Untethering Shame

Who has the power in your life, you or the people around you? The difference can be hard to detect but is entirely rooted in the role our emotions play in interactions, the key point being, are you reacting or responding to the world around you? Learn More: What is shame? Check out my first solo episode on te podcast or this YouTube video I made here Learn about the difference btw focusing on the...

Thank you so much to my dear friend Jamsheed Amiri for talking so openly about his experience immigrating to the US from Afghanistan and all he has learned, endured and let go of in his journey to finding himself. We covered: The 2 most surprising things Jamsheed remembers when he immigrated to the US The experience of 9/11 through the eyes of an Afghani immigrant child How Jamsheed has integrated...

What a powerful perspective shift offered from Clarissa Kristjansson on the way we view our bodies as we age. In this powerful conversation we talked about: The cultural norms that have made us afraid of menopause The way big pharma has used shame and fear as a means of selling agelessness and a “menopause cure” or treatment The idea of health and fitness as a spectrum The role of social media as...

What a powerful conversation with Jackie Contessa about the eneagram and not only what it is but how we can use it as a support tool to guide us in our journey to self-awareness. We talk pretty openly about the strengths of the enagram but also the limitations in its application and how to reframe the way we think about assessments in general. Some of my favorite points included: The difference be...

In this week's solo episode, I am sharing with you 6 hard yet absolutely freeing truths we need to accept in our journey to shame resilience. Resources: Radical acceptance episode --> Spotify or Apple Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your...

Join Lindsay and I in a discussion on the joy, overwhelm and wonder of motherhood. We get real in our exploration as human givers and the impact that has on how we view ourselves as moms. Key topics include: Some of my favorite insights and topics include: How to integrate your expectations and the reality of parenthood The problem with the “power through” mentality When being a “helper” goes too...

Join Danielle & I in this powerful conversation where we: Delve into the clutches of sugar addiction and understand how it leaves us feeling ensnared. Explore how our society's acceptance of addictive and avoidant behaviors fuels habits that hinder our progress. Uncover the reasons why your efforts to transform your eating habits might be falling short of your aspirations. Discover the piv...

In this week's solo episode, we are talking about burnout . We are all burnt out -- or running close to the edge of it. And the only way to do anything meaningful about it is to actually get clear on what it is, WHY it shows up and the steps it takes to stop getting caught in the chase to do and be it all. Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame."...

Michelle Terpstra joins me to talk about what makes sales so hard and how we got to a place it feels "sleezy" and "bad" so we can reframe it in a more empowering way. We talked about: What sales is really about The biggest fears we have about sales and where they are rooted to The impact of buyer’s remorse on how we show up in sales The reason you need to make an ask and how th...

Join Emily Bissen and I as we talk about the tension that can exist between the world we are a part of and the world we create for ourselves. Some of the highlights included: The conflict between expansion and shoulds What “more” means in the context of expansion and fulfillment Redefining “limits” within the context of our own lives and wants The inevitable loss that comes with choosing more and...

Let's talk family get-togethers. For many of us, we spend all year dreading them and are constantly on the hunt for an excuse good enough not to attend. We are fixated on what everyone else will do or say and are overwhelmed by the thought of being "in it" for however long we are there but can't seem to shake the story that "we have to" go and "have no choice"...

What a powerful conversation with Deana Tsiapalis trying to dive deeper into understanding chronic pain from a more holistic view. And along the way, I came face to face with just how much my body is trying to connect with me about my own emotional and mental distress. We covered: What chronic pain actually means How our culture views and treats pain and the issues that arise from that The 3 eleme...

Another powerful episode where Tina Hallis joined me to talk about health and the exploration of health as a concept and experience.  We covered: The most important data point in our health & well-being The reason we resist mental health as a tool for treating & healing chronic pain and disease “My head and my heart don’t always agree” The #1 thing we have to stop being afraid of when we t...

One of the hardest things to accept in life is that we can't control everything. In this week's solo episode, learn more about how to do that using the process of Radical Acceptance. Radical Acceptance is one of the primary skills in dialectical Behavioral Therapy, which is about identifying, grieving and letting go of that which is out of your control and not your responsibility. Resource...

Join Laura and me in discussing heterocissexism as it relates to her story and what she has learned and overcome through this process to make her the therapist she is today. We covered: The inner turmoil born by intersecting identities in conflict with each other The ways labels leave so many displaced The intergenerational transmission of oppressive systems  The domino effect of oppression The in...

Another amazing episode. Katharine is beyond knowledgeable and I am beyond grateful for all of her wisdom. We discussed: That hardest part about feeding our kids The 2 things to let go of when it come to feeding your kids The things you DON’T have to do to be a good parent Why we need to be mindful of our reactions The need to address our own food series, issues and trauma to show up openly with o...

In this week's solo episode, I want to talk about Thanksgiving and the complex questions and considerations behind whether or not to celebrate - and if you do, how - a holiday with such an atrocious history. Resources: “ Fry Bread "; Written by Kevin Noble Maillard, Illustrated by Juana Martinez-Neal “ We Are Grateful " ; Written by Traci Sorell, Illustrated by Frame Lessac " We...

Another powerful episode diving deep into the stories and norms we have about sex and ourselves as a sexual being and what it looks like to change the story*. We discussed: Permission to embrace oneself as a sexual being Importance of discussing sex with providers Balancing motherhood with sexuality Acceptance of being a work in progress How societal biases lead to silent suffering Avoiding avoida...

What a powerful episode where we explored so many different nuances and thoughts surrounding the adoptee experience. Some of the key pieces included: The different perspectives and experiences of adoption The power behind a child's story start point and why we need to consider more than the idea of them being "saved" or their life starting with adoption The role shame plays for the a...

In this week's solo episode, we are coming back to the concept of core beliefs learning about our innermost stories and perceived truths and how they shape the way we show up in the world and act as the fuel source for our shame. Stay Connected: Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a r...

Happy birthday to me — a second release for this week! And WOW is it fantastic. I am so grateful to have met Mike Iamele and for him to be able to share his story and work with all of you.  Here are some of my key takeaways from this episode: The fluidity of labels and what it means to be explore them over time How shame can make us distant ourselves from the greatest sense of security The binds l...

Join Barb & I as we discuss what it's like to change the system and run into hard topics and situations versus walk away. Some of my favorite parts include: What it was like for Barb to make her way in the world as the youngest of 11 children The power of a question in creating change What led Barb to create a Suicide Awareness non-profit with international reach and support How to find fo...

Wow — what a powerful and deep conversation with Steve where we dive deep into his experience as a Nigerian man who immigrated to the US and the experiences we all face trying to sift through expectations, norms, and shame-driven pressures to produce, do, and be successful. Some of the key points we hit on:  The grief in realizing we can’t do and be it all, even when the world seems to expect it f...

Join Jennifer & I in this deeply difficult and important conversation  The power of community in healing from a traumatic loss and why we, as a culture, need to do better about sitting in hard conversations The impact of grief suppression when you are trying to make things easier and lighter for others The importance of listening to and connecting with our bodies during times of loss and traum...

This podcast episode takes us to another layer of understanding the fascinating intersection of the Drama Triangle and shame. We unravel how these two powerful dynamics often intertwine and shape our interactions. Discover how roles like the Hero, Victim, and Villain play into our responses to shame, and how recognizing this dance can lead to healthier communication, self-awareness, and ultimately...