Unf*ck Your Relationships

What's the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the words "dating app?" If it's a resounding "ugggghhh," guess what? You're going to want to listen to this episode. I get it. Lots of people have told themselves all kinds of stories around why dating apps are the fucking WORST. But here's the thing: when you engage in this mindset, you're actually cock-blocking yourself from meeting a...

If you're sick of feeling like you're dating the same man over and over and over and OVER again…this episode's for you. This is the most common reason people come to work with me around dating and relationships; they're tired as fuck of ending up with emotionally unavailable men, and they're ready to get in a conscious relationship. There are lots of reasons why you might keep getting trapped in t...

Listen up, loves! We're going to be covering a LOT more subjects surrounding dating for the next while, because… IT'S SWIPE RIGHT SEASON! Swipe Right is my program all about dating: setting standards, non-negotiable boundaries, online dating mindset, and everything else that you could possibly need to know. We're gonna be chatting about allll the things, but today we're going to start with what NO...

I have heard way, way, wayyy too many people ask why the spark has disappeared from their relationships…and then blame their partner for lack of effort. Here's the truth: the minute you let your relationship shift into autopilot, you will lose that level of connection you had at the start. Relationships don't run on their own, regardless of how long it's been; you always need to be putting effort...

You want to know why you're struggling with setting boundaries? I'll give you a hint…it's not because you don't know how. If you're in this space, I'm willing to bet you've heard HOW to set a boundary or what a boundary is a billion times. What you need to be asking is WHY you aren't setting boundaries. I've said this before, I'll say it again: EVERYTHING we do, we do it because we benefit in some...

Conscious relating isn't a skill you can just DECIDE to learn. It takes fucking work. It takes doing THE fucking work. But if you're anything like me, sometimes you don't learn lessons until you've fucked around and found out once, twice…a lot. If you're NOT like me and CAN learn things without fucking them up first just in case, this episode is going to be great for you. I'm here today to share a...

Something I've noticed about this podcast? You guys go fucking FERAL when I talk about anxious attachment. I don't choose subject matter based on what's popular; I choose it based on what I want to talk about. Today, these two things just happen to align. I want to come at anxious attachment from a different angle today, because you know what I see wayyy too much? People doing unhealthy shit in th...

Hellooooo, my loves. I am freshly back from a fucking INCREDIBLE business retreat, and I am utterly bursting with all the things I want to say, starting with this… If you think that deep friendships are "unicorn friendships," you're absolutely fucking wrong. If you're sitting around pouting because none of your friends are able to meet you in this place of depth, if you think that they have no int...

When we find ourselves getting avoidant + closed off, we immediately jump into a reparation spiral. "I just need to invest in another coach. I need to join a new program. I need to read a new book. I need to, I need to, I need to–" You know what you actually need to do? Listen. To. Your. Fucking. Body. Your body knows more than you consciously do. And sure, sometimes it's a trauma response you nee...

You've probably HEARD about emotional intelligence before. But do you even know WTF it is? First off, emotional intelligence is not something we naturally have. It's something that can absolutely be learned…and something we ABSOLUTELY NEED to learn. You can be book-smart, street-smart, whatever, and that's great. But if you're not emotionally intelligent…good fucking luck forming a healthy relatio...

We've all heard about what happens when we get hit with a hundred fucking awful things all at once. A ton of people have talked about how to expand your capacity to hold more when bad things are happening. But here's the thing… We don't only hit our capacity for negative shit. We also have a certain capacity to hold good things…and when we reach it, we end up primed to dive straight into self-sabo...

He's baaaaack! You asked for it, you're getting it: give a big WELCOME BACK to Drew Wild, an addiction coach whose mission is to change the way this planet looks at and approaches addiction and to tear down any stigma with that word…and is also my amazing, hilarious, fucking glorious partner. Today's episode is going to be a little more lighthearted than the last time I had Drew on: we're going to...

If you don't know my backstory, here it is: I left a long string of trauma-bonded, unhealthy relationships behind me before I entered my current relationship. This is my first truly conscious relationship, and let me tell you…the lessons I've learned from it have fucking changed everything. There are so many things you need to rethink, reprioritize, and revamp in your life if you want to have a tr...

