UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone

It would be nice to think we can leave capitalism at the office when we go home for the day. But the truth is, its reach goes far beyond just the way we make, sell, and buy stuff. It can affect the ways we place value on the actual human beings who do the work, which in turn can lead to burnout, hustle culture, and even ableism.  In this episode I’m joined by two of my Advanced Certification...

There’s been a lot of talk about the invisible load the last few years (especially through Covid when women were literally trying to do it all). Pushing back against the invisible load can look like “dropping the ball.” But “dropping the ball” isn’t always safe for those socialized as women who also belong to other marginalized identities. Listen to this interview with two of my Advanced Certifica...

It’s natural to want to stay in our comfort zones, to hang out or work with people who think like we do, to feel like we belong. But if you feel called to be a change maker in this world, you may find that you’ll have your greatest impact by stepping out of your insular world and into one where people don’t believe the same things you do. You may also find that fear of rejection will kick in full...

Our brains think they can predict the future. They’ll take one instance, generalize it into a pattern, and try to convince us that one of our fleeting thoughts or a fleeting thought that others have about us is a constant state (and rarely is it a pleasant one!). So, if your brain is hung up on what other people are thinking about you, what can you do to get some relief? Listen to this week’s podc...

Marriage and money. Opinions on these two topics certainly run the gamut. But whether you’re currently married, planning to get married, or marriage is the furthest thing from your mind, women’s relationship to money can be a tricky thing to unpack. And there’s good reason for this: the patriarchy has had its hands in women’s relationship to money since humans have roamed the earth. So, how do we...

Ever notice how when someone points out that you’re getting defensive, you tend to get more defensive? Defensiveness can be difficult to shift because of this very reason! But it also blocks our growth, so it’s worth examining. It doesn’t come naturally and can take time to learn, but defensiveness IS a quality you can shift if you’d like. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how to identify de...

We’ve heard the word trauma used liberally the past few years, both in relation to shared global events (like the pandemic) and in relation to more trivial things (like someone cutting in line at Starbucks). When a psychological concept goes mainstream, it’s bound to be understood differently by different people. So, what IS trauma? What is NOT trauma? And if we want to change the relationship wit...

We all have personal preferences. Do we like a partner who’s tall or short? Do we prefer friendships with people who have similar jobs to ours? Do we like a house in the suburbs or a condo in the middle of the city? And there’s nothing wrong with preferring one thing to another, whether it’s in dating, friendship, or where we live and work. But it is always worth examining the reasons behind our p...

We often hear platitudes like “if it’s meant to be, it will be easy,” or “if it feels hard, maybe it’s not meant for you.” And while these phrases are usually said to make us feel better about work, relationships, or whatever the situation is at hand, there’s a danger in them, too.  The truth is, emotional growth often feels TERRIBLE, so if we find ourselves constantly shying away from resist...

What is the difference between therapy and life coaching? Are the two modalities at odds with each other? When might you want to seek a therapist vs a coach to support you? In this week’s podcast episode, therapist and life coach Mollie Birney joins me for an exploration of these questions and more. Tune in to learn more about both therapy AND coaching, and how both modalities can support your own...

Coaching is about more than affirmations and good vibes. If you’ve ever wondered about the neurochemistry of thought work, this episode is for you. In it, I will interview Dr. Caroline Leaf, a cognitive neuroscientist and bestselling author who can speak directly to why cognitive coaching tools are so effective - and how they can transform your brain and life. Tune in as we discuss how to use cogn...

Are you a feminist who is sick of feeling burdened with an invisible workload in your relationships? In this special interview with Master Certified Life Coach and bestselling author Susan Hyatt, you will learn how to reconcile your feminist ideals with your real-world relationship dynamics… without feeling frustrated or bitter. Tune in to learn how to use coaching tools to liberate yourself from...

