TOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with thought habit strategist and author Amy Kemp to unpack one of the most damaging patterns women struggle with—tying our self-worth to performance. From subconscious thought loops to resentment signals, Amy shares the surprising truth behind why we feel exhausted, unseen, and over-obligated—and what we can do to reclaim our identity and energy. If...

In this episode of Top Self , Shanenn sits down with clinical psychologist and gratitude expert Dr. Peggy DeLong known as The Gratitude Psychologist to explore how gratitude can be a lifeline in life’s hardest seasons. Whether you’re navigating grief, anxiety, or emotional overwhelm, Peggy shares the science and soul behind why gratitude is most powerful on your worst days not your best . From the...

In this episode of Top Self , Shanenn sits down with psychologist, leadership advisor, and author Bob Rosen to explore what it really means to let go—not of people, but of the stories, fears, and beliefs that silently run your life. Whether you’re obsessively checking your partner’s texts, chasing success but never feeling satisfied, or stuck in pain from your past, Bob’s message is clear: your at...

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with relationship and communication expert Dr. Jessica Higgins to unpack one of the sneakiest relationship saboteurs: criticism.   Whether you’re nitpicking over the garage door or bottling resentment until it explodes, criticism can quietly damage your emotional connection. Dr. Higgins breaks down why we criticize, how it's often tied to fear, i...

In this powerful episode of Top Self, host Shanenn Bryant sits down with Leah Lemberg, who shares her remarkable journey from growing up in an alcoholic home to becoming 16 years sober and helping others transform their lives. From IV drug use at 18 to finding sobriety and purpose, Leah's story offers hope and practical wisdom for anyone struggling with addiction, unhealthy patterns, or leade...

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with Dr. Greg Stewart, counselor, executive coach, and author to explore why insecurity might be the most valuable emotion we experience. Dr. Stewart shares his powerful framework for understanding emotional triggers and reveals how owning our insecurities can be the key to personal freedom. From his concept of "the house of your heart" to p...

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn sits down with Dr. Rachel Glik, a licensed professional counselor with over 30 years of experience as a couples and individual therapist. Dr. Glik shares insights from her new book "Soulful Marriage: Healing your Relationship with Responsibility, Growth, Priority, and Purpose," offering her thoughts on how to nurture lasting love and embrace conflict...

🤣 🤣  Get ready to laugh your way through relationship real talk!  In this episode, we're joined by the hilarious duo from the "We're Not Fine" podcast - relationship therapist Dr. Talia Jackson and Doug Jensen - for an unfiltered discussion about those "Is this normal?" relationship questions. Shanenn, Talia, and Doug dive into: The great memorabilia debate: Is it o...

❤️ The Date Doctor is Here! In this episode of Top Self, we sit down with Dr. Christie Kederian, renowned relationship therapist, former eHarmony matchmaker, and author of the upcoming book "Ten Dates to Your Soulmate." Dr. K shares her expert insights on building healthy relationships, understanding family dynamics, and navigating the modern dating landscape with authenticity and purpos...

In this powerful episode, Shanenn opens up about childhood trauma and how it shapes our relationship behaviors through hypervigilance. Episode Highlights The development of hypervigilance as a childhood survival skill How childhood experiences with alcoholic parents can create heightened threat detection systems Why hypervigilance often gets mistaken for good intuition The physical and emotional t...

Wanna know the science behind being happier?  Check out this week's episode with Tedx speaker and happiness expert Tia Graham. Tia Graham shares some powerful stuff about choosing happiness, managing triggers, and transforming childhood trauma.  From practical happiness frameworks to deeply personal stories about motherhood and healing, this episode is jammed packed with valuable tools for an...

Ever caught yourself having a meltdown or giving your partner the cold shoulder because you're feeling insecure? (Been there, done that!)    In this follow-up to our conversation with Dr. Brittany McGeehan, we're going in hard on a game-changing truth: the only person who can't abandon you is yourself.    Get ready for some fiery talk about self-trust, validation-seeking, and why yo...

