Unf*ck Your Relationships

I am on the edge of my fucking seat today about getting to introduce you to my newest guest: one of my OG clients from all the way back in Connected Woman circa 2020, Steph Normoyle! Steph Normoyle is a somatic practitioner and the founder of Club Soma, a wellness space for women seeking true embodied transformation—without the bullshit. As a somatic practitioner, she helps women connect with thei...

People have some intense fucking beliefs surrounding anxious attachment… "Anxious attachers are unstable." "Anxious attachers are just way too fucking emotional." "My anxious attachment means I'll never have a relationship—I don't deserve it." No, no, and fuuuucking no. Anxious attachment causes some wild behaviour…but none of it makes you unworthy of love. And like all behaviours, we can find way...

Here's a question for you: Are you a controlling partner? If your gut reaction was "FUCK no! I'm not controlling at all!" or "Not a chance, my partner's the controlling one!" or some other fucking enraged denial… Let me change the question. Have you ever cancelled plans with your friends to meet up with the guy you've been on a couple dates with? Have you ever apologized first in a fight…even if y...

I'm going to be honest… People love to joke about something being healing to their inner child. But if you're not ACTUALLY doing the work to heal your inner child, well… Bad news. She's actually going to f*ck up your love life for the foreseeable future. I'm not saying this to put you down—it's just the truth. If your inner child is acting up, it's going to ruin your ability to have a secure, stab...

It's no secret that shadow work is the most popular girl in school when it comes to the personal development world. It's trendy. It's everywhere. Everyone's talking about it, including me… But before you get into shadow work, you have to spend some time with her less sexy sister. Everyone, say hello to ego work…and say goodbye to your aversion to vulnerability. Because without vulnerability, you a...

What do getting attacked by a bear and your partner not answering your text have in common? Absolutely f*cking nothing…but according to your dysregulated nervous system? It can't spot the differences between those two pictures. When you're living with a dysregulated nervous system, everything is a threat. And when everything is a threat, you're always living in one of four modes: fight, flight, fr...

We talk all the time about why you need to do the work…but what happens AFTER you do the work? One of my long-time clients, Ashley LaButte, is here to share her story. From realizing something needed to change, to committing herself to actually DOING THE WORK, to finally manifesting something she's been working for years to manifest…her story truly displays how f*cking beautiful your life can get...

Have I got a fucking treat for you this week, my loves… Please welcome the incredible Riley May onto the podcast! Riley is a business and mindset mentor who supports women in becoming the most intelligent versions of themselves so that their lives reflect what they desire, not what they unconsciously settle for. And while we talked about a fuckton of fascinating things (the words "That needs to go...

It's my favorite time of year… HAPPY CONNECTED WOMAN SEASON, LOVES! This is my signature course for a f*cking reason, y'all. It is all about you connecting to YOU first and foremost—the romantic relationship is just a bonus on top of that. Whether you're coming into this program single, married, divorced, dating, or anything in between, transforming your current or future relationship with a partn...

You might not know it…but if you're a people-pleaser, your need to be liked is seriously f*cking with your confidence. How do I know? Because once upon a time, I was also a people-pleaser. …No, seriously. I was 100% a people pleaser. I don't come off like one now. I've done a lot of f"cking work to clean up that pattern. But let me tell you…until I did, my confidence was f*cked. If you're not will...

There's one thing we can all agree on: if your partner has an affair, that's a dealbreaker. Relationship f*cking over. Not so fast, loves. I don't think it's quite that black and white…I think there are plenty of shades of gray hiding in there. And if you're wondering how tf a relationship could ever come back from infidelity, don't worry…you're about to find out. I am so thrilled to have one of m...

If you've been listening to me chat about confidence these past few weeks and you've been like, "Great…but where do I start?" You start right here, my loves. I have seven steps to share with you today to work on building your confidence—and you don't have to wait forever and a day for them to start working. If you start doing them consistently (and we are big supporters of ALL kinds of consistency...

Hey, people-pleasers… I have something to say that you're not going to want to hear. But you need to hear it anyway, so listen tf up: People-pleasing is the most selfish thing in the f*cking world. Did I just send your ego into a f*cking tailspin? Then this episode is for you. People-pleasing actually has nothing to do with other people at all. It has everything to do with you. And if you don't be...

