Unhindered

Normally I'm always banging on about the need to solve the insecurity problem in your life, but today I'm highlighting the 3 biggest reasons NOT to stop being insecure. The truth about insecurity is that it in certain seasons it provides incredible value and plays a very important role in your life. Are you really sure you are ready to stop being insecure? On today’s episode of 10 minute Tuesday I...

The human condition is this: We want to be good, but are afraid that we are bad. Therefore, we avoid living and dying, loving and trying. We run away from what is real incase that reality reveals our true nature and that nature proves to be bad. This is the central drama of our existence, and the underlying cause of all dysfunction and suffering. Thankfully there is an antidote to this great probl...

Are you hiding in plain sight? The safest place to hide is always where no one thinks to look. Hiding in plain sight is to appear to not even be hiding at all. You deceive others and more importantly you even deceive yourself That is exactly why it works so well! I know that no one wants to be called out especially while they are hiding, but I can get away with it because I have no agenda other th...

The final 10 minute Tuesday episode for the year! So much about the problem of insecurity is created and sustained simply through imprecise language. Yet, as Jordan Peterson so cleverly says, our world becomes radically different when we are precise in our speech instead. Listen in to see how this one simple idea is the only way in to the process of truly overcoming your insecurity.

If you are not committed to living out the vision you have for your life, then you will inevitably be serving someone else’s vision for your life. These are the only 2 options. Here are 20 things that have helped me not only get clear about what I want for my life, but to become the kind of person who could see these dreams become reality. If you feel stuck somewhere on your vision quest, I’m sure...

My guest on the podcast today is Isiah McKimmie Isiah is a Couples Therapist, Sex Therapist, Sexologist and Coach who has been helping women and couples discover intimacy and connection for over a decade. One of Australia’s most qualified Sex and Relationship Experts, she holds a Masters degree in Relational Psychotherapy, a Master degree in Science in Medicine (Sexual Counselling/Psycho...

Did you realise that 80% of your success in any area of life comes from only 20% of your efforts? Based on the brilliant 80/20 principle book by Richard Koch, find out the 20% effort that is guaranteed to yield 80% of your results when it comes to overcoming insecurity.

The 4 A’s of transformation On the Podcast today. Brian and Carrie unpack their exquisite 4A’s of transformation model. I first came across their work 4 years ago and this one idea instantly changed my life. It has become the central idea from which I do all coaching work and is a beautiful summary of how anyone has ever and will ever transform their life. This model is referenced on page 121 of m...

If jealousy is ruining your life, here is how to stop being jealous today. The problem with jealousy is that it positions you as a victim with no power to improve the quality of your life. It stops your dead in your tracks and leaves you stuck right where you are. Here are the 3 key questions to move you out of jealousy back into responsibility so you continue moving closer to the life you truly d...

According to father of modern management theory, Peter Drucker, "Productivity consists of NOT doing anything that helps the work of other people but to spend all one's time on the work that the Good Lord has fitted one to do and to do well." However, in order to have that much laser focus about your work in the world, means first dealing with issues around: - People pleasing, assertiveness, clarit...

My guest today is Joel Primus. Joel is a former elite long distance runner turned entrepreneur. He is the founder and creative visionary behind Naked Underwear. He helped raise over $17 million, establishing retail distribution at Holt Renfrew, Nordstrom, Hudson’s Bay, and Bloomingdales. Naked completed a merger with Australian-based industry powerhouse, Bendon Lingerie, exiting in 2018. Recently,...

The aim of the game is to be fully human. It is to achieve our potential and each bring our unique gift to the planet while increasing the collective conciseness of humanity. To experience the wonder and richness of being alive, requires the optimisation of every part of life. Otherwise we run the risk of having a very small experience of life or missing the magic altogether! Everything can be opt...

My guest today is the wonderful Michael Bungay Stanier. Michael is at the forefront of shaping how organizations around the world make being coach-like an essential leadership behavior and competency. His book The Coaching Habit is the best-selling coaching book of this century, with over 700,000 copies sold and 1,000+ five-star reviews on Amazon. In 2019, he was named the #1 thought leader in coa...

Your relationship with money is one of the clearest windows to look through to examine your relationship with yourself. In fact for those starting out in the personal development journey it is a perfect place to start. In today’s episode of 10 minute Tuesday I’ll show you how to develop a very happy relationship with money out of the overflow of a happy relationship with yourself.

The moment you see insecurity as a predictable problem with a predictable solution, the game has changed in your favour forever! As such, If I’m allowed to have a favourite part of my own book, this would be it: “Your behaviour is not nearly as weird, broken, messy, or random as you think. Behaviour is simply the end of the assembly line produced by the factory of your beliefs. What’s more, your b...

Do you have friends and family that find it difficult or even impossible to accept your compliments? Do you struggle to accept compliments yourself? On today's episode of 10 minute episode I'll show you exactly why people can't accept compliments and the two things that need to happen for this to change for good.

What would happen if you lived as though your father was dead? Father of modern psychotherapy, Sigmund Freud, observed that a human’s greatest challenge was to break free from the nest. He taught that there were great forces at play working against this freedom both in the parent and in the child, but that ultimately all dysfunction in life came through this tendency to get stuck within the family...

Have you ever been gaslighted? Have you ever gaslighted someone else? Perhaps you have never understood what this term even means. Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation where a person makes someone question their own memory, judgment or perception of reality. This often creates cognitive dissonance and massively undermines their self esteem. In today's episode of 10 minute Tuesday I'...

The statistics are that at least 1 in 3 women world wide have experienced some kind of sexual violence against them and 1 in 6 men. That is a massive percentage of the global population and it is highly likely that the numbers are even higher given how hard it is for people to tell someone else about their experience. This means that if you have not directly been abused, you know someone who has s...

Have you noticed that all the conversations, special programs and hashtags around mental health are not actually helping the issue at all? In fact, I'm convinced it is only making things worse. The underlying assumptions that make current mental health stuff so ineffective are; that people are broken, labels are real and that you need to tread very carefully so you don't make things worse. In toda...

Do you ever get frustrated that all the effort you are putting into improving the quality of your life is not working? The point is, that it’s not hard work, repetition, or dedication that improve the quality of your life. In fact it is entirely possible to waste an incredible amount of time and energy on these things for no lasting gain. Practice doesn’t make perfect, it just makes permanent. Wha...

Ever wondered why some people get what they want and others don't? It turns out there are three secrets to becoming this kind of person that have nothing to do with what they deserve, how hard they work, or how much support they have. Listen in to today's episode of 10 minute Tuesday and I show you how it works.

You're in for a treat today. I've finally convinced Kat to come on the show with me! I wanted to give you an idea of how we've gamified our marriage by creating 8 relationship rules to make sure we can both win the game. We'll unpack the list for you on today's episode of 10 minute Tuesday. Here are our 8 rules: 1. Honour rapport with yourself as the number 1 priority 2. Be clear about what you wa...

Here are the answers to the 12 most frequently asked questions about insecurity from you all. Thanks for those who submitted their queries! 1. How can I help my partner/kids/friends/others with insecurity? 2. Why are some people more insecure than others? 3. Where does insecurity/anxiety come from? What causes insecurity? 4. How can I stop caring about what others think of me? 5. Why do I always f...

Ever wondered how I got to be the insecurity guy? Here's a window into my backstory and how insecurity shaped my experience of life until I worked out how to solve this problem for good. I'll tell you about my insecurities with money, relationships, my body, sport and speaking my message and what happened in each of these areas when I discovered the 7 practices for overcoming insecurity. I'm sure...