Trauma Healing For Postpartum Moms

In this deeply honest and powerful conversation, I sit down with Alyssa Hartley, a mother of two who shares her journey through substance use disorder, motherhood, and recovery. Alyssa opens up about her initiation to substance use at 11 years old, growing up in a Canadian military base where emotions were suppressed, and how her sensitivity and anxiety shaped led her to self-medicate with drugs a...

In this solo episode of The Healing Mothers Club , Danik Bernier explains what quality trauma therapy should look like for mothers who want to break the cycle of childhood trauma—or for anyone on a journey of self-mothering after emotional neglect. Using the metaphor of the nervous system as a house, Danik explores how early attachment experiences shape the foundation of emotional safety and why m...

In this episode of The Healing Mothers’ Club , I’m joined by IFS therapist and Human Design strategist Caitlan Siegenthaler for a fascinating conversation at the intersection of trauma work, nervous system awareness, and Human Design. Caitlan shares how Human Design entered her therapy practice and how it can function as a powerful tool for self-understanding—especially for mothers navigating burn...

If you identify as an adult daughter of Emotionally Immature Parents or Narcissistic Parents, you know deep in your bones how it feels to be an inconvenience and to be chosen dead last (or completely ignored). And if you've entered motherhood or have considered becoming a mom, you probably heard the mainstream self-care messaging for moms: take care of yourself, choose yourself first. On one hand,...

In this episode, Danik shares the full story of her great-grandmother Simone, who was institutionalized in the early 1950s in rural French Ontario, and explores how intergenerational trauma can live on in our bodies decades later. Through archival medical records, family history, and lived experience as a mother, Danik weaves together epigenetics, patriarchy, psychiatric violence, and motherhood—r...

In this episode of The Healing Mothers’ Club , Danik is joined by bilingual educator and child development consultant Natasha Demers to explore how a child’s environment directly impacts behavior, regulation, and family stress—especially after the holidays. Together, they unpack how toy overload, clutter, and overstimulation can lead to dysregulation, and how intentional, values-based home setups...

Breaking generational cycles not only for ourselves, but for our whole family❤️‍🩹 Welcome back to the Healing Mothers' Club! Today is a guest episode with Radha Dalal, M.A., and soon-to-be LMFT! We talk about: What it feels like to break generational cycles as daughters of immigrants and South Asian women; What we need to create safety when feeling pressured; How to confidently write our own stor...

Today on the Healing Mothers' Club , we get real about what it takes to actually create and uphold boundaries with your children's toxic grandparents. If your children's grandparents fall somewhere on the emotional immaturity spectrum, chances are they have displayed toxic behaviours -- and the holidays can be the perfect storm for unhinged emotionally immature behaviour. Most blogs and Instagram...

Welcome back to the Healing Mothers Club ! Have you ever wondered why popular parenting hacks don't work for your child who presents with signs of Autism? This episode is for you. Dr. Carolyn Solo, PhD, LCSW joins the club and shares: How her personal journey raising 3 daughters, one of whom is PDA Autistic, led her to a complete shift in parenting - from behavioural approaches to nervous system a...

In this solo episode of The Healing Mothers’ Club , Danik continues the conversation from the previous episode about why time-outs are not trauma-informed — and dives deeper into what it truly means to self-regulate as a mom with trauma. She explains how to build a baseline of inner safety so that you can stay regulated when your kids have big emotions or unwanted behaviours. You’ll learn why most...

Welcome to the first episode of the first official season of the Healing Mothers’ Club podcast! I’m your host, Danik Bernier, fellow healing mom of 2, Certified EMDR therapist, EMDR consultant-in-training, and parenting coach for moms with childhood trauma wanting to break the cycle. Today, we kick off the new season by answering one of the most frequently unanswered questions on the most popular...

Updates, announcements, and trauma-informed parenting coaching offered worldwide! Schedule your free, no obligation virtual consultation to plan your parenting + nervous system strategy 1:1 with Danik to see if coaching is right for you. Click here to schedule. ✨We'll meet for Season 1 on November 3rd 🇫🇷 Francophones and French-speakers: The podcast Mères Conscientes will drop soon. More details...