Let me ask you a question… What's stopping you from being confident? "Well, I'm super shy. I'm afraid to make my voice heard." "I don't like being in the spotlight." "I don't know how to assert myself; I don't know how to take up space." Um…who said you had to? Look, my expression of confidence…it's loud. It's bold. I take up space. It can be triggering for people to look at… But if you aren't lik...

Have you ever gone out and INTENTIONALLY tried to get rejected? Uh, no? What kind of psycho would go out and intentionally suffer through rejection? …It's me. Hi. I'm the psycho, it's me. If you've been following along on Insta, then you already know I'm in the middle of a thirty-day practice where I go out every single day and do something to intentionally get rejected. And while I've experienced...

If you're doing "the work" in order to get a man…you're missing the point. I'm not saying you can't do manifestation work to manifest a partner—of course you can. I'm talking about when you're doing the internal work to reconnect to yourself in order to attract a man. When women do the work to get a man, it usually comes from a place of deep self-loathing and a sense of incompleteness…and they thi...

If you look at me and think, "Well, it's easy for her. She's always been embodied. I'll never be like that…" LOL. No, bitch, I fucking was not. I was living so deeply in my own head that I had no idea how disconnected I was from my body until I signed up for a feminine embodiment retreat. The practices we did there were triggering tf out of me. That retreat kicked my ass… And it was the exact thin...

So. You're having doubts about whether you're in the right relationship for you. Here's the good news: you're not alone. Almost everyone goes through a phase of doubt…either when the honeymoon phase ends, or when you're about to take the relationship to the next level. We are designed to attach to the people we're in a relationship with. Our bodies flood with all kinds of "love drug" chemicals tha...

"I just don't want a relationship right now." Did your heart just drop? You're not alone—I've gotten this from men I dated in the past, and fuuuuck it hurts. It's totally normal for it to hurt. Attachment happens fast as fuck—our bodies are designed to flood with chemicals to get us to bond with someone when they show us interest. But even though it's normal, there's still some shit we need to get...

Recently, I talked about friendship breakups, and how to go about "getting back together" with an ex-friend…but I didn't share who, exactly, I was reconnecting with. However, as a certain someone says in this episode, you all just proved that I attract Swifties in my audience…because a lot of you did some intense f*cking detective work and figured out who I was talking about anyway. So please welc...

What do you think men find alluring in a woman? Whatever answer you gave…it's probably wrong. It's not about your appearance. It's not about being a certain way or doing certain things to trick or coerce a man into wanting you. It's about connecting to yourself in a way that attracts a man who will love, cherish, and honor you. Not one who just wants to f*ck around and keep you around to boost his...

Why do we insist on seeking answers from sources outside ourselves? I'm not exempt, either. When I got my brand-new car and got into my brand-new house—things I'd been pining over for such a long time—I had an incredibly sobering, fucking shattering moment of ego death where I realized, "Michelle, you've lost yourself in the pursuit of all of those things. Now what?" And that's not to say I was wr...

Um…is that number right? You see it too, yeah? We have officially hit 150 MOTHERFUCKING EPISODES. And to celebrate the big 150…I want to give you a bit of coaching I have given to sooo many women…including myself. How to stop mothering your man. Yeah. This one's hard for me, I'm going to be honest. But if you ever want to be able to be in your feminine energy, lean back, and receive from your part...

Raise your hand if you've ever thought about getting back together with an ex. My hand's up. No shame here. Pretty much everyone has, right? It's natural—when you lose your safe person, no matter what reasons there were to break up, you're obviously going to miss them and want them back… But that doesn't mean it's the right choice to make. Doesn't mean it's the wrong one, either. Reconnecting with...

Here's a spicy little take for you… So many of our "limitations" are self-imposed…because we glorify our own convenience and comfort over actually seeing some growth. I recently signed up for a training I've been wanting to do for years. Actual f*cking years. I signed up, I paid in full, I booked for a single room, and… They messaged back and told me they only had dorms available. Shit. If you don...