Unf*ck Your Relationships

I was so honored to be a guest recently on the Thriving in Love podcast, hosted by Sana Akhand! Sana is a fucking incredible love coach with so much wisdom to share, and FUCK did our conversation get JUICYYY. There are plenty of unpopular opinions in this interview of ours, but what do I always say? I'm not here to blow smoke up your ass. And neither is Sana. We're gonna talk about all kinds of sh...

Let's talk about sex, babyyyy…with Dr. Tara, the Internet's Resident Sexpert! If you've ever tuned in to Celebs Go Dating, then you're familiar with Dr. Tara already. She's also a podcast host herself, a former TEDx speaker, a tenured professor, and a sex and relationship coach…who also talks about blowjobs on TikTok. (Proof women aren't one-dimensional, yeah? We contain multitudes.) I am so thril...

Let me see if this sounds familiar to you… You're sitting on the couch at home. Maybe you're reading a book. Maybe you're watching TV. Maybe you're playing a video game. Whatever it is, you're just trying to relax…and then you hear a car pull into the driveway. Adrenaline rush. You're on your feet in an instant, searching for something to do, trying to look busy when your partner or parents or roo...

If you want to call in a man who leads… Take your hands OFF the fucking steering wheel. If you keep stepping in to plan things, if you keep making decisions, if you keep reaching out again and again and again when your energy isn't being met…what makes you think he's going to magically wake up one day and take over? If you step into your masculine, he will step back into his feminine. And that's f...

If you want to kill your relationship stone-cold dead, there's only ONE thing you have to do: Start expecting things from your partner. I don't mean the standards you've set for each other in the relationship itself. I mean starting to EXPECT things that you once APPRECIATED. Maybe at the beginning of your relationship, your partner got you flowers every week. You absolutely gushed with appreciati...

Can I be honest with you? I think you're lying to yourself. If you think you're all right with a mediocre life, you're lying to yourself. If you think you're content with a lukewarm relationship because it's "better than nothing," you're lying to yourself. If you think you're okay with being unhappy about who and how you are…you're LYING TO YOURSELF. Not only that…I think you like being lied to. W...

If your man is getting bored with you… Have you considered that maybe you're just fucking boring? Harsh, I know. But I have worked with wayyy too many clients who don't understand why their partner is getting bored of them, and the fact is…you're probably missing the key to sending your magnetism through the fucking roof: Multidimensionality. When we try to identify the feminine and what it looks...

What if I told you that taking responsibility can be a bad thing? Okay, well, not really. It's important we take responsibility for our shit. However, when we get into the personal development space and start learning about shadows and projections and all that good shit, we can actually end up in a place where we start taking responsibility for the ways we feed into certain situations…and also tak...

Life in plastic is truly fantastic…just like the Barbie movie. I went and saw Barbie recently, and fuuuuck, I loved it. It was so funny, so lighthearted…it even got a tear or two out of me. I'll be honest. (Ryan Gosling with a fake tan and platinum blond hair…not quite so fantastic. But I digress.) However, one thing in particular stuck out to me about the Barbie movie…its portrayal of patriarchy...

There is a difference between wisdom and knowledge, and when it comes to human design, my guest on the podcast this week is fucking BURSTING with wisdom. I have never met someone more embodied in their work than Mallory, my wonderful friend and a passionate human design coach. (Like, she doesn't even need fucking notes to dive deeper into human design and what it can do than anyone else I've ever...

I talk a lot about becoming utterly unfuckwithable, but let me tell you…over the past few months, I feel that I've truly UPLEVELED in my ability to be exactly that. I have unfuckwithable confidence. I have an unfuckwithable sense of who I am. I have unfuckwithable integrity and emotional intelligence. I have come leaps and bounds in the past few months, and I want to tell you all about it. Mentors...

"Nobody knows you better than you know yourself." Mmm…I don't think so, loves. I think that's fucking false. Here's why: We have a tendency to engage in distraction mode the SECOND we start noticing anything in ourselves that we don't want to see. A glass of wine…or a bottle. A binging session on Netflix. Hours of scrolling on TikTok. Whatever your distraction is, it's keeping you from actually si...

