Unf*ck Your Relationships

We're getting into a fucking juicy topic today, friends, so buckle up and get ready. Today, we're talking emotionally unavailable men. Not just what a relationship with these men looks like, though I will be going over that. No, today I'm coming at this from a different angle. I want to talk about why these men are so fucking addicting to us, even when we claim to want something completely differe...

I am so fucking excited to share today's episode with you all. I have invited the illustrious Victoria Alario onto the podcast to chat with me today! Victoria is a multi-passionate and multifaceted entrepreneur with a focus on helping women unleash their confidence and step into their 2.0 self. Her work helps women build their self-esteem, embrace their purpose, and get everything they want out of...

If you've been following me for a while now, you've probably heard me speak on the term duality —the concept of two opposing things being true at the same time. This week, I'm diving into one example of duality that very few people seem to understand: that you can be perfectly happy living your single life, and still desire a relationship. Wild, right? You don't actually have to choose between one...

So. Your partner refuses to do the work alongside you, and it's driving you crazy. Have you considered that maybe, just maybe, they're not doing this to piss you off? I've talked about this before, but doing the work fucking sucks. It's hard. It requires you to delve into places you might've kept locked up for years and years…maybe even since childhood. It takes a lot for a person to decide they n...

I'm gonna be really honest, all right? There's one thing that drives me absolutely crazy in my relationship: My partner doesn't use the dishwasher. It's such a small thing, but it drives me a bit mental. And for most of us, even if we're not controlling people, this is how controlling tendencies show up: in the day-to-day. In the loading of the dishwasher. In the way they fold their socks. Why do...

Narcissist. It's such a power word, right? You call someone a narcissist, and suddenly you feel so much better about yourself and what happened with them. Why is this? As people, when we're in our ego, we like labels. We like to ignore duality. And if we can label someone who hurt us, we're able to understand that and absolve ourselves of any concerns over our role or any doubts about our self-wor...

Today I want to talk about something you probably haven't heard of...it's called the drama triangle. The drama triangle has three "points," or "roles," to it: the victim, the persecutor, and the rescuer. And when we get into an argument with our partner, we can often end up battling it out for which of us gets to play the role of the victim. In a healthy relationship, there are no victims, babe. T...

When we think about transformation, we tend to think about the beauty at the end of it, not the pain we go through on the way. This just in: doing the work isn't all pretty self-care rituals and kind affirmations and relying on a program's curriculum to do all the changing for you. It's called doing the work; it requires your active participation. And I'm not going to lie to you, all right? It's g...

So it happened again, huh, love? You set a standard, you set a boundary, and it got fucking crossed. You're sick of not having your standards met, you don't understand why it keeps happening, and you don't know how to fix it... Well, I've got good news and bad news for you. Good news? I do know how to fix it. Bad news? It's going to take some hard fucking work on your part. The truth is, people ar...

It's been a long time coming, loves, but the time is finally here to talk about trust. Specifically, what happens when either you or your partner breaks it. I'm not gonna lie to you—this fucking sucks. Especially when you're the one who's had trust broken, but also when you are the trust-breaker...because oftentimes, we actually hurt each other unintentionally. One of you is left betrayed. One of...

Are you ready, ladies? Grab some wine, get in your favorite seat, and get ready to be seduced...or, rather, get ready to learn what it means to be a Seductress. What is a Seductress archetype? So, so many things—and so many of those things have absolutely nothing to do with the classic idea of seduction. When we think of seduction, we think Femme Fatale. We think manipulative. We think selfish. An...

Oooo-kay, ladies, this one might be a bit hard to swallow. Today, we're talking about the stages of falling in love. The four stages are Honeymoon (we all know that one), Power Struggle (uggghhh), Stability (almost there!), and Commitment (the goal, right?). Now, I can already hear some of you: "My relationship is perfect!" "The honeymoon stage never ended for us!" I'm about to give you such a rud...

