Unf*ck Your Relationships

It all happens so fast. One minute you're living your best life. You're hitting the gym. You're journaling. You're doing your embodiment practices. You're going out with your friends. You're going on solo dates. You have hobbies that you love… And then you meet someone. It is astonishing how QUICKLY I've seen women go from their glow-up era to "Wait, did I say the right thing? Did I mess up? Oh, h...

Everybody talks about wanting a man who COMMUNICATES, who's HONEST, who CHOOSES YOU wholeheartedly… Until one actually shows up. And you go running like your f*cking ass is on fire. If you grew up without a secure attachment, your brain is wired to read insecurity as desirable. Which means your brain basically can't tell the difference between a bear attack and a man telling you he really, really...

If you've ever been ugly crying into your pillow, your chest aching like someone f*cking ripped your heart out, and said to yourself, "What the FUCK? I should be over this by now!" …Then this episode is for you, babe. Welcome to the fucking club. I've worked with hundreds of women, and all of us—including me—have experienced a similar feeling while going through a breakup: the feeling that we're t...

Do you ACTUALLY want him… Or does he just trigger your daddy wound? Ouch, right? But we really need to talk about it. I was the QUEEN of daddy issues once upon a time. So trust me when I say I get exactly how addictive this pattern can be…and how f*cking fast we need to clock it, own it, and clean it tf up. If you're always dating the guy who's hot and cold with you, the guy who's there one second...

This one's going to sting, loves… But we need to talk about feminine energy. Specifically, we need to talk about performative feminine energy. We're seeing a huge resurgence in embracing feminine energy…and that's fucking amazing. We love to see it. But with that resurgence, I'm also seeing an upswing in people mistaking performative femininity for actual feminine embodiment. And if you don't know...

"You're too much." "You're too emotional." "Your standards are too high." "You're too picky." "You're asking for too much." RED LIGHT, babe. Hold tf up. Listen to me very, very, very closely. You are not too much. "But Michelle, they said—" I don't give a shit. "But Michelle, I asked for—" Did I fucking ask? You are not too much. Period. Done. End of conversation. And if people keep telling you yo...

I hope you have a mirror on hand, babe…because you're about to take a good, long, hard look at yourself in it. Here's the thing: if you feel like you're always attracting the same emotionally unavailable men, I have good news and bad news. The good news? It's not bad luck—you're not just shit at picking men. The bad news? It's actually wired into you to want these kinds of men. "Wait, that sounds...

Buckle up and grab the burn cream, everyone… This is the story of how I got f*cking ROASTED by Dr. Gabor Maté. As most of you know, I recently went through a breakup, and there are a lot of f*cking complicated (and even "contrary") emotions that come with that. So when I got to go and hear Dr. Gabor Maté speak—and then got the incredible opportunity to ask a question—I asked him how to navigate th...

So—we've talked before about how butterflies in the stomach, not being able to eat, etc. are actually signs of some fucking MAJOR dysregulation, not being in love… But what happens when you DO start avoiding that feeling…and you end up dating someone who's boring as batshit? On one hand, it is super fucking easy to mistake "safe" for "boring" when you're used to dating in dysregulation. But on the...

I got introduced to a new phrase (but not a new idea) by a recent Chappell Roan interview: Walk Away Energy. When asked how she stays so chill despite all her success, Chappell Roan said it was because she has "walk away energy." And I absolutely had to sit down and talk about that. "Walk away energy" is similar to the detachment idea we were talking about here recently. It's the idea that you are...

It is truly so exciting to watch one of your clients blossom…and my guest this week, Abigail, is a perfect example. Just a short while ago, she was living in her spare bedroom, trying to "fix" herself for the sake of other people…and now, I've witnessed this woman blossom and come into her own as she embodies what it means to be a high-value woman. Too many of you think that these kinds of transfo...

Here's what to do if you feel someone pulling away from you. Ready? Let them. I'm serious as f*ck. If someone starts to pull away from you, if someone wants to break up, if someone refuses to meet your standards, if someone won't pick their shit up off the floor even when you've asked a hundred times… Just let them. The "Let Them" theory, coined by Mel Robbins, is literally that simple. People are...

