To All the Men I've Tolerated Before

For this episode, Natalie is joined by the host of the podcast Secret Life, Brianne Davis. Brianne has over 12 years of recovery experience with sex and love addiction and is the author of Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex Addict. Her and Natalie discuss how triggers present themselves in our normal society and how that affects you when you are recovering from codependency, love, or sex addiction. Th...

To All the Men I’ve Tolerated Before is on a summer vacay! In the meantime, we will be posting episodes of our livestream collaboration with Pop Culture Makes Me Jealous. Still Comfy? is an in-depth look at our favorite comfort shows and movies. After a conversation about the themes presented in the selected show, we then discuss how the show holds up against our Tolerator and Jelly Pops morals an...

Natalie is joined by voice actress Maria Pendolino to talk about her 97 first online dates and how it speaks to our current culture. The women discuss dating trends and how they fit within those trends whether it be with their big personalities, their looks, or their expectations for their dates. They touch on how their strategies for online dating have changed through their experiences and how at...

Still Comfy? is an in-depth look at our favorite comfort shows and movies. After a conversation about the themes presented in the selected movie, we discuss how the movie holds up against our Tolerator and Jelly Pops morals and viewpoints. Enjoy our review of the 1998 movie Armageddon starring Bruce Willis, Ben Affleck, and Liv Tyler. Nat and Jules set out to answer the question, could anyone call...

Natalie is joined by sex educator Erica Smith to talk about how our obsession with purity culture affects the quality of sex education we are given. Sex education should be something that is delivered to people without bias and without the idea that virginity and religion should be at the center of your sexual identity. Erica is the creator of the Purity Culture Dropout program that aims to provid...

Still Comfy? is an in-depth look at our favorite comfort shows and movies. After a conversation about the themes presented in the selected movie, we discuss how the movie holds up against our Tolerator and Jelly Pops morals and viewpoints. Enjoy our review of the 1998 movie The Parent Trap starring Lindsay Lohan, Dennis Quaid, and Natasha Richardson. Nat and Jules set out to answer the question, w...

This Summer Break Replay is in honor of Taylor Swift owning her entire music catalogue. f you haven’t heard, Natalie went to the Eras Tour. That means she has been doing a deep dive on her favorite songs from Taylor Swift. Which means that she has also been reflecting on how misogyny plays into the songs she has written and how widespread everyday misogyny is reflected throughout Taylor’s career....

We have a Summer Break Flashback this week! This felt important given all the information I've been seeing on how tariffs will affect indie boardgame publishers. Kervin of For Why Games joins Natalie to talk about his experiences advocating for diversity within board game development. He explains the steps and measures he took to create his first game, Allow Me to Mansplain and the ways he intenti...

Hey Team Tolerator! We are officially on our summer break for 2025 and will be returning with new episodes in the fall. This week, we are giving you a sneak peek of our Misogyny Meltdown series! In this excerpt, Julia Washington and Alrinthea Carter joined us to talk about the women in historical film that just deserved better. You can see the video for this interview, as well as the rest of the f...

This year marked ten years of Bravo’s Southern Charm, where we get a glimpse at the lives of southern gentlemen and their ever present Peter Pan Syndrome. Annie Sieg returns as our reality tv historian to break down all the ways the men of Southern Charm reflect the misogyny we experience in our culture. The episode will cover Katherine Dennis, southern culture, Shep finally getting told he gives...

Julia Washington ( Prose and Glow ) and Natalie are dissecting their complicated feelings on Best Picture winner, Anora. Anora is written and directed by Sean Baker and tells the story of an exotic dancer named Ani who after a whirlwind couple of days finds herself married and then divorced by a Russian wealthy man named Vanya. This episode will cover what fell flat for both women when it came to...

Toni Powell is a music composer who just released her classical music composition, The Mourning After. She and Natalie will discuss misogyny’s effect on the art of music as well as the classical music genre. Discussion points will include the way people talk about creative pursuits, capitalism’s effect on art, how colonization and white supremacy affected art and culture, and what it is like for T...

