Truly Unruly with Marcus & Jessica Trufant

We asked sex expert Tiffynee Terry-Thomas all the juicy questions to keep a relationship fresh, sexy, and exciting. We talked about experimenting and trying new things between the sheets, the idea of "open relationships" (and if it can really work), and what GOOD sex even is. If you're ready to have the best sex of your life this year, listen on! Follow on Instagram @trulyunruly_pod...

As 2021 closes out, it's important to reflect on your relationship together and ask some important questions to make the next year, the best year. In this episode, the Trufants open up about 2021 and share answers to some questions - like, Jessica buying a puppy (without Marcus).  Follow on Instagram @trulyunruly_podcast  Follow @trulyunruly_podcast

Life can get hard when a man has a wife and also a baby mama. From insecurities, disrespect, attention, personalities, and taking responsibility - it's a lot to juggle. Sometimes there are issues between all parties involved. So, where do you draw the line? Can wives and baby-mamas ever get along? What exactly is a baby mama? In this episode, we dive into the nitty-gritty of this sometimes co...

Times have changed - in the past, men have usually been the breadwinners while in today's marriages more wives are out-earning husbands. Women are doing it all - raising careers and babies! And, we're HERE FOR IT. But, does this shift in dynamics affect a marriage? What does science say? And, more importantly, what do Marcus and Jessica have to say about it? Find out in this episode.  Fo...

BODY SHAMING IN A RELATIONSHIP: is it ever OK to comment on your spouse's insecurities? What to do if you feel fat-shamed by your partner We came across a video on Instagram of a husband fat-shaming his wife after having their children. We all agree that this man was doing his wife dirty on so many levels. This video sparked a much deeper conversation on fat-shaming (or body shaming) in relat...

It's hard to look yourself in the mirror and ask, "am I the toxic one in the relationship?" The truth hurts sometimes and it's so much easier to place the blame on someone else. In this episode, the Trufants discuss some behavior and patterns that lead to a toxic relationship and how to determine if you are the toxic one. From gaslighting to manipulation and being judgemental....

Get ready for your mind to be blown with the most real sex advice you've ever heard from Sexologist Tiffynee. If you've been in a relationship for a long time chances are you've experienced a natural ebb and flow in libido. That's ok. But, forget what you've heard about sex after marriage being less exciting. Sexologist Tiffynee has been married for 10 years and is here to...

Divorce is messy. There's no doubt about that - especially when it comes to finances, assets, child, and spousal support. What happens when one spouse makes a lot more money than the other spouse? What if one parent stayed home to raise the children while the other parent built their career? Is spousal support fair or it is just a part of reality? Should one parent pay child support?  In this...

Marcus and Jessica finally get a well-deserved child-free vacation! The Trufants embark on a trip to New Orleans and enjoy great food, hospitality, and of course family.  They get a first-hand Superdome experience and try a local favorite beverage called “The Bow Wow”. This episode is packed with laughter and a few food recommendations for the next time you’re in the Big Easy.  Follow @trulyunruly...

The Trufant's play a game of "tell your truth." Kel asks them questions and they HAVE to tell the absolute truth. Get the popcorn ready because they're spilling all the tea.  Follow @trulyunruly_podcast

Most parents teach their kids NOT to hit, even when they're mad. It's always "go tell the Teacher!" But, is that always the best thing to do? What should your kid do if another kid hits them first or if they are being bullied? Should they actually hit back and learn to defend themselves. In this episode, the Trufants (and Kel) talk about a recent incident in Kindergarten with p...

The Trufants get real with Nurse Alice about conspiracy theories, misinformation, fear-mongering, and Black health in general. Nurse Alice works in the ICU in Los Angeles where she has treated COVID patients on the frontlines throughout the pandemic. She answers questions like,  "Are you seeing more vaccinated or unvaccinated patients in the ICU with severe COVID?"  "What would you...

After taking a few weeks off, the Trufant's are back and Jessica is 1 year older! Plus, the kids are back in school. Listen in as we get caught up on everything going on in the Trufant household.  Follow @trulyunruly_podcast

Obviously, betrayal from infidelity hurts. But, other types of betrayal can be just as bad (or more) damaging to a relationship. Can a relationship be saved after betrayal? Save yourself the heartbreak from ever having to answer that question by listening to this episode and learning what types of relationship betrayal to look out for. Before it's too late Follow @trulyunruly_podcast

From the little things to the big things, fights in relationships are inevitable. No one likes to fight with their significant other. But, sometimes we pick fights. The Trufants open up about some of their fights and the real reason why they might get started in the first place.  Follow @trulyunruly_podcast

The Trufants took a 6 day trip to Las Vegas for a dance competition, with all 5 kids. Did they STILL go to the strip club? You bet they did (and they recommend more couples to do the same.) Listen for all the hilarious stories.  Follow @trulyunruly_podcast

Corporal punishment reinforces racist stereotypes in the Black community and has no place in the Trufant household. They don't hit their kids, ever. In this episode, Marcus and Jessica reveal the most effective and emotionally mature ways to punish their kids that don't include spanking, whooping, beat-downs, or whatever you call it these days. Spanking might feel like an effective punis...

If you've been together a long time, you know that relationships change and evolve. From the honeymoon phase to a long-term relationship, engagement, newlywed, marriage, pregnancy, children, and all the conflicts, challenges, and joys in between. One thing is for certain - as life evolves so do expectations within the marriage. For a marriage to survive all these changes it's important t...

No relationship is perfect - we all come with baggage. But, there comes a tipping point when feelings of insecurity, trust issues, jealousy, unwarranted accusations, snooping, and self-doubt pose a real threat to marriage. But what exactly is insecurity in marriage? How can you stop feeling insecure if you already have trust issues? How to deal with an insecure wife or husband? What are the signs...

Getting to know your spouse on the deepest level takes a life-long commitment. In all honesty, how well do we really know our spouses, especially when you're a newlywed? Like, really really really know them. From their deepest regrets, major traumas, ultimate passions, to greatest desires? If you're hoping to strengthen your bond or feel like you're drifting apart, this episode is f...

When you don't want to have sex, but you do it anyways because you feel like it's your "job" to keep your partner happy- that's maintenance sex. Should people in long term relationships or marriages be having sex, just to have it? Will it strengthen the marriage? Or, is it putting unrealistic expectations and pressure on the relationship? In this episode the Trufants get r...

Nothing can prepare you for the millions of annoying things kids do DAY IN and DAY OUT. Do kids ever stop being annoying? (if you're asking that question you must not have a teenager yet!) As parents of 5 kids the Trufants have been through every stage of parenthood - from infancy to toddlerhood, adolescence, preteen, and now teenagehood. Kids are annoying at EVERY stage. If you know, you kno...

Marcus and Jessica annoy their kids in a million ways - from what they say to what they do, these kids are fed up with mom and dad. In this hilarious episode, the Trufant kids join their parents to tell us about all the things their parents do that annoy them. So, if you're a parent - and you irritate your kids - know that you're not alone.  Follow @trulyunruly_podcast

Truth is, there's no set way to raise kids. But, helping their kids to be MENTALLY STRONG has been a foundation of Marcus and Jessica's family. In this episode, they discuss what science says about helping kids mentally to grow into the most successful versions of their adult self.  Follow @trulyunruly_podcast

Spoiler, it's not SEX or love. Let's keep in one-hundred here, it doesn't matter how funny, sweet or perfect your partner is...sometimes, they might just drive you crazy. Great relationships aren't born out of thin air - they take work. YEARS of work. Relationships are always evolving. Marcus and Jessica's relationship is no different. In this episode, they explore advice...