This episode is fire! 🔥 In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn talks with Dr. Brittany McGeehan, who dropped a major truth bomb that made her stop everything: You’ll have to hit play to hear it.  This may be the only thing you need to hear today!    Dr. McGeehan, a licensed psychologist and performance coach specializing in empowering high-achieving female CEOs, shares the "Drama Triangle&quot...

Shanenn understands how deeply our patterns are embedded in every corner of our existence. It turns out that relationship anxiety isn't just an isolated phenomenon – it's part of a larger tapestry of how we navigate life's complexities. What We're Diving Into: The revelation that your inner critic has apparently developed a rather impressive portfolio, showing up everywhere in...

What will you be thinking ONE YEAR from now? Will it be the same thoughts you're having today?  Will you're focus be on the same things? In this episode, we explore how your life could look totally different one year from now and why your thoughts might be your biggest obstacle to change. Shanenn gives an example of what she calls "heavy thinking" or better known as a thought s...

🎁  Only a few days left to claim your "Pay-What-You-Can" Coaching Session with me. This episode talks about the crucial difference between guilt and shame, and why one might be secretly sabotaging your relationship growth. Shanenn shares: • How guilt is like your relationship GPS - letting you know when you've made a wrong turn, while shame is more like a brick wall blocking all po...

Do you enjoy how you're currently spending your time?  Do you feel like you use your time wisely?  When I am insecure and jealous, I don't!   When you're feeling jealous, most likely you are spending your very precious time thinking about your partner rather than spending it on things that bring you joy, not a stomach ache. In this episode, Shanenn and Dr. Adam Dorsay talk about the...

Ever felt like you're starring in your own personal soap opera where every relationship ends with infidelity? Host Shanenn Bryant unpacks her own journey from "everyone cheats on me" to "huh, maybe I should check my math" in this eye-opening episode. Key Takeaways: A shocking 50% of our memories aren't even accurate (Thanks, Dr. Joe Dispenza, for this incredibly eye-o...

Ever catch yourself saying "just so you know, I know what you COULD be doing" to your partner... even when you're pretty sure they're innocent? In this episode, Shanenn's calling you out when she gets into why we sometimes choose accusation over acceptance, even when our rational brain is screaming the obvious. THE HEART OF IT The moment your logical brain offers the truth...

🎙️ Where my freaks at?  Control Freaks that is.      In this episode, we dive deep with psychologist and author Joanna Kleinman to unpack why that voice in your head is working harder than a barista during morning rush hour.    Shanenn and Joanna talk about:   How your inner critic is just like the mean girl at school when you were growing up and she's been messing with you since you lost you...

In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn's guest, award-winning psychologist Dr. Courtney Warren opens up about her own struggles with relationship insecurity and shares her thoughts about the lies we tell ourselves. From crying when her college boyfriend went out with friends to becoming an expert on self-deception, Dr. Warren's personal journey and professional wisdom offer hope for anyone...

Feel like your relationship is hanging on by a thread?  Do you wonder if too much damage has been done to the relationship?  I was there too but you can turn things around.  Your relationship can recover from this, but it's might take you going against how you normally feel after an argument to make a difference.  It may take you recovering quickly instead of letting the shame and guilt of yo...

🎉 Special Announcement: Join our FREE Two-Day Self-Discovery Workshop! Dates: November 4th & 5th at 1:00 pm ET Register at: topself.com/workshop I'm talking about you on this week's episode.  The REAL you.  Often we think we have to transform into someone else to overcome jealousy and insecurity and that seems like a huge feat to become your future self you want to be. However, you...

Feeling needy?  Do you feel like you're high-maintenance and your constantly asking for things from your partner to make you feel better? It has everything to do with your core wounds and your relationship to self.  In this episode, Shanenn share's her acronym S.E.L.F to learn how to identify your personality needs and how to self-source those needs. She shares the importance of becoming...

How we attach in relationships is everything!  That's why we talk about it so much on the podcast and this episode is full of attachment style nuggets you're not going to want to miss.  This week, Shanenn has none other than licensed marriage and family therapist and attachment coach Jessica DaSilva.  Jessica not only shares her own experiences as a former fearful avoidant but discussed...