TOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships

If you've been feeling like you are not strong enough to conquer this jealousy thing or you just dont have what it takes to change your life around, I'm here to tell you, that's not it.  That's not why so stop beating yourself up.  You may just being going about it in the wrong way. In this episode, Shanenn talks about the struggles of managing jealousy and insecurity despite t...

Ever been caught in the whirlwind of 'should I or shouldn't I?' when it comes to relationships? This episode takes a deep dive into the life-changing realization that the real question isn't about what to do, but about who you want to be. Do you want to be a jealous, anxious person or someone who trusts and opens their heart? Tune in to learn how settling your internal chaos ca...

The one thing I hear so much is how ashamed you are about being jealous, it actually even affects the growth of this podcast because you don't share it with your friends and family because you don't want them to know you're this way.   But I know you don't want to be this way and I also know that unfortunately you feel as ashamed and judgement because people will say your crazy...

In this episode of the Top Self podcast, I talk with Michelle Brown, a functional nutrition and lifestyle practitioner with a specialty in the biology of trauma. Michelle explains how trauma affects the body's nervous system and the importance of addressing both mind and body to heal.  This episode is a good reminder that other factors are at play within our body when it comes to jealousy and...

In this episode, master financial coaches, Shana and Vanessa, who co-host the Financial Coaching for Women podcast, which ranks in the top 1.5% worldwide and stays in the top 10 "How To" podcasts on Apple in the US AND they are on Top Self today to discuss how financial transparency and trust are crucial in relationships.  Backed by five years of hands-on experience as financial coaches...

If you are someone who is a recovering alcoholic or thinking about getting sober, you're in the right place my friend.  Addiction is tough and I have seen it throughout my family and others families and it can be so destructive.  Join myself and Rachel Harrison as she talks a bit about her recovery, how she is different today in many ways other than just being sober.  I hope this episode can...

Today is heavy and you may feel called out a bit and it just might feel uncomfortable.  Just like jealousy, this topic may feel shameful too but you are not alone in this either.   I'm talking about cheating and not your partner cheating... you cheating.  I'll cover possible reasons this might be something you do or have done in the past. Its a short one but I hear it enough and I know y...

I am flying solo in today's episode and wanted to discuss just a few takeaways from my last guest Topaz Adizes and our conversation about the questions we ask and why we ask them. It's a quick dump episode but an important one when it comes to communicating with our partners and the reassurance questions we ask over and over again. Schedule your FREE Discovery Cal l to see how I can help...

Feel like your asking the same questions over and over again to your partner?  Does it seem like you already know what you want the answer to be?  Wonder why your conversations often seem to escalate when you ask your burning question?  Is your partner getting a little on the defensive side and maybe feel like their back is against the wall when answering. It's very possible we're not as...

This episode includes LIFE CHANGING information from Thais Gibson, that years from now, you're going to remember listening to it and know it was the pivotal moment that set you on a path of transformation.   As a leading figure in personal development, Thais is the co-founder of the Personal Development School and an expert in attachment theory.  Wonder why no matter how much you tell yoursel...

I absolutely can't stand it when I hear people say "you have to just get over it". Or especially things like.. you're crazy, or you're nuts when they are referring to you being jealous.   There is such a stigma around "being jealous" that people seem to just have no tolerance for.  Yes, I understand it is not healthy, yes I understand its not something to pass of...

Schedule your FREE, 30-minute Discovery Cal l to see how I can help. You've been told to "Think Positive" so many times in your life and this could be keeping you stuck.  According to my guest today, Dr. Eddie O'Connor, a clinical psychologist and host of 'The Psychology of Performance', shares his insights on the detrimental effects of positive thinking when misappli...

Every time you catch yourself nagging from here on out, you're going to remember this episode. I have such a FIRE guest today.  Dr. Abby Medcalf, a relationship expert, psychologist, author, podcast host, and TEDx speaker and she delivers some hard core truths in her very no-nonsense kind of way and one of them is... Don't Have A Victim Mentality Remember your mom saying, you're dri...