I'm just gonna be honest: the subtle growth we experience every day is fucking boring. That's just how it is. It's fucking boring. When we aren't experiencing huge, life-changing shifts, we feel like nothing is happening at all. But that's not the case at all. Maybe you can't name the shifts that have happened to you in the last six months. But I bet if you sat down and took a look at just how far...

I'll tell you a secret: I spent wayyy too long trying to decide what I wanted to talk about for this episode. It's Main Character Energy season, which means a lot of content around CONFIDENCE has been coming out of this space lately. And I kept trying to shove my message into that same box for today, but you know what? It wasn't working. And I realized why pretty quickly: I was trying to please ev...

I have a question: why the fuck are we still policing women's bodies in 2023? Getting Botox? Great. Plastic surgery? Who the fuck cares. Let people LIVE. If you ask me, the WHAT is not important. It's the WHY we need to examine. If you're getting your nails done because you love having acrylics…good for you, boo. If you're getting your nails done because OMG I CAN'T BE CONFIDENT WITHOUT MY NAILS I...

Get ready for a coaching sesh in communication, loves. I've invited Shannon Torres, a client, business owner, and overall badass, to come on and chat about what happens when we can't communicate effectively…with others or ourselves. Shannon started off as most people do: unable to communicate feelings and navigating relationships through an endless cycle of repeated patterns. After years of person...

If your confidence is built on external factors around you then it's built on shaky ground. If things are going well you're going to feel on top of the world and your confidence is going to be sky high. But if the external factors contributing to your self-confidence changes then it's going to totally mess with your energy and sense of self. In this episode, I'm diving into the ways that confidenc...

Listen, loves… Self-responsibility? It's not exactly the sexiest thing in the world. It's so much sexier to advertise my programs as something that can get your man to finally commit, or to make yourself irresistible to men, or whatever the fuck it might be… But the truth is…at its core, my work is about helping you connect to YOU. It's messy. It's emotional. It's fucking hard. But once you commit...

Throw off your rose-colored glasses, my loves—this week, we're getting real about red flags. Some red flags are subjective, right? Different things give different women the ICK…but that's a different episode. This week, I'm talking about the red flags that you should NEVER FUCKING IGNORE…like, across the board. I don't want excuses. I don't want "But if I just love them hard enough, maybe…" No. No...

When I sit down to discuss what high-caliber men find attractive in women, I'm not going to waste your time talking about wearing makeup, dressing feminine, smelling good, etcetera. We're not worried about the external today. Instead, we're going to take a look at the INTERNAL qualities that attract next-level men. You're not going to be able to attract the kind of man you're looking for by focusi...

Being abandoned is the best feeling in the entire world. If that sentence made you go, "Um, WTF?" then you're going to looove the rest of this episode. I know it sounds fucking insane, yeah? How could anyone LOVE being abandoned? It's more common than you think, actually. A lot of us have an addiction to being abandoned…but the root of that addiction is buried so deep in our subconscious that we d...

Nowadays, inner child work is beyond popular. It's trending. It's everywhere. But as recently as five years ago, I had no idea what the fuck an "inner child" even was. Hard to imagine, right? It's even hard for me to believe. My relationship to my inner child has come leaps and bounds from where it was back then…but it was definitely a journey to get here. I believe we all have multiple "inner chi...

IT'S THE BIG 1-0-0, BABES! Welcome to Episode 100 of Unf*ck Your Relationships. And fuuuck, do I have a TREAT for you today. First, I have to say a huge fucking THANK YOU. Thank you for listening, for downloading, for loving, for sharing, and showing up for 100 incredible episodes. I am so fucking grateful to each and every one of you for being here. And to show just how grateful I am, I'm doing s...

Buckle up, buttercups. This impromptu episode is going to be a fucking trip. One of my very best friends, Kelsie Hockins, is BACK. Remember her from a few episodes ago? The stunning, utterly badass personal stylist that helps you transform your style so that you can stand out in the world and make your mark? Yeah, she's back, but this time, we are not talking style. (Well, maybe a little.) On this...

Let me lead with this: being in your feminine has NOTHING to do with your makeup, your clothes, or whatever TikTok has decided to take too literally today. These external things can all be EXPRESSIONS of your feminine, but the truth is…if you're really in your feminine energy, it's going to absolutely ooze out of you, even if you're just in trackies. Sooo many people get the feminine so fucking tw...