When you start to step into your main character energy, you are going to piss people off. It's just a fact, babe. When you begin to evolve and stop settling for whatever low standards you used to accept, people are going to get pissed off about it. Why? Because they're going to start projecting their own unhealed wounds onto you. I've seen it happen. In fact, just recently I got a SCATHING comment...

Listen up, ladies: it's time to stop fucking ignoring your intuition. I don't care if you think the universe doesn't speak to you. I don't care if you think you don't hear your intuition speaking. You do–you're just not listening. How do I know? Because I did the same fucking thing for a very, very long time. And not only did I do the same thing…I wrote down the proof in my journal. I hope you're...

Tell me if this sounds familiar: "I'm a strong, independent woman, and I don't need no man!" This saying has become a way for women everywhere to give a big FUCK YOU to the idea that women need a man to be complete. And that's great, sure, but here's the thing: When this becomes your whole identity, you actually close yourself off from receiving from others. I am strong, independent, and a woman....

We love a brag here at UFYR, and we especially love a brag when it doubles as a fucking great lesson. This month, I bought my dream car. Now, when I say that, I need you to understand that I don't mean it casually. I mean it's my FUCKING. DREAM. CAR. If you know me at all, you know I have wanted a Range Rover ever since I was a little kid. My whole life, I have been wanting and wanting and wanting...

News flash: the death of communication is the moment you stop being curious. There's a better way to tell your partner when something is bothering you. Reacting when you're in your ego and allowing your emotions to loop a story that may or may not be true? That's not it. Curiosity is the biggest fucking factor of healthy, calm communication. Because once you start getting curious about what's trig...

In 2023, we're taking the role of supporting character and chucking it into the bin. The fact is, we are the main characters of our own fucking lives, and it's about time we started acting like it. No more putting everyone else before ourselves. No more erasing our boundaries to make other people more comfortable. No more letting everyone and everything else decide what happens to us except oursel...

Contrary to popular fucking belief, fashion isn't a shallow thing to invest in. It's actually another facet of self-development work. I recently hired one of my badass best friends, Kelsie Hockins, to help me give my wardrobe a much-needed update. What she does is more than just focusing on the clothes; she's a style coach, which means she helps women that are looking to upgrade not only their war...

When I'm done with something, I am fucking done. Relationships. Friendships. Habits. Identities. Whatever I'm done with, whatever I'm moving on from, I don't do it halfway. I burn it to the fucking ground. For some people, the cold-turkey method of changing their identity doesn't work. But for me, it's the only thing that works. So when my mentor recently asked me what new identity I wanted to ste...

I lost something incredibly dear to me recently: my boobs. Well, not entirely. Just part of them. If you follow me on Instagram or have listened to my recent podcast episodes, you probably know that I had to have explant surgery to remove my breast implants thanks to a rupture. Fucking brilliant. Had the best time. (Not.) While everyone was extremely supportive throughout the experience–my friends...

Brace yourselves, love. This is going to get spicy, and maybe not in the fun way. Let's talk jealousy. Contrary to popular opinion, jealousy by itself is not a fucking red flag. It's just another emotion, and like any other emotion—anger, fear, pleasure, pain, etc.—it's actually just trying to tell you something. The issue isn't feeling jealous. The issue is the controlling, toxic, manipulative be...

You guys. I had the absolute pleasure of being a guest on Beatrice Kamau's podcast, The Self Love Fix, this week, and we had the best fucking time. If you don't know Beatrice, she's a self-trust embodiment coach who helps bad bitches magnetize their desires with ease through shadow work and developing self-trust…and happens to be a bad bitch herself! This week, we got to talk all things friendship...

News flash: healing isn't always good. I can already hear the comments: "Who the fuck are you and what have you done with Michelle?" Take a breath, okay? I promise I'm going somewhere with this. When we uncover our wounds, it's absolutely crucial to not let them sit untouched. We absolutely should be doing the work to heal ourselves. The healing industry is so beautiful for helping us transcend ou...