing, and how creating a physical space that reflects childhood interests and comforts can provide a sense of safety and control. They emphasize the need for radical acc...

In this episode, Jessica Parente joins us to discuss the topic of codependency and its connection to shame. Codependency is a psychological condition that intertwines a person's self-worth and identity with the needs and behaviors of others. The conversation explores the roots of codependency, its effects on our lives, and how breaking free from these patterns can help us reclaim our sense of...

In this episode, I am sharing one of the most crucial pieces of advice I can ever give you: You are NOT that Important. Let's talk about what makes this so empowering! Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. Be sure to...

In this episode, Kyira Wackett and Jennifer Walter discuss body image and fatness. They explore society's obsession with narrow beauty standards and the shame and self-criticism that can result. They emphasize the importance of creating safe spaces for open dialogue and living authentically rather than performing for approval. The influence of media and cultural standards on body image is also...

In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Erika Malm discuss the barriers to embracing eating disorders and why they are not talked about enough. They explore the misconceptions and myths surrounding eating disorders and the need for validation and empathy. They also discuss the role of control and the underlying pain that drives disordered eating behaviors. The conversation highlights the importanc...

Our brain has become hard-wired to chase external validation and approval. It feels like what we do doesn't count unless someone else can attest to it. And it's this anchoring of our worth outside of ourselves that is keeping us stuck in shame. So let's talk about exactly how we got here and what we can do about it. Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethe...

In this episode, Dr. Rose Aslan and I discuss shame, fear, and Islamophobia. We explore how these forces perpetuate systems of oppression and uphold patriarchal structures of power. We also discuss the importance of recognizing the humanity of individuals and the need to untether ourselves from shame. Dr. Aslan shares her personal journey of activism and using her voice to bring awareness to socia...

Join Elizabeth and me as we explore the notion of intergenerational trauma and how it can become the foundation for chronic pain and addiction. Elizabeth shares insights from her recovery, breaks down some of the key concepts of this work, and even gifts us with a clearing we can all engage with in the space. Trigger Warning : While all of our episodes are heavy and showcase some very raw and real...

We have talked about not wanting kids, but there is this weird in-between for those of us who have kids and don't immediately want one. I am a one-kid mom, and that feels great to me. Why am I categorized as less than because I am not interested in having more? Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple P...