Untethering Shame

This week's solo episode discusses the power and importance of letting go of relationships that no longer serve you. Ready to take the next step? Download the FREE handout, "5 Things Shame Resilient People do Every Day" and start making those daily shifts to break that shame cycle that's keeping you stuck in that negative headspace. Book a free 25-minute discovery call to discuss...

Summary In this episode, host Kyira Wackett and guest Emily Hardy delve into the 'good child' concept and its unrealistic expectations of mothers. They discuss how societal narratives lead mothers to strive for perfection, impacting their self-worth and parenting. The conversation highlights the challenges of meeting societal standards, external validation's role, and self-compassion&#...

In this episode, host Kyira Wackett and guest Cait Pearson discuss the profound impact of loss and the expectations and pressures society imposes on the grieving process. They explore the loneliness and fear that often accompany grief, as well as the need for a safe space to process emotions. They also touch on the challenges of holding space for others while dealing with their own grief, and the...

In this week's solo episode, I want to discuss your expectations. Expectations are not a bad thing. Expectations out of context or without flexibility are the problem and are ultimately fueled by and refueling your shame. So what can we do about it?

In this episode, Kyira Wackett and Lara Days discuss intuitive eating and body image. They explore the challenges of shame surrounding food and the journey towards intuitive eating. They also delve into the pitfalls of diet culture and the importance of challenging fat phobia. The conversation highlights the physiological and psychological reasons why we struggle with intuitive eating and offers i...

The conversation covers relationships, career flexibility, and personal growth. It examines relationship evolution, communication, and the impact of children. Career flexibility, the courage to explore new paths, and the significance of choosing one's own adventure are discussed, along with upbringing's influence on career choices and the value of personal growth. The conversation addresse...

how to reconcile that feeling that other's don't work as hard as you and the pressure you carry as a result.

Summary In this episode, the host and guest discuss moving on from toxic relationships and the healing process. They address societal pressure to stay in unhealthy relationships and the importance of emotional processing and growth. The conversation highlights seeking help and support, the impact of conditional love, and the role of shame in hindering healing. Lucy Price delves into the emotional...

In this episode, Alicia Jacobson and Kyira Wackett discuss the relentless impact of shame and the challenges of navigating daily life while contending with shame and trauma. They explore the compounding effect of shame and the importance of finding respite in music. They also delve into the universality of shame and the process of unpacking and recognizing personal shame. The conversation highligh...

WE ARE CONSTANTLY FORCING OURSELVES TO "GET OVER IT." We fear conflict and challenging conversations to the point we bury our feelings inside until we either explode or become so detached and resentful we no longer engage meaningfully in our relationships. Why do we do it? The short answer, it's easier...in the moment, anyway. But what if we stopped? What would it be like to change t...

In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Cassandra Johnson discuss the importance of acknowledging and healing the inner child as a part of trauma recovery. They explore the concept of using fantasy and imagination as a tool for healing, and how creating a physical space that reflects childhood interests and comforts can provide a sense of safety and control. They emphasize the need for radical acc...

In this episode, Jessica Parente joins us to discuss the topic of codependency and its connection to shame. Codependency is a psychological condition that intertwines a person's self-worth and identity with the needs and behaviors of others. The conversation explores the roots of codependency, its effects on our lives, and how breaking free from these patterns can help us reclaim our sense of...

In this episode, I am sharing one of the most crucial pieces of advice I can ever give you: You are NOT that Important. Let's talk about what makes this so empowering! Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. Be sure to...

In this episode, Kyira Wackett and Jennifer Walter discuss body image and fatness. They explore society's obsession with narrow beauty standards and the shame and self-criticism that can result. They emphasize the importance of creating safe spaces for open dialogue and living authentically rather than performing for approval. The influence of media and cultural standards on body image is also...

In this conversation, Kyira Wackett and Erika Malm discuss the barriers to embracing eating disorders and why they are not talked about enough. They explore the misconceptions and myths surrounding eating disorders and the need for validation and empathy. They also discuss the role of control and the underlying pain that drives disordered eating behaviors. The conversation highlights the importanc...

Our brain has become hard-wired to chase external validation and approval. It feels like what we do doesn't count unless someone else can attest to it. And it's this anchoring of our worth outside of ourselves that is keeping us stuck in shame. So let's talk about exactly how we got here and what we can do about it. Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethe...

In this episode, Dr. Rose Aslan and I discuss shame, fear, and Islamophobia. We explore how these forces perpetuate systems of oppression and uphold patriarchal structures of power. We also discuss the importance of recognizing the humanity of individuals and the need to untether ourselves from shame. Dr. Aslan shares her personal journey of activism and using her voice to bring awareness to socia...

Join Elizabeth and me as we explore the notion of intergenerational trauma and how it can become the foundation for chronic pain and addiction. Elizabeth shares insights from her recovery, breaks down some of the key concepts of this work, and even gifts us with a clearing we can all engage with in the space. Trigger Warning : While all of our episodes are heavy and showcase some very raw and real...

We have talked about not wanting kids, but there is this weird in-between for those of us who have kids and don't immediately want one. I am a one-kid mom, and that feels great to me. Why am I categorized as less than because I am not interested in having more? Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple P...

Join Dr. Catalina Lawsin and I as we talk sex and intimacy through a lens of social justice to see that sex is so much more than we consider when it comes to our sense of well-being and commitment to ourselves. Some of the key points included: The difference between sex and intimacy How shoulds make their way into their lives and the way that robs us of wants The connection between sexual satisfac...

I am so grateful Simon Rinne joined me for such an important conversation on men's mental health, sharing his story and opening up a much larger conversation that needs to be had. We covered: The development of Simon’s OCD and how this impacted his life  The impact of toxic masculinity on Simon’s development of self The value of imperfection and the art of wabi sabi The overlap between perfect...

In this week's solo episode, we discuss the importance of control and learning to own what is in our control and what is not. Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. Be sure to visit our website or YouTube channel for...

Tina Hallis joins us again for part 2 of our discussion on chronic health. This time we dove deep into: The divisiveness of a diagnosis and its impact on us The conflict between our brain and body that leaves many of us avoiding self-care The value in reframing the aging process The importance behind the “little bits” The role of community in making changes in your life The power of acceptance in...

Such a powerful conversation with Kim Flores exploring her own experience with a deadly illness and how she reclaimed her connection to herself and her body. More about Kim: "I am a former anorexic turned CEO. After working in healthcare for over 10 years, I realized how the healthcare system never fully addressed the emotional or psychological well-being of patients, which ultimately contrib...

In this week's solo episode, we are talking about negative thoughts and what we need to do to regain control over them instead of letting them consume us. Be sure to check out the Shame Overview episode mentioned in the episode. Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a re...