What if there were one question you could ask yourself that immediately put you in touch with your highest priorities, your deepest values, and how you want to live in the world? In this episode, you will learn the question I ask myself to instantly gain perspective and clarity on what matters most to me. Tune in to learn how this question can change your life, too.   Get full show notes and...

Are you an entrepreneur looking to explore how you can infuse your business with coaching principles? Or maybe you’re simply curious what is possible when you bring coaching tools into the workplace? In this episode, you will learn about the impact of embracing thought work tools at work, especially as a manager. If you’re curious how coaching can be used to empower employees, this episode is for...

One of the most common pieces of advice that women receive is that they should build their confidence - but where does insecurity actually come from, and what does “building your confidence” look like in the real world? Is it all power poses and affirmations, as Pinterest would have you believe? In this special release episode, you will listen to an interview that I did on the 51 First Dates podca...

There’s a common belief that being single is a lonely, dreary slog, especially for folks who are ultimately looking to partner up. In this week’s podcast episode you will learn how to love the f*ck out of your single life…whether you’re single by choice or are looking to change your relationship status. I’m joined by Shani Silver, podcast host and author of “A Single Revolution,” for a conversatio...

Do you struggle with burnout? If so, you can thank our capitalist, patriarchal and puritanical society for that. In this special episode with Caroline Dooner - burnout expert and author of The F*ck It Diet and Tired as F*ck - you will learn how to use coaching tools to overcome burnout for good. (And no, this doesn’t look like just taking more vacation time!) Get full show notes and more informati...

I recently wrapped an amazing 3-day virtual event on goal-setting and the breakthroughs were so good that I wanted to share them with you. Tune in to this episode to learn all about why you may be closer to achieving your goal than you think, why being wrong is the GREATEST thing, and more. Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/222

Society has a way of leading you to believe that the path laid out in front of you is unchangeable. But just because you see other people following the same path, doesn’t mean you have to follow it. In fact, embracing the power you have to create new ways of moving through the world is how you own your agency and create change in the world.     Today, I’m having a conversation with Trudi...

Have you ever wondered what it’s like to be a coach or work for one? Or, perhaps, how different your experience would be if you used thought work tools at work? In this episode, you will meet one of my employees - Elana McKernan - and learn how we use coaching tools and philosophies to build our company culture and shape our work experience. Whether you are in the coaching industry or not, you wil...

Do you tend to put your self-development teachers on a pedestal, taking their words as absolute truth and feeling super stressed out if you ever disagree or anyone suggests they might be wrong? You’re not alone. Most people who are drawn to self-development are looking for The Answer To Everything. But the truth is, we’re all trying to make sense of this strange experience of being a human - and t...

Have you ever achieved a goal in the hopes that it would make you feel more confident and less anxious, only to find yourself a week later, asking, “uuh…now what?” If you’re expecting your New Year’s resolutions (or any other achievements) to change how you feel about yourself, you are misunderstanding how your brain works and setting yourself up for disappointment. In this episode, Victoria Myers...

The problem with most resolutions is that they hinge on the idea that when the clocks roll over to the new year, you will become an entirely new person. In this episode, Caroline Dooner of The F*ck It Podcast will join me to discuss how to establish REALISTIC, achievable intentions or resolutions for the New Year, so that you can create the mental infrastructure to make real, lasting change in you...

You know that thing your kid (or anyone, for that matter) does that drives you insane? And how it sets you off every time? Have you ever stopped to explore why that “trigger” exists in the first place, instead of just trying to “fix” it? If you search a bit deeper, you'll find that it probably stems from your childhood, and how you were parented. Once you have the why, you can use it to uplevel no...

Your biggest obstacle to mind-blowing pleasure isn’t your partner’s inability to find your g-spot or your inability to find a partner or your limited drawer of sex toys...it’s actually your thoughts. If you find yourself stressing about your appearance during sex (solo or with a partner!), worrying about your partner’s pleasure more than your own, or feeling like your desire is dependent on whethe...