When you hear "detachment," what do you think it means? If your mind went straight to the idea of apathy, not caring what happens or what you're doing, etcetera…you're not the only one. But you're also wrong. Detachment isn't apathy. Detachment is power. And when you master detachment…it's going to transform your whole motherf*cking life. Here are some of the things you need to detach from—and how...

Well. We broke up. You probably got that from the title. But in case you were wondering…no, it's not clickbait. My partner Drew and I have decided to split up. It's sad. And right. And so, so hard. I'm grieving. I'm excited. I'm struggling. I'm hopeful. There is such duality in breakups, no matter how healthy or unhealthy the relationship might have been…and navigating them in a regulated, healthy...

Two words: Pretty. Privilege. It's thrown in the faces of people who happen to be conventionally attractive to imply that they have no right to complain about their struggles, particularly if they struggle with confidence. "Well, you have the perfect body, so you can't be insecure." "Well, you're pretty, so what do you have to feel bad about?" You know what's really not cute? Invalidating the expe...

Trying to be the perfect woman is killing your love life. I mean it—this little perfectionism thing you've got going on? It's not protecting you from anything, babe—it's actually keeping you stuck in the same patterns you've been playing out for your whole dating life. Perfectionism is not a protector—it's a prison. And until you get up the courage to show up as the person you actually are, not wh...

Here's an exciting little secret for you… Did you know that you've been cast as the MAIN CHARACTER in your love life? In fact, you're not just the main character. You're the screenwriter. The casting director. The costume designer. The credits have YOUR name all over them, babe… So why are you still acting like the f*cking side character? Too many of you are out here acting like you have to apolog...

It's 2025. I don't know about you, but I'm so fucking excited it's a new year—and I don't plan to finish it as the same person I was when it started. I want to be UNRECOGNIZABLE by 2026…and I want to help you get there, too. I want this year to be your ultimate fucking glow-up. But first, we need to go over some pretty crucial perspective shifts. You CAN become the most confident, iconic, badass v...

This one's for the anxiously attached girlies…and everyone, honestly, because there's some fucking gems in here. But if you have an anxious attachment style, these lessons go double for you, mmkay? Anxious attachment can feel like a life sentence. But the truth is, your attachment style IS something you can heal…but you have to start taking steps toward security. In today's episode, we're going to...

It's a question as old as relationships themselves... "How do I know when it's time to break up?" We've all asked ourselves this question one time or another...but almost no one really knows the answer. It's not easy to look at a relationship and decide whether it's fixable or totally f*cked. But there are some symptoms that will start to pop up when things have taken a turn for the worse...and so...

In 2025, we're not settling for f*cking crumbs anymore, babe. In 2025, it's time to become the center of your own love life; to become That Girl. That Bitch. The Dream Girl. Whatever you want to call her, she's yours for the taking—if you can actually get off your ass and do the work to become her. No more putting everyone else's needs over yours. No more leading with your insecurities…or masking...

"He was everything I've ever wanted. How am I supposed to get over him?" Uh…you mean the guy you dated for two weeks, tops? Yeah…we need to chat about this, babe. Look, I'm not going to tell you that the timeframe of a relationship determines its emotional impact. It doesn't. What I AM going to tell you (because I've had to tell myself a million fucking times over) is that there's no way in hell y...

Today's episode is inspired by a question a client recently put forward… And the answer is not going to be easy for most of you to hear. This client said that she always gives people the benefit of the doubt, trying to offer the most generous assumptions when it comes to their behavior…but when it comes to her partner, she immediately thinks—and says—the worst about his behavior. Why does that hap...

I have a complicated relationship with vulnerability. When I first started this work, I couldn't even say the f*cking WORD. And even though I've gotten so much better about it…it's still terrifying. I don't want people to see me as less than perfect. I don't want them to see me struggle. Because what if they see I'm not perfect, that I don't have it all together, and I lose my credibility? What if...

When you're fighting to win the argument, not to reconnect with your partner…everyone loses. We all looove winning an argument…at first. It feels f*cking great to get the last word. The high of nailing that last comeback is addicting… And so, so fleeting. It feels good in the moment to "win"...but the thing is, you haven't actually "won." In fact, odds are good that both your partner AND you have...