UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

Do you think that you have to be mean to yourself to achieve your goals? Our culture conditions us to associate self-criticism with achievement, and to believe that if we’re kind to ourselves as we pursue our goals, we’ll never get sh*t done. Here to challenge that narrative is bestselling author, lawyer, syndicated daytime talk show host, and motivational speaker Mel Robbins. Tune in to learn abo...

Coaching is like magic when you’ve identified a “problem” and want help creating something new in your life. But what about the times that you genuinely, truly, cannot figure out what the fuck is going on with your brain? When you’re feeling angry, sad, or lost and you can’t pinpoint why for weeks or months or even years at a time? Tune in to this week’s podcast to learn how to hold space for your...

Many women have the sense that they’re not good enough or worthy enough unless other people think they are. Why? Because society has taught us that we need to put everyone else’s needs before our own, and so we develop some codependent thought patterns to evaluate our worth. Instead of learning to validate ourselves, we rely on outside approval to feel good about ourselves. This week, I’m talking...

Have you ever set out on a journey of self-love only to find that the path wasn’t as easy or straightforward as you thought? In this week’s episode, I talk to clinical psychologist Dr. Shefali Tsabary about how to have a radical awakening (which happens to be the title of her newest book) that leads to uncovering the beliefs and patterns that you have today, so that you can move them out of your w...

How often do you find yourself obsessing over what another person is thinking? In this Greatest Hits episode, you will learn why focusing on other people’s thoughts and feelings is a losing game, and how to set yourself free by focusing on your own thoughts and feelings.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/210

Feminist coaching isn’t just for radical leftists or people who identify as progressive. In today’s episode, you will meet two life coaches who graduated from my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching program and who identify as more politically and religiously conservative than I do. Tune into this podcast to find out how these coaches incorporated feminist principles into their coaching pra...

Whatever your personal belief system and religious background, if you are a human in the world, then it’s likely that you have been impacted by patriarchal religious ideologies. On today’s podcast, you will meet a very special guest coach and graduate of my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching Certification program, Amy Logan. Amy calls herself the Ex-Mormon Coach and she helps people who a...

As coaches, we know that our thoughts create our results, right? But in order to coach our clients effectively on their thoughts, we have to understand the CONTEXT from which these thoughts emerged. Someone whose cultural history involves persecution and multigenerational trauma may not resonate with the coaching that “everything will happen as it’s meant to,” just as someone who has learned expli...

Are you worried that wanting more money is greedy? Does talking or even thinking about money make you uncomfortable? Whether you love money and want more of it, think money is the root of all evil, or anywhere in between, this episode will help you understand why unf*cking your thoughts around money is such an important feminist issue. You will meet three graduates from my Advanced Certification i...

Many coaches believe that once they become certified, they will be equipped with the tools to coach anyone on anything. It’s a lovely thought, but maybe not so helpful when you’re in your tenth session with a client who just stares at you blankly as you try to explain, for the 50th time, how their thoughts are creating their results and why that’s a great thing. While there are certainly powerful...

Does saying “no” make you feel like you’re going to die? Are you so fixated on taking care of everybody around you that you neglect yourself? People socialized as women are taught that they are responsible for everyone else’s thoughts and feelings, and that their value comes from taking care of others…so it’s no wonder that so many of us struggle with people-pleasing. On this episode, you will mee...

Coaching tools didn’t descend from the heavens. They were developed by humans whose social context impacted the way they saw the world and their clients, including what they even viewed as a “problem” to be solved in the first place. In other words, those coaching modalities that you know and love? Yeah, those were made up. Before you abandon all meaning and run off into the woods, tune into this...

Are you hesitant to identify as a feminist? Conversely, do you struggle to understand why any woman WOULDN’T want to identify as a feminist? Cultural messaging around what feminism means is so pervasive that even proud feminists often have to shed cultural narratives that feminists are angry, humorless man-haters. When you look at the history of feminism through an intersectional lens, it becomes...

Do you understand how the legacies of slavery, colonialism, and genocide have shaped the world we live in? If not, you are missing an incredible opportunity to deepen your coaching and serve your clients and the world. In this episode, coaches Kara Loewentheil and Simone Seol will teach you how you can avoid whitewashing your coaching by understanding your historical context, the context of your c...

Are you a coach or thought work aficionado who wishes the industry would step it up to meet the demands of a complicated multi-cultural world? In this special episode, you will get a preview of a brand new podcast that I created with my dear friend and fellow life coach, Simone Seol:  Outside the White Box: Elevating the Coaching Conversation.  This is the first episode of a limited seri...

Do you love setting goals and imagining what your life will be like when you achieve them? And then do you spend so much time living in this imagined future that you skip the part where you actually have to, you know, build the habits required to achieve that goal? If so, you’re not alone. But you’re also missing the crucial ingredient for success: Taking consistent, imperfect action toward your g...

Do you analyze text messages from romantic interests like you’re peering into into a crystal ball, constantly scanning for evidence of their interest (or lack thereof)? Do you feel like your future happiness is completely at the mercy of the dating apps? In this episode, conscious dating and relationship coach Clara Artschwager and I dig into common dating anxieties and teach you how to let go of...

Patriarchal beliefs are so ingrained in our society and social conditioning that they permeate how we view the world, others, and ourselves. In this episode, I am joined by global speaker, life coach, and author Andrea Owen to discuss a 4-step process to unlearning your internalized patriarchy so you can figure out what you REALLY want in life and make some noise in the world running toward it. Ge...

Even if you’re not a Brené Brown fan, you probably think that vulnerability is a powerful way to build intimacy in a relationship. But did you know vulnerability is even MORE powerful when you use it to strengthen your relationship with yourself? Learn how in this greatest hits episode. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/200

Are you waiting until next year to pursue a big, audacious goal? New Year’s Resolutions are like catnip to perfectionists, but in this episode, I’ll walk you through how to achieve a goal at ANY time, of ANY size, without using it against yourself. Tune into this episode to learn how to work WITH your perfectionist brain to blow your mind in the next few months of this year. Get full show notes an...

Most people think of creativity as the ability to make art - to paint, sing, write, sculpt, etc. But even if you don’t consider yourself a “creative person,” you are creating your life, every day - your relationships, your career path, even the food you eat for lunch. In today’s episode, I’m joined by three graduates from my Advanced Certification in Feminist Coaching course - Elana McKernan, Judi...

Do you believe that goals are only worthwhile if they seem extremely challenging? Do you worry about what will happen if you set a goal that is literally impossible to achieve? Do you start out eager to create a new habit and then do a complete 180 and want to rebel against the new “rule” you’ve created for yourself? In this Listener QA episode, I’m working through common challenges that listeners...

Do you struggle to find work-life balance? Women are socialized to believe that they can have (and should WANT to have) it “all” - and then they experience pressure to create work-life balance for themselves. But the concept of balance (and the idea of what women should want) is a gendered and economically privileged one. In today’s episode, I’m joining four amazing graduates from my Advanced Cert...

Do you find yourself judging or doubting your decisions all the time? Do you tend to defer to the advice of friends, corporations, media, and even strangers rather than trusting yourself? You’re not alone. Women have been conditioned to see everyone BUT ourselves as the expert on their lives. In today’s episode, you will learn how to claim authority over your life and go from hesitation and confus...

Tune into today’s Listener Q&A episode for an exploration of some common areas in which the patriarchy f*cks with our brains. You will learn how to use coaching tools to deprogram patriarchal conditioning so you can: feel great about getting help with domestic tasks, stop feeling like you’re in competition with other women, stop shaming yourself for feeling proud of your accomplishments becaus...