The Trust Building Bootcamp is starting soon and if you haven't joined yet, you want to listen to this episode. I had in my head that if there had been something like this available for me when I was going through my jealousy and seeking resources, I would have jumped all over it.  And then... just as we learn to do with jealousy, I questioned that thought.  Would I have?  Would I have signed...

Trigger Warning.... sorta.... Not only is she Oxford trained smart, she's beautiful as well.  The talented Katarina Polonska is my guest today and she's talking about the most important relationship of all.  The relationship you have with yourself.  She shares: the importance of trusting oneself  how to start building a healthy relationship with yourself the pivotal role of attachment th...

In a world constantly bombarding us with images of youth and perfection, navigating getting older can sometimes feel quite frankly... sad.  Dr. Mary Alice Mina, a Harvard-trained dermatologist and I talk about the entire spectrum from changes in our bodies to shifts in our mindset, and how embracing all of it requires a balance of self-care and self-acceptance . She shares: her thoughts on cosmeti...

Sizzle, sizzle!  This is a hot topic and one I hear a lot of drama around and it makes perfect sense of why the ex or mother of your partner's child might be a area of insecurity for you. I tackle the sensitive topics of dealing with ex-partners and the dynamics they play in your relationship try to get you to reconsider how much information needs to be shared about past relationships share a...

Do you remember the last time you got ready to go somewhere, an event, or to work or to church, or just to hang out with your friends and you felt really good about the way you looked.  Like you maybe even said to yourself, I feel good, I look good?   It's not about how you look but about how you FEEL and today's guest is an expert at making women feel good about themselves both inside a...

I know you have a million thoughts going on in your head right now so before you click "play" on this episode really commit to listening to it with as little amount of distractions as possible because in this episode of the Top Self Podcast, I am talking with  wellness practitioner Heather Lillico about strategies for managing anxiety, particularly for overthinkers, perfectionists, and p...

A couple weeks ago, my guest Dr. Corey Allen dropped 2 mind-shifting, bombs on the podcast and I was worried that maybe you were in anxiety mode with a swirl of thoughts running through your mind as you were listening and might have missed them.  So, I decided to do a whole episode on the 2 nuggets so this time, you really need to concentrate and let it sink in. Here's a run down of the highl...

I have a major crush on what today's guest is doing.  She is working on a treatment module for trust.  Thank goodness for people like clinical psychologist. Shannon Sauer-Zavala.  She talks about understanding the function of behavior and that there's a reason you're thinking the way you do. Because people think about trust in a black and white way, she shares a trust exercise calle...

As most of us Jealousy Junkies are clinging on to our partners.   Marriage and Sex Therapist Dr. Corey Allen says... a couple's problems could be a result of them being too close.  Not leaving room for individuality.  I thought this was a really important message I wanted you to hear because it isn't smothering in the way we make it out to be... it means there is too tight of a grip for...

It's so good to be back in the swing of things and to do a solo episode with you.  The exercise I share with you in today's episode is one I did as I was starting to notice improvements in myself with my jealousy and I wanted to share it with you.   You have to DO the work not just hear about it so make sure to go the show notes or to topself.com/evaluation and download the worksheet to...

Ever wanted to get inside the mind of a couples therapist and ask questions?  Well, in today's episode, I took full advantage of having the great couples therapist, Dr. Bruce Chalmer on and I asked some burning questions for you like: How to get your partner to go to therapy when they don't want to What's the first thing you would do if you were working with a couple with jealousy i...

Today I interview bestselling author, psychologist and happiness coach, Dr. Jisunny Fisher about how to face the fear of the unknown and unpredictable.  Dr. Fisher talks about the human inclination towards avoiding pain over pursuing pleasure and the neural evolution of the human brain into three parts - reptilian, mammalian and human - and how specific fears are associated with each part. She wal...