What if your mom rage isn’t just about being overstimulated or burned out — but about old trauma being reactivated? In this episode, Danik Bernier, trauma therapist and fellow mom, reframes mom rage through the lens of the nervous system and childhood emotional neglect. She shares her personal story and how EMDR therapy helped her break free from survival patterns passed down through generations....

In this episode of The Healing Mothers’ Club , we continue our mini-series on the impacts of narcissistic abuse on motherhood. If you grew up with narcissistic parents, you know how hard it can be to break the cycle while raising your own children. Today, I’m sharing the key elements of healing that help you move from parenting out of survival mode to parenting with presence, safety, and authentic...

Welcome back to the Healing Mothers’ Club ! As part of the mini-series on the effects of narcissistic abuse on motherhood, Danik is joined by Mel Guttman, a licensed IFS therapist who specializes in narcissistic abuse and family estrangement. In today’s episode, we cover: What is self-gaslighting and how to get out of the fog; How IFS Therapy and EMDR Therapy are game-changers for survivors of nar...

If you're a mom with a history of emotional neglect or narcissistic abuse, you may be parenting from survival mode without even realizing it. In this episode, I explore how unresolved childhood trauma shows up in motherhood and why your nervous system responds to your child’s big emotions as if they’re a threat. Understanding these trauma patterns is the first step in breaking the cycle. In this e...

In this episode of The Healing Mothers' Club, Danik Bernier delves into how moms can best prepare for the (unfortunately inevitable) generalized sense of overstimulation that happens when kids go back to school. She gives you tips and tricks on how you can navigate this tough situation so you feel like your family isn't the odd one out and you have a better idea about what needs to be prioritized....

In this episode of The Healing Mothers' Club, Danik Bernier preps us to manage the overstimulation our kids come back from school with. It's almost that time of year where they come back home and it looks like yelling, trash everywhere, and probably you in the bathroom crying trying to manage our overwhelm. Danik encourages us to focus on co-regulation right away. When our kids get home, instead o...

In this episode of The Healing Mothers' Club, Danik Bernier delves into how moms who experienced emotional neglect in childhood can still become attuned and responsive to their children's needs. She explores the reasons behind the challenges these moms face and offers practical tips for developing emotional attunement. Through self-awareness and emotional literacy, Danik provides a compassionate r...

Welcome back to another episode of the Healing Mothers’ Club! In today's episode, we explore the often overwhelming experience of summer, especially for those without the support of an extended family. Danik shares insights on dealing with the feelings of isolation and deception that many moms face when summer doesn't meet their idealized expectations. From managing overstimulation and anxiety to...

Hello and welcome to the Healing Mothers’ Club podcast! I’m your host, Danik Bernier, and today I’m addressing a topic that's been highly requested by listeners and Instagram followers: experiencing anger as a mom with childhood trauma. Listen as I explain why anger is a taboo subject, why moms who are childhood trauma survivors might have a really hard time expressing healthy anger, and what to d...

Welcome back to the Healing Mothers’ Club with Danik Bernier! In today's episode, we dive into a topic every mom grapples with: Are my child's tantrums normal? And what should I do if they seem to last longer than expected? As we continue day 5 of our 7-day mini-series on self-regulation for moms, we'll explore: Understanding typical vs. concerning tantrum behavior through a trauma-focused lens. T...

Today on "Healing Mothers' Club", your host Danik Bernier talks about the type of trauma that most often leads moms to not be able to be completely attuned with their kids and to not be able to provide the co-regulation their kids need when they have big feelings. The goal of this episode is not to say that there is a type of trauma that is worse than others, but to explain the fact that was chron...

Hello and welcome to the Healing Mothers’ Club podcast! I’m your host, Danik Bernier, and today I’m explaining why most parenting courses out there fail moms with trauma. Unfortunately, most moms can perceive that it is THEM failing at implementing what they are learning in the parenting course they bought, but it's not them. It's the prescriptive parenting methods used. Self-Regulation for Moms m...

Hello and welcome to the Healing Mothers’ Club podcast! I’m your host, Danik Bernier, and today we're kick starting a mini series to celebrate the launch of my new online masterclass, Self-Regulation for Moms . Click here to get to the course! Today I explain why I would have needed self-regulation techniques as a mom myself (even though I'm a trained therapist) : ·     &n...