Untethering Shame

Brittney Phillips & I talk about her own experience and her work with other families to blend after divorce or loss and a subsequent remarriage. Some of the key points from this episode: Brittney's own bias towards divorce Where Brittney struggled most in her blending journey What we need to let go of to show up the ways we need and want to as parents (of any role or nature) The importance...

I loved this episode with CéShaun N. Armstrong Hankins and feel like we only just started to scratch the surface on such a powerful topic. Some of the key takeaways for me include: How do you break out of the sense you are doing something wrong by choosing your values What do we do when the system is designed to make you the villain or the problem to protect its own agenda? Can you work in a syste...

Does anyone else feel like they would get a blue ribbon in rumination? You know, sitting around replaying a thought repeatedly until you aren’t even sure what to do with it anymore? We spent countless hours stuck in those headspaces, attempting to control or make sense of things completely out of our control. Why? And what can we do about it? Let's dive in together! Stay Connected: Don't m...

Such a joy having Ashley with me to talk about the tension that can exist for the working mom and what we can do to shift the way we show up to and in these roles and how to build a more supportive community. Some of my favorite takeaways included: Learning more about what it was like for Ashley to transition into motherhood Differentiating between adaptive versus maladaptive drive in what we do T...

Join Catherine Quiring & I as we dive deep into the topic of people-pleasers and covert narcissism. There are so many layers to this; Catherine is a wealth of information and exploration. Some of my favorite points we covered included: More about Catherine: "I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, and Self-Trust Coach. I help exvangelicals learn to trust their desires and reconnect to th...

In this week's solo episode, we are talking about perfection, particularly why we are stuck in a cycle trying to be and do everything perfect AND how we get out of it. Resources: Shame Overview: YouTube video or podcast episode Control Wheel Handout <-- download for free using code " PERFECTION " Cognitive Defusion Video Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering S...

What a powerful and open dialogue with my dear friend, Austin Kayser on what is often a very polarizing and difficult topic to explore - Veganism. We covered so much in this episode. Here are some of my favorite points: How Austin became introduced with veganism The number one thing that closes us off to new ideas How to figure out when and how gray areas can exist How perfection becomes the enemy...

It will come as no surprise I've known Jessica Meisner for 14 years when you listen to our episode. Such a powerful conversation - with a little silly bonus talk at the end - that we all need to reflect on. Some of the key takeaways included: Where the narrative comes from that we need to be something for everyone The pendulum swing Jessica took after she burnt out on trying to be everything f...

Terminal uniqueness is the idea of “personal exceptionalism” or the belief that your story or experience is unlike anyone else’s. Yes, your story is different. The details change but what happens when you "over-other" yourself and how do we find balance between owning your story and seeing that you are not that different? Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Unt...

A force of empathy and perseverance, Mary Kay Battaglia shares with us her insights as a mom to 3 adult children, navigating shame, mental health diagnoses and the pressure to do it all. We touched on so many important topics. Some of my favorites were: The important skill Mary Kay learned as a mom that translates to her work and daily life The power of normalization & culture in determining w...

This is a HARD topic. And one, that has been riddled with shame for decades. I am so grateful to Jessica for coming to talk about this and her own experiences. Some of the key takeaways: What drew Jessica to be a part of the pageant world The tension that can exist in a world of competition when you also grow to love your peers The loneliness that Jessica experienced throughout the process How to...

Did you know that people-pleasing is directly correlated to your shame narrative? Don't get me wrong, caring for and about other people is incredibly important. That's not the problem. It's how much we invest in everyone else and the WHY behind it we need to address. Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spot...

Do you have toddlers (or will you at some point in your life)? Then this episode is a must-listen. Cara Tyrrell is amazing and I am so grateful we got her on the show. Here are some of my favorite parts of the episode: Why Cara left the classroom The #1 misconception we have as parents when it comes to Kindergarten readiness The importance of emotion regulation as adults in how we support our chil...

In this week's solo episode, we are talking about the power of comparison and the impact it has on our well-being and sense of self. Learn: Why we compare ourselves to others The difference between up-comparison & down-comparison What we can do to break out of the comparison cycle Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podca...

Join me and my dear friend, Morgin Ennis in this powerful and absolutely necessary conversation about the complexities of deciding whether or not to have kids and what it might look like to take the wind out of the sails in the shame-boat that you are supposed to want kids. Some of my favorite points included: Why talking about kids is so hard for many women The important reality that you can love...

Whew I loved everything about getting to talk with Nic Scholtysik about her work in identity burnout and really diving deep into the connect most important to a full life. Some of my favorite takeaways included: What makes hard conversations difficult and why they are important What is identity related burnout? The loneliness and overwhelm that can come with the “expat” experience The impact of ov...

In this episode we are exploring how everything we have internalized about being selfish is wrong and why we need to learn to be more selfish in our lives. Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. Be sure to visit our websi...

Another thought-proviking episode with restaurant owner & chef, Alex Lindenmeyer where we dove deep into the problems facing the service industry and where we, as a culture need to rethink our standards & expectations. We coveredSome of my favorite takeaways: The mind-blowing realization about the role restaurants play in our lives The ways we need to rethink money and expense when it come...

What a joy for Bobbie Harte Shaw to join us on the show. I can't wait to share this episode with you and I know you will be as excited for her to join us again in the future as I am. We covered: Why we decided to talk about aging The way aging hits us in the face as women How our death discomfort makes aging even more scary How a fear of death becomes synonymous with a fear of living Enjoyable...

Who has the power in your life, you or the people around you? The difference can be hard to detect but is entirely rooted in the role our emotions play in interactions, the key point being, are you reacting or responding to the world around you? Learn More: What is shame? Check out my first solo episode on te podcast or this YouTube video I made here Learn about the difference btw focusing on the...

Thank you so much to my dear friend Jamsheed Amiri for talking so openly about his experience immigrating to the US from Afghanistan and all he has learned, endured and let go of in his journey to finding himself. We covered: The 2 most surprising things Jamsheed remembers when he immigrated to the US The experience of 9/11 through the eyes of an Afghani immigrant child How Jamsheed has integrated...

What a powerful perspective shift offered from Clarissa Kristjansson on the way we view our bodies as we age. In this powerful conversation we talked about: The cultural norms that have made us afraid of menopause The way big pharma has used shame and fear as a means of selling agelessness and a “menopause cure” or treatment The idea of health and fitness as a spectrum The role of social media as...

What a powerful conversation with Jackie Contessa about the eneagram and not only what it is but how we can use it as a support tool to guide us in our journey to self-awareness. We talk pretty openly about the strengths of the enagram but also the limitations in its application and how to reframe the way we think about assessments in general. Some of my favorite points included: The difference be...

In this week's solo episode, I am sharing with you 6 hard yet absolutely freeing truths we need to accept in our journey to shame resilience. Resources: Radical acceptance episode --> Spotify or Apple Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your...

Join Lindsay and I in a discussion on the joy, overwhelm and wonder of motherhood. We get real in our exploration as human givers and the impact that has on how we view ourselves as moms. Key topics include: Some of my favorite insights and topics include: How to integrate your expectations and the reality of parenthood The problem with the “power through” mentality When being a “helper” goes too...