Hi Barbie! This week Natalie and Julia Washington are combining their forces to talk about The Barbie movie. Each woman delves into their special relationship and memories they have with Barbie. They then decide it is time to come out of hiding and join the discourse and discussion following Greta Geriwg’s film. The episode will revolve around the movie serving as an awareness piece on everyday mi...

Hassan Khan joins Natalie on the show to talk about growing up as a queer person in a Muslim household. Natalie and Hassan will share experiences of growing up in a time where homophobia was more insidious in schools and homes, even when it was subtle. They will speak on how their families shaped their experiences and viewpoints on things like queer culture and how they still found ways to learn a...

Author Rae Wilde joins Natalie to have a conversation about her book I Do Not Apologize for My Position on Men and what drew her to writing stories surrounding sapphic women and the horror genre. The two women will delve into the real life horrors that women experience that create inspiration for the fiction they’re both interested in. There will be discussion surrounding heteronormativity, toxic...

Alrinthea Carter and Natalie have two huge things in common, they are both eldest daughters in their families and capricorns. Eldest daughters are known for having a high sense of responsibility and a need to please those around them. Capricorns are the astrological signs that are most known for being loyal, ambitious, and hardworking. Natalie and Alrinthea will go through key moments in their liv...

Natalie is joined this week by Shohreh Davoodi, author of the weekly newsletter The Queer Agenda, self-trust coach, and host of Conjuring Up Courage . The women have a heartfelt conversation on all the ways women were conditioned to not listen to their guts or trust what their bodies were thinking, their hearts were feeling, or their brains were thinking. Shohreh will go through her experience wit...

Shanaz from our Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders episode is back to talk about the world of Playboy. Natalie and Shanaz will continue their discussion about industries that are built on the beauty and work of women and how the toll on the women employed by these organizations is not reflected in their pay or treatment. There will be some light history on Playboy, a walk down memory lane with The Girls N...

Julia Washington is back on the pod to talk about her small business, Prose and Glow . This episode gives insight on what urged Natalie and Julia into looking for alternatives outside of their normal job markets and their feelings about the current professional landscape. Julia will also give us an inside look at the systems put into place that do not help small business owners and how being a sin...

Chris DeRosa ( Fixing Famous People ) is on the podcast answering for himself because he made Natalie upgrade her Netflix account to watch It Ends with Us. It Ends with Us is the 2024 movie starring Blake Lively and Justin Baldoni (or is it Bologna?) that depicts an abusive relationship between a woman named Lily Blossom Bloom and her neurosurgeon husband Ryle. Natalie and Chris will dive into whe...

Julia Washington ( Pop Culture Makes Me Jealous ) is back this week to discuss how misogyny makes it incredibly hard for women and other marginalized groups to experience joy. Natalie and Julia discuss how women’s hobbies and interests aren’t taken seriously and how happiness has been weaponized against women making them feel uncomfortable when they are experiencing pride within themselves. Other...

Natalie is joined by Susan Lieu to discuss what led her to writing her book, The Manicurist’s Daughter, and creating her one woman show, 140 LBS: How Beauty Killed My Mother. After Susan’s mother died of a complication during her tummy tuck surgery, Susan was left with a family that wanted to remain silent on her mother’s death and how her family was forever changed. Natalie and Susan will use exa...

Noelle Cope (Sapphic Representation In Media ep ) is back to talk to Natalie about the abundant joy of being a bi-sexual woman. Natalie and Noelle will talk on the nuanced differences between dating men compared to dating women. Noelle will give some insight on what would make Natalie brave enough to approach women to date and the two women plan out their perfect bi-dates. And of course, we will d...

Beyonce won album of the year for 2025! Alrinthea Carter and Julia Washington joined Natalie back in December to do a deep dive on country music, Beyonce’s career, and their feelings about different tracks of Cowboy Carter. There will be discussion on the role black people played in creating country music, what themes of the female experience are prevalent in the songs, and how Beyonce has inspire...

We will be replaying our episode on the Four Fear Responses this week! I am hoping that this episode will make you feel less alone if you are currently experiencing a lot of fear responses over the news, our current trying times, or anything else you may be going through. Hopefully if we can identify when our body is in a fear response, it can help us affirm ourselves and our feelings. Am I actual...