Unscripted: Intelligent exploration of intimacy, power and eroticism

What makes someone leave a corporate career to become a male escort? In this eye-opening conversation, Anisa sits down with George Goulburn , who shares his unexpected journey into the world of professional intimacy. George talks about:  The emotional and psychological depth of his work  The profound impact he has on his clients’ lives  The biggest misconceptions about male sex work  Why intimacy—...

In this special bonus episode, we step away from expert interviews to sit down with everyday people. Silence and stigma around sexuality can leave us feeling isolated, misunderstood, or even ashamed, but sharing stories reminds us that we’re not alone. Today, I’m joined by Lynton, who candidly shares his personal story. Together, we explore: Polyamory : What it means to embrace ethical non-monogam...

In this conversation, Anisa Varasteh and Stacey Micallef discuss the concept of sexual confidence in relation to gender identities and the challenges faced by gender diverse individuals. Stacey shares practical tips for enhancing sexual confidence and emphasises the freedom that comes with gender diversity. The discussion also touches on the connection between gender and sexuality, and how individ...

In this episode of Sexplicit, Anisa sits down with Clinical Sexologist Kate Dempsey to explore the complex journey of rebuilding sexual confidence after infidelity. This episode delves into the intense emotional landscape that can emerge after betrayal, examining the ways it affects one’s sense of erotic confidence and other areas of life. With practical tips grounded in Internal Family Systems (I...

In this episode of Sexplicit, join Anisa as she dives deep into the topic of sexual confidence for heterosexual men with Cam Fraser, a Certified Professional Sex Coach and Certified Sexologist. Together, they explore the barriers men face when it comes to sexual confidence and provide practical strategies to overcome them. Topics Covered: Insecurities and anxieties men commonly experience in the b...

In this episode Anisa has a conversation with Ella Shannon, the National Chair of the Society of Australian Sexologists, for a candid conversation about sexual confidence after trauma . They explore strategies to reclaiming sexual confidence following traumatic experiences, offering hope and guidance to those on the path to healing. Key Topics Discussed: What is Sexual Confidence? A Is it Possible...

In this episode, we dive deep into the world of sexual confidence with Caitlin V. Caitlin V is a sex and relationship coach, YouTuber, and host of Good Sex on Max and Discovery+. Formerly a professional sexual health researcher, she dropped out of her PHD program to start a career coaching men to gain confidence, satisfaction, and transformation both inside and outside the bedroom. Caitlin’s missi...

In this  episode, Anisa is joined by Jacqueline Hellyer, one of Australia’s leading sexologists and the founder of the Lovelife Clinic. They dive deep into the nuances of sexual confidence within long-term relationships, exploring what it truly means to feel confident and connected with your partner over time. Key Topics Discussed: Understanding Sexual Confidence Challenges to Sexual Confidence in...

In this engaging episode, join Anisa,  as she candidly shares her birth story and imparts valuable tips on minimising the risk of birth trauma. Get ready for an insightful discussion covering postpartum intimacy with Anisa Varsteh and Candice Care-Unger, both experienced clinical sexologists. Highlights include: Anisa's personal birth journey Practical advice on reducing the likelihood of bir...

In this  episode, I'm opening up and sharing my story, giving you a glimpse into what led me to become a clinical sexologist. Amanda (Relate Sexology's Communications Manager) and I will be diving deep into the fascinating topic of why sex is taboo and shining a light on the historical policing of women's sexuality. It's a topic that hits close to home for many of us, and toget...

