Untethering Shame

Join Dr. Catalina Lawsin and I as we talk sex and intimacy through a lens of social justice to see that sex is so much more than we consider when it comes to our sense of well-being and commitment to ourselves. Some of the key points included: The difference between sex and intimacy How shoulds make their way into their lives and the way that robs us of wants The connection between sexual satisfac...

I am so grateful Simon Rinne joined me for such an important conversation on men's mental health, sharing his story and opening up a much larger conversation that needs to be had. We covered: The development of Simon’s OCD and how this impacted his life  The impact of toxic masculinity on Simon’s development of self The value of imperfection and the art of wabi sabi The overlap between perfect...

In this week's solo episode, we discuss the importance of control and learning to own what is in our control and what is not. Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. Be sure to visit our website or YouTube channel for...

Tina Hallis joins us again for part 2 of our discussion on chronic health. This time we dove deep into: The divisiveness of a diagnosis and its impact on us The conflict between our brain and body that leaves many of us avoiding self-care The value in reframing the aging process The importance behind the “little bits” The role of community in making changes in your life The power of acceptance in...

Such a powerful conversation with Kim Flores exploring her own experience with a deadly illness and how she reclaimed her connection to herself and her body. More about Kim: "I am a former anorexic turned CEO. After working in healthcare for over 10 years, I realized how the healthcare system never fully addressed the emotional or psychological well-being of patients, which ultimately contrib...

In this week's solo episode, we are talking about negative thoughts and what we need to do to regain control over them instead of letting them consume us. Be sure to check out the Shame Overview episode mentioned in the episode. Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a re...

Brittney Phillips & I talk about her own experience and her work with other families to blend after divorce or loss and a subsequent remarriage. Some of the key points from this episode: Brittney's own bias towards divorce Where Brittney struggled most in her blending journey What we need to let go of to show up the ways we need and want to as parents (of any role or nature) The importance...

I loved this episode with CéShaun N. Armstrong Hankins and feel like we only just started to scratch the surface on such a powerful topic. Some of the key takeaways for me include: How do you break out of the sense you are doing something wrong by choosing your values What do we do when the system is designed to make you the villain or the problem to protect its own agenda? Can you work in a syste...

Does anyone else feel like they would get a blue ribbon in rumination? You know, sitting around replaying a thought repeatedly until you aren’t even sure what to do with it anymore? We spent countless hours stuck in those headspaces, attempting to control or make sense of things completely out of our control. Why? And what can we do about it? Let's dive in together! Stay Connected: Don't m...

Such a joy having Ashley with me to talk about the tension that can exist for the working mom and what we can do to shift the way we show up to and in these roles and how to build a more supportive community. Some of my favorite takeaways included: Learning more about what it was like for Ashley to transition into motherhood Differentiating between adaptive versus maladaptive drive in what we do T...

Join Catherine Quiring & I as we dive deep into the topic of people-pleasers and covert narcissism. There are so many layers to this; Catherine is a wealth of information and exploration. Some of my favorite points we covered included: More about Catherine: "I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, and Self-Trust Coach. I help exvangelicals learn to trust their desires and reconnect to th...

In this week's solo episode, we are talking about perfection, particularly why we are stuck in a cycle trying to be and do everything perfect AND how we get out of it. Resources: Shame Overview: YouTube video or podcast episode Control Wheel Handout <-- download for free using code " PERFECTION " Cognitive Defusion Video Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering S...

What a powerful and open dialogue with my dear friend, Austin Kayser on what is often a very polarizing and difficult topic to explore - Veganism. We covered so much in this episode. Here are some of my favorite points: How Austin became introduced with veganism The number one thing that closes us off to new ideas How to figure out when and how gray areas can exist How perfection becomes the enemy...

It will come as no surprise I've known Jessica Meisner for 14 years when you listen to our episode. Such a powerful conversation - with a little silly bonus talk at the end - that we all need to reflect on. Some of the key takeaways included: Where the narrative comes from that we need to be something for everyone The pendulum swing Jessica took after she burnt out on trying to be everything f...

Terminal uniqueness is the idea of “personal exceptionalism” or the belief that your story or experience is unlike anyone else’s. Yes, your story is different. The details change but what happens when you "over-other" yourself and how do we find balance between owning your story and seeing that you are not that different? Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Unt...

A force of empathy and perseverance, Mary Kay Battaglia shares with us her insights as a mom to 3 adult children, navigating shame, mental health diagnoses and the pressure to do it all. We touched on so many important topics. Some of my favorites were: The important skill Mary Kay learned as a mom that translates to her work and daily life The power of normalization & culture in determining w...

This is a HARD topic. And one, that has been riddled with shame for decades. I am so grateful to Jessica for coming to talk about this and her own experiences. Some of the key takeaways: What drew Jessica to be a part of the pageant world The tension that can exist in a world of competition when you also grow to love your peers The loneliness that Jessica experienced throughout the process How to...

Did you know that people-pleasing is directly correlated to your shame narrative? Don't get me wrong, caring for and about other people is incredibly important. That's not the problem. It's how much we invest in everyone else and the WHY behind it we need to address. Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spot...

Do you have toddlers (or will you at some point in your life)? Then this episode is a must-listen. Cara Tyrrell is amazing and I am so grateful we got her on the show. Here are some of my favorite parts of the episode: Why Cara left the classroom The #1 misconception we have as parents when it comes to Kindergarten readiness The importance of emotion regulation as adults in how we support our chil...

In this week's solo episode, we are talking about the power of comparison and the impact it has on our well-being and sense of self. Learn: Why we compare ourselves to others The difference between up-comparison & down-comparison What we can do to break out of the comparison cycle Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podca...

Join me and my dear friend, Morgin Ennis in this powerful and absolutely necessary conversation about the complexities of deciding whether or not to have kids and what it might look like to take the wind out of the sails in the shame-boat that you are supposed to want kids. Some of my favorite points included: Why talking about kids is so hard for many women The important reality that you can love...

Whew I loved everything about getting to talk with Nic Scholtysik about her work in identity burnout and really diving deep into the connect most important to a full life. Some of my favorite takeaways included: What makes hard conversations difficult and why they are important What is identity related burnout? The loneliness and overwhelm that can come with the “expat” experience The impact of ov...

In this episode we are exploring how everything we have internalized about being selfish is wrong and why we need to learn to be more selfish in our lives. Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. Be sure to visit our websi...

Another thought-proviking episode with restaurant owner & chef, Alex Lindenmeyer where we dove deep into the problems facing the service industry and where we, as a culture need to rethink our standards & expectations. We coveredSome of my favorite takeaways: The mind-blowing realization about the role restaurants play in our lives The ways we need to rethink money and expense when it come...

What a joy for Bobbie Harte Shaw to join us on the show. I can't wait to share this episode with you and I know you will be as excited for her to join us again in the future as I am. We covered: Why we decided to talk about aging The way aging hits us in the face as women How our death discomfort makes aging even more scary How a fear of death becomes synonymous with a fear of living Enjoyable...