Okay, ladies: it's about time we sat down and had a chat about the Big O: orgasms. Some of you just got excited...and some of you got worried. I get it, love. Orgasms are a sensitive subject for me—not just for me, but for a lot of women. So many of us have had Hollywood's version of sex hammered so deep into our brains that we can't picture anything else. If we're not cumming in thirty seconds or...

Take a deep breath and grab a glass of wine, babes. You're gonna need both, because today, we're chatting all about shame. Just about every woman I've met has some kind of shame surrounding her sexuality. That's the bad news. The good news? That means you're not alone. So many of us struggle with having total confidence in our sexuality and our pleasure...including me. Yes, me. I've struggled with...

Welcome back, loves! We're going behind the scenes today to talk about all things stripping. Come along as I spill all the tea about my eleven years working in the sex industry: my favorite stories, my worst moments, everything I learned about emotional intimacy, the truth about the different sides of men, and how my time stripping inspired my career today. Check your prejudices at the door, becau...

This just in, loves: No matter how bad you want to hide her, that inner brat of yours is in there, and she wants OUT. You can try and put baby in a corner all you like, but she's gonna break her way out eventually, and when she does? It's not gonna be pretty. There are better ways to wrangle your inner brat, and if you need someone to teach you, I know just the bad bitch for the job. Put on your b...

Breaking news my love: the world doesn't owe you love. It actually doesn't owe you a goddamn thing. If you're sitting there blaming the universe for your problems in life or relationships, and figure that one day, one magical"huh, I guess we're done fucking with her, time to give her the man of her dreams and a fantastic, fullfilled life to go with it," …let me know how that goes. After you get ba...

Healthy love: what it is, what it's not, and how the fuck do you actually find it? In case you missed it, I've recently discovered the gift of a real, loving, trusting relationship, so everyone give a hearty welcome to Drew Wild. I figured it was time to officially introduce him to this sphere of spiritual space I love so much, and show you first hand how self-healing can help you find a truly awa...

The truth of the matter is, there is no such thing as perfect: he's not perfect but neither are you. You both have weird hang-ups and quirks and flaws. You're both going to annoy the ever-loving shit out of one another from time to time. You're going to fight. You're going to disagree. This doesn't mean your relationship is bad or doomed or that you need to end it. In this episode we'll talk more...

We saw it all the time right when hashtags were becoming a thing: #friendgoals, #relationshipgoals, usually captioning pictures of girls with their heads squished together surrounded by brunch mimosas. And while brunch is a wonderful activity to incorporate into your friendship routine, it's not necessarily a building block to a "friend goal" situation. Sorry, friend (get it), but you're actually...

Today we're going to talk about The 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse. No, not that apocalypse, don't get all excited and throw all your predictions about end times at me. Relationship professional John Gottam is an expert on all things lasting connection, and he has defined the 4 most prominent nails in the coffin when it comes to break-ups and divorces- The Four Horsemen of a Relationship Apocalypse,...

I'd like to take this episode to talk about a topic I feel often gets pushed under the dating rug- the almost relationship. We've all been there- you go on a few amazing dates, he's wonderful, you're communicating and connecting and planning events months in the future. You feel solid, and you just KNOW you're both on the same page. He mentions meeting his parents. This is it. Any day he'll ask yo...

One of the most common things I hear when working with women is "I just want real love." Dude, I hear you. I know. And sure, to some degree, lots of men are the worst. But, I have news for you- you're part of the problem. Look, it's never fun to identify what we're doing wrong. But if you feel like you're in an endless loop of attracting men who are super fun and hot and things go well until they...

Oh hey, all my Anxious Attachment bitches. How's it going? By "it" I specifically mean dating- not great? Well, that's why I'm here so listen up. Before you know it we'll have you dating appropriate men with confidence and ease. No stalking your phone/ their social media pages. No word vomit to fill weird silences. If you struggle with Anxious Attachment it can feel like you need to "fix" yourself...

Common belief of the collective "them" would have you believe that you have to be a perfect and flawless version of yourself in order to actually love yourself. I would argue that in subscribing to this school of thought, you'll be waiting forever to love yourself, and I don't love that for you. That's why in this next episode I go more into: What self-love actually is How to accept all parts of y...