In this episode you will hear Anisa Varasteh Clinical Sexologist discuss: -Why people are interested in such extreme practices - Is kink a sexual practice? -Why there is a high representation of asexual and neurodivergent people in kink community -Do masochists really enjoy pain? -Sub/Dom space: an altered state of consciousness Links: https://www.relatesexology.com/healing-through-kink 

In this episode you will hear Anisa Varasteh Clinical Sexologist discuss: Underlying causes of sexual pain strategies to address painful sex To book an appointment with Relate Sexology team go to : relatesexology.com/our-team

In this episode Anisa Varasteh, Clinical Sexologist discusses: What normal means in a sexual context What influences our ideas of normality How pre-occupation with 'normality' can impact our sexuality What to do if you think you are not normal

In this episode you will hear Anisa Varasteh Clinical Sexologist discuss: -Discerning developmentally typical sexual behaviours in children from concerning behaviours -Examples of developmentally typical behaviours and concerning behaviours in 4 age groups Submit your questions anonymously here: https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/DNMZV75

In this episode you will hear Anisa Varasteh Clinical Sexologist discuss:  7 common blocks to erotic confidence Specific tips and suggestions for addressing each of these obstacle Link to Discover Your Erotic Self: https://www.relatesexology.com/sexuality-workshop-erotic-self

In this episode Anisa Varasteh, Clinical Sexologist discusses:   ·       The impact of sexual assault on relationships   ·       Why sex and intimacy can be very challenging after sexual assault   ·       How to re-build intimacy if you find any sexual or physical activity triggering    ·       What partners can do to support their loved one    ·       Strategies to enjoy intimacy again   ·       ...

In this episode Anisa Varasteh, Clinical Sexologist discusses: What is narcissism?  Identifying narcissism in relationships  Early signs and red flags for narcissism in romantic and sexual relationships The impact of long-term relationships with a narcissist Leaving a toxic relationship with a narcissist

In this episode, Anisa Varasteh, Clinical Sexologists will discuss:  What the 5 Love Languages are Why they may be hurting your relationship Tips for healthy relationships Managing conflicts in a relationship  Submit your questions anonymously here: www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/DNMZV75 More about Relate Sexology: www.relatesexology.com

In this episode Anisa Varasteh, Clinical Sexologist answers your questions about pornography: -What is pornography? -Can watching porn impact your mental health, sexual functioning or relationship? -What is ethical pornography? -Can porn be helpful? -Does violent porn lead to violent behaviour? -I am a non-violent person but interested in BDSM, does it mean I have an underlying desire to hurt othe...

In this episode, you will hear:  Why do people choose open relationships? How common is non-monogamy? What do I/we need to do if we want to explore an open relationship? Essential skills you need for a successful relationship Different relationship structures Links to resources mentioned in this episode: Submit your questions here: https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/DNMZV75 Worksheet: https://www.re...

In this episode: •            Healing attachment wounds in therapy •            Listen to Anisa using Internal Family Systems to support someone who has anxiety around dating

What your sexual fantasies say about you In this episode, you will hear:  The origin of sexual fantasies The most common sexual fantasies and why people have them The psychology of sexual fantasies Difference between fantasy and desire How to communicate with your partner about sexual fantasies Links to resources mentioned in this episode: Submit you questions here: https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/...

In this episode you will hear: Impact of childhood experiences on adulthood relationships Attachment styles  How attachment styles impact intimate relationships Strategies to form new healthy relationships To book a therapeutic session with Anisa visit: https://www.relatesexology.com/ Books mentioned in the podcast: Healing Trauma by Peter Levine The body keeps the score by Bassel van der Kolk 

In this episode, you will hear:  Orgasm as a social construct The common myths about female orgasm How do porn and the media impact our sexuality? Redefining foreplay and sex Anorgasmia The impact of language on experiencing sexual pleasure Ways to explore pleasure How to discuss masturbation with your partner Choosing body-safe sex toys For more information about the therapeutic services I offer...

The psychology of seduction In this episode: The difference between being friendly and flirty How not to get “friend-zoned” Common mistakes people make when they want to seduce someone How to avoid such mistakes How not to come across as “predatory” or “too much” Step-by-step guide to seduce another person How to ask for consent without “killing the mood” Free online course: Discover Your Erotic S...