Unprocessed

Why do women, including myself in the past, hate their bellies no matter the size? As a therapist of nearly a decade, I have noticed it's the number 1 body part women wish was different. This episode is about what ancient wisdom and feminist psychotherapy says about the belly and what is so scary about "trusting our guts." I share about my journey toward being tender to this space in a culture tha...

I wanted to be seen, but I didn't want people to know about the wanting. What is it about revealing effort and desperation that feels so wrong? Come join me as I explore the underpinnings of human desperation, the desire to be seen, and how we play peekaboo as adults--showing the parts of ourselves that actually conceal the parts that we wish others would see. 

I didn't prioritize baking the pie. I don't have space for friendship. I can't mother you, but I really wish I could. Are all the radical truths I have been telling as I attempt to align what I am thinking, with what I am feeling, saying and doing. Listen in to learn how I shifted my goal from being liked to being respected, why it's so hard to be truthful, and a new way of looking...

This episode is about admitting the hard truths to ourselves (and perhaps others) that we are inclined to hide. It's about shame and to unburden it. You will hear me share something about something I wanted to do as a parent that I feel afraid to tell you, and then how I sit with it, to free myself and my daughter from it's weight. This is about looking at the monster under the bed.

In this episode, I explore my mixed feelings about the statement "relationships are hard," In that this message is often served to people who are already doing more than their share in relationships, and it justifies their labor. What's the line between experiencing challenges and feeling like you're constantly on an uphill climb?  I talk about what I do in relationships (that I...

I rather eat the couscous off the floor than own the desire to eat couscous at the beginning of the meal. This episode is about the denial of satiety, the feeling that comes with having a need fully met. I explore why fullness is triggering, and how our relationship with being fully fed plays out on our relationship with food. How does the food we eat/not eat become SO powerful? How does restricti...

This episode is about the relationship between control and rage. I share about how I took up late night Swiffering when I wanted to contain the mess, when I really needed to get messier instead. Constriction feels safest when it’s the norm. How can your body experience freedom and unleash, when that’s so unfamiliar to it?

This week I talk about how I learned to gain power and strength to self-denial, how that led to my over-functioning in relationships, which in turn enabled others to under-function (making me mad). We will learn together what makes it so hard to own our needs and develop a language around them—how painful it is to finally acknowledge them, and then risk them not being met. Restriction can be a goo...

When my husband said he "just wants me to be happy," I wanted to pin the responsibility on him, but I knew I couldn't, it wasn't his work, it was my work to create space for more joy. This episode is about the complex work of figuring out what needs must be met by the relationship, and which ones to be met outside of it. It's also a story of connection hunger and anger about...

This is a question I contemplated for nearly a year after my 3rd baby was born. I stopped being able to orgasm vaginally, my 2 year old commented on how my vagina was different from hers, and I began to fear that pleasure and vitality, as I knew them, were gone. In this episode, you will hear me share how shifting the question from "what is wrong with me?" to "what went wrong for